Wanna get married? - Page 3

wildzerica06 · 09-02-2006, 12:19 PM

hm.. okay I don't really care about marriage and all but I'm just living my life to the fullest at this moment

Liebling:-))) · 09-02-2006, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by SmileyGin

but if child is still a minor.. everything and the child will go to grandparents if they never married.. not the unmarried widowed parent will keep. unless the person did have a WILL. that was sealed by the clerk with signatures.. then it will go the unmarried person and the child's

Yes, that´s right.

Everything will go to the parents of unmarried partners as next kin automatic when one of partners died. If unmarried couple together has a child then everything is still go to the parents of unmarried partner until a child is 18 years old.

If couple who don´t want to get married then check with lawyer or Notary about legal. Important to do Will with Notary or Lawyer to be safety. Yes I know that there´re cons and pros about unmarried and married couple but the legal about unmarried is bit worst.

Liebling:-))) · 09-02-2006, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by diehardbiker65

M Y T H!!!

Who told you that?

No, it´s not myth. I would suggest you to check with Notary.

Freaky Cat · 09-02-2006, 02:49 PM

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Originally Posted by diehardbiker65

M Y T H!!!

Who told you that?

my bro in law told me this.. i was like thats interesting..

i thought if i died.. the father will get custody of TJ.. but no.. my mom will cuz she is the next kin.. the father doesnt? .. but shes not fit to take care of TJ.. so i better have will drawn up in case i died.. so father will get custody of TJ.. but right now he have temp custody of TJ but i am trying to get TJ back..

BearBeauty · 09-21-2006, 01:12 PM

I can understand the trust issue... I had that problem with my ex husband. He didn't trust me and it was obvious during our divorce because when we went in front of the judge, I told him I wanted nothing from my ex. He thought I would ask for money like alimony.. but I didn't because I knew he didn't have the money.. so i just asked for a clean break, ya know?

Not everyone is as willing to make a clean break.. and I feel that everyone should make a clean break of divorces. I don't believe alimony should even exist.. but that's just my opinion.

diehardbiker · 09-21-2006, 01:28 PM

Biological parents always get first unless court deem biological parent unfit,then they would look for next kin. And that grandma falls on it.

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Originally Posted by SmileyGin

my bro in law told me this.. i was like thats interesting..

i thought if i died.. the father will get custody of TJ.. but no.. my mom will cuz she is the next kin.. the father doesnt? .. but shes not fit to take care of TJ.. so i better have will drawn up in case i died.. so father will get custody of TJ.. but right now he have temp custody of TJ but i am trying to get TJ back..

Freaky Cat · 09-21-2006, 01:30 PM

yeah but we are not married.. never was? so it will go to my mom as she have power over my stuffs and TJ of course.. (that is if i ever get him back.. ha.. )

SxyPorkie · 09-21-2006, 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by LakeTahoe

Right! Why pay so much money on wedding/repections then honeymoon etc Also wife have to change new DL, SSN card, etc...waste of time to me. And if marriage isn't work out, end up diorvoce and cost more money. Forget it!

Just be with GF/BF, BF/BF or GF/GF if relationship isn't work out, then is there any cost? Nope! Only if you both own house, sell it and split in hlaf.

Yeah.. it is cheap to get married but expensive to get divorce...thats old sayings...

Freaky Cat · 09-21-2006, 02:51 PM

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Originally Posted by SxyPorkie

Yeah.. it is cheap to get married but expensive to get divorce...thats old sayings...

i think getting married is expensive than get a divorce.. it can go over 2 thousand dollars.. on receptions, wedding gown, tuxedos, rehearsal dinners, and so on..of course for a fancy wedding.. whereas the divorce only cost 500 dollars to 1,000 dollars.. thats it? hmm..

but if it come to simple wedding.. then its different story.. prolly cheaper than the divorce then.. ha.. i guess it depend on people's choices? heh

EDGE · 09-22-2006, 09:55 AM

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Originally Posted by LakeTahoe

Right! Why pay so much money on wedding/repections then honeymoon etc Also wife have to change new DL, SSN card, etc...waste of time to me. And if marriage isn't work out, end up diorvoce and cost more money. Forget it!

Just be with GF/BF, BF/BF or GF/GF if relationship isn't work out, then is there any cost? Nope! Only if you both own house, sell it and split in hlaf.

don't have to spend honeymoon, and other stuff on wedding. Can have simple marriage, if spouse agree.

BearBeauty · 09-22-2006, 10:29 AM

Smiley.. My wedding cost 6,000 dollars.. My divorce cost 60 dollars.. Umm... I'd say divorce is cheaper than weddings

Maria · 09-22-2006, 10:30 AM

Well, I do believe in marriage, but divorce ? That depends on in the long run if, both husband and wife works it out by givin' some compromises to each other. One can't have everythin'. Share is somethin' that needs to be workin' on and also, trust via communication. I know sometimes, bein' a single is awesome, but sometimes a person needs some affectionate, too such as kissin', holdin' hands, huggin' and all that ( not to mention about " bedroom "

I will put that away in the drawer. )

It is a wise to wait a little bit longer before you can move on to a " marriage " issue. Get to know each other really good first before both of couple can make up their minds what their hearts tell them.

LakeTahoe · 09-22-2006, 10:37 AM

You forgot something....honeymoon too. (sometime it is a gift from parents/family, sometimes you pay yourself for the trip)

Anyway also you forgot important thing...if couple is getting divorce and have kids..it'll cost WAY more than the wedding worth!!!

Some couple do agree to share custosy, some agree have visit right, etc. It'll be less headahce than fight in the court and it cost alot of money.

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Originally Posted by SmileyGin

i think getting married is expensive than get a divorce.. it can go over 2 thousand dollars.. on receptions, wedding gown, tuxedos, rehearsal dinners, and so on..of course for a fancy wedding.. whereas the divorce only cost 500 dollars to 1,000 dollars.. thats it? hmm..

but if it come to simple wedding.. then its different story.. prolly cheaper than the divorce then.. ha.. i guess it depend on people's choices? heh

Cheri · 09-22-2006, 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by diehardbiker

Biological parents always get first unless court deem biological parent unfit,then they would look for next kin. And that grandma falls on it.

Not true, If the mother raise the child has custody, herself and the father isn't in the picture the mother has the right to place the child anywhere she wants the child to go to when she dies, It has to be on a living will.

When I die, my boys are not going to their father, They're going to my family.

Cheri · 09-22-2006, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by LakeTahoe

Anyway also you forgot important thing...if couple is getting divorce and have kids..it'll cost WAY more than the wedding worth!!!

No it does not, Both of my sisters are divorce with kids, it cost less in divorce than it is to be married.

LakeTahoe · 09-22-2006, 10:46 AM

ONLY IF couple are battle for KIDS, then it will be a long run who win the custody of kids! That invovle a lot of money. If the couple agreed in many ways without battle/fight, it will go smooth!

My friend tried to get her boys back but lost and gave them up to her parent to raise them. And she said cost WAY a lot than her divorce!! WHY? Her ex refused to have the boys to stay with their mom!!!

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Originally Posted by Cheri

No it does not, Both of my sisters are divorce with kids, it cost less in divorce than it is to be married.

Cheri · 09-22-2006, 10:49 AM

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Originally Posted by LakeTahoe

ONLY IF couple are battle for KIDS! If they agreed, it will go smooth!

Well, Sorry to burst your bubbles here, You think my sister and her ex husband did not battle over the kids? They fought right and left, and my sister won.

LakeTahoe · 09-22-2006, 10:55 AM

It is DEPEND on who. I am not speaking of your sister. IN general! My friend lost a lot of money because of it. And she decided to give up her boys to her parent. Of course boys know that. And they do keep in touch and visit. Now they are almost grown up and going to college. Now she only have one left, a girl (different father). She told me nasty stories and I was like uuugghhh. I felt so sorry for her.

I am speaking of in GENERAL. I know not all cases are same..all are different.

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Originally Posted by Cheri

Well, Sorry to burst your bubbles here, You think my sister and her ex husband did not battle over the kids? They fought right and left, and my sister won.

Cheri · 09-22-2006, 11:00 AM

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Originally Posted by LakeTahoe

It is DEPEND on who. I am not speaking of your sister. IN general! My friend lost a lot of money because of it. And she decided to give up her boys to her parent. Of course boys know that. And they do keep in touch and visit. Now they are almost grown up and going to college. Now she only have one left, a girl (different father). She told me nasty stories and I was like uuugghhh. I felt so sorry for her.

I am speaking of in GENERAL. I know not all cases are same..all are different.

You should had stated that right at the begin, Instead you jumped right on SmileyGin, when she is speaking the truth that it does happen in some cases when you said it doesn't. Now it depends on each person, on their case and their reasons beyond it all.

LakeTahoe · 09-22-2006, 11:17 AM

I am speaking of in general.

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Originally Posted by LakeTahoe

You forgot something....honeymoon too. (sometime it is a gift from parents/family, sometimes you pay yourself for the trip)

Anyway also you forgot important thing...if couple is getting divorce and have kids..it'll cost WAY more than the wedding worth!!!

Some couple do agree to share custosy, some agree have visit right, etc. It'll be less headahce than fight in the court and it cost alot of money.

***Jolie77*** · 09-22-2006, 11:34 AM

Ok Girls, Let's tone it down a little bit and I'd hate to see some claws coming out there to result in a catfight

Anyhoo, Of course each and every case/situation are different. Some case are easy to be dealt with but some cases has a long, ugly battle that keeps dragging on for years and years. If a divorce resulted in a no-contest, it usually is much easier and less costly when both sides make an agreement.

In my experience, the divorce cost was way much less than a wedding itself. Thank god for the no-contest divorce or I probably would end up much worse.

Cheri · 09-22-2006, 11:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Jolie_77

Ok Girls, Let's tone it down a little bit and I'd hate to see some claws coming out there to result in a catfight

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Freaky Cat · 09-22-2006, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by LakeTahoe

You forgot something....honeymoon too. (sometime it is a gift from parents/family, sometimes you pay yourself for the trip)

Anyway also you forgot important thing...if couple is getting divorce and have kids..it'll cost WAY more than the wedding worth!!!

Some couple do agree to share custosy, some agree have visit right, etc. It'll be less headahce than fight in the court and it cost alot of money.

i did say AND SO ON....

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i think getting married is expensive than get a divorce.. it can go over 2 thousand dollars.. on receptions, wedding gown, tuxedos, rehearsal dinners, and so on..

i didn't forget that.. lol

i wasnt talking about kids.. i was talking about marriage and divorce in general.. some dont have kids? some have kids.. so it depend on each case.. its always different.. not all are same! so like i said how expensive between marriage and divorce in general.. not kids.. ok?

LakeTahoe · 09-22-2006, 11:59 AM

OH ok ok...

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Originally Posted by SmileyGin

i did say AND SO ON....
i didn't forget that.. lol

i wasnt talking about kids.. i was talking about marriage and divorce in general..

09-21-2006, 01:30 PM	#67 (permalink)
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09-22-2006, 11:34 AM	#81 (permalink)
*Jolie77* Love all, trust a few. Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Kentucky, USA (The Bluegrass State) Posts: 5,508	Ok Girls, Let's tone it down a little bit and I'd hate to see some claws coming out there to result in a catfight Anyhoo, Of course each and every case/situation are different. Some case are easy to be dealt with but some cases has a long, ugly battle that keeps dragging on for years and years. If a divorce resulted in a no-contest, it usually is much easier and less costly when both sides make an agreement. In my experience, the divorce cost was way much less than a wedding itself. Thank god for the no-contest divorce or I probably would end up much worse. __________________

09-02-2006, 12:19 PM	#61 (permalink)
wildzerica06 -Erica- Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: california Posts: 4,160 Blog Entries: 2	hm.. okay I don't really care about marriage and all but I'm just living my life to the fullest at this moment

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09-21-2006, 01:12 PM	#65 (permalink)
BearBeauty Registered User Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 818	I can understand the trust issue... I had that problem with my ex husband. He didn't trust me and it was obvious during our divorce because when we went in front of the judge, I told him I wanted nothing from my ex. He thought I would ask for money like alimony.. but I didn't because I knew he didn't have the money.. so i just asked for a clean break, ya know? Not everyone is as willing to make a clean break.. and I feel that everyone should make a clean break of divorces. I don't believe alimony should even exist.. but that's just my opinion.

09-22-2006, 10:29 AM	#71 (permalink)
BearBeauty Registered User Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 818	Smiley.. My wedding cost 6,000 dollars.. My divorce cost 60 dollars.. Umm... I'd say divorce is cheaper than weddings

09-22-2006, 10:30 AM	#72 (permalink)
Maria My love and I Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: FLORIDA Posts: 8,725	Well, I do believe in marriage, but divorce ? That depends on in the long run if, both husband and wife works it out by givin' some compromises to each other. One can't have everythin'. Share is somethin' that needs to be workin' on and also, trust via communication. I know sometimes, bein' a single is awesome, but sometimes a person needs some affectionate, too such as kissin', holdin' hands, huggin' and all that ( not to mention about " bedroom " I will put that away in the drawer. ) It is a wise to wait a little bit longer before you can move on to a " marriage " issue. Get to know each other really good first before both of couple can make up their minds what their hearts tell them.