Do you believe in second chances?

Marj · 04-16-2003, 12:49 PM

Hi!

I was cheated on for so long before I built up some guts to tell him off and to quit cheating on me. He didn't seem to care that he was hurting me so I f-k'ed him over and grabbed a next boyfriend to prove him that I am not going to wait around for him...

That's part of a story from my diary. It was written over a year ago. Now I'm with him again and life has been great. Tis all because I gave him a second chance.

Do you believe in second chances?

LUNZ · 04-16-2003, 12:54 PM

Once cheat, always cheat = Once hurt, always pain the ass!

Follow your heart.

ChelEler · 04-16-2003, 12:55 PM

Yes, I believe in second chance. I was given second chance when I was in High School. Whew. Long story and I don't want to talk about it again. Sorry. But anyway, I do believe in it. It's like a warning to me. If my boys do something "bad" or anything like that... like "lying to me" or "stealing and not telling me," I warn them and give them only one more chance to see if they learned something about it. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't work. If it doesn't work, I take away what they want.

About second chance with relationship, I have never had that experience before because I knew I found my guy and I'm married to him.

Marj · 04-16-2003, 07:08 PM

how sweet! i think i found my guy too

allisonjoy · 04-16-2003, 07:26 PM

Yeah. Well, it really depends on why the relationship ended in the first place, and WOULD the relationship get any better?

wildzerica06 · 04-16-2003, 08:52 PM

depends on situation if it was givien 2nd chance... but after all

once a cheater always be cheater..

javapride · 04-17-2003, 12:15 AM

2nd chances are a good thing earning trust is another thing, working as a team deffy says it all

BabyPhat21 · 04-17-2003, 12:37 AM

NOPE cuz there is always doubt or suspicious - trust me .......... the relationship doesnt have the same spark or the connection cuz the trust is gone........you now wonder when they say they are going out with their "friends" or they come home late you wonder.... hmmm hmmmm maybe he is............

Marj · 04-17-2003, 07:53 AM

i was once a cheater and so far i haven't cheated :p

04-17-2003, 11:04 AM

I don't believe in cheating.

GoKiGOki48rs · 04-17-2003, 03:51 PM

sure i will provide a second chance if they want to work things out unless its not worse than before but if it is.. tsk

i dont think i owuld let myself to give another chance if he cannot work it out with me..

prostock19 · 04-17-2003, 06:08 PM

Good luck on your relationship. I hope you 2 are happy now and no one will cheat again. I would give someone a 2nd or 3rd chance if I really love the person.

knightwolf68 · 04-18-2003, 01:14 PM

second chance is answer yes for after few months to see if things change or not ... I grew up with my wife ... since we met each other in 81' and we have been break up and got back together over the years along with thousand chances !!! until finally in 95' I move out of state for awhile like 6 years later and ran into my wife before we got married ... she asked me back together again ... while i was engage with someone else from other country... so i had to do the pro and con list and compare. that something hit me with the realized that i have a great heart for my wife ... so it is our first time 6 years aparts !! right now we are pretty good with the marriage . Of course it is so many struggle for us to get through ... Thanks God that She gave me that chances even i return her the chances to share too... I am telling u that sometime the aparts of times like a year or so then see if the chances get better or not ... Won't hurt to try again...

Fly Free · 04-18-2003, 02:00 PM

yes i would give 2nd chances AFTER we have had *sat down* and *talk* civilly and express all that needs to be put on the table -- if i get a sense the ex gf who wants a 2nd chance still hasnt learned the mistakes i would not allow it -- just remain friends and be respectful with eachother without the screaming and other BS

but then again there ARE some ex partners that just wont be civil and be an adult with the screaming matches, stalking (either online or IRL) and all that *smh* those are the ones i DEFINATELY WILL NOT give another chance to --

it all depends on WHO they are and the kind of history we had together to begin with

Lasza · 05-05-2003, 04:42 AM

I do believe in second chances if me and other person sit down and discuss thru depend on what situations. Have to chance to learn the lesson than NEVER.
Won't give another chance that make that person might not able to feel the heartbroken or might repeatly with next relationship. That is my theory.

Fly Free · 05-05-2003, 12:14 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Lasza
I do believe in second chances if me and other person sit down and discuss thru depend on what situations. Have to chance to learn the lesson than NEVER.
Won't give another chance that make that person might not able to feel the heartbroken or might repeatly with next relationship. That is my theory.

*nodding* in agreement -- i totally agree Lasza gurl!!!!!

Irish Devil Dog · 05-05-2003, 12:20 PM

Yes I do believe in 2nd chance but on depend what situation it is... I'd not go for 2nd chance if it's cheater, lairs, etc u named it. If I truly love a person so much and nothing that are on list I'd not go for 2nd chance.. I will go for 2nd chance if we both discuss and work it out for few months to see how we goes.

Dreamykel · 06-12-2003, 12:36 PM

Yes, I do believe 2nd chance. But if that person cheats on me, It's OVER! I don't want to get hurt and go through those craps. I don't want to waste myself time if that person kept doing cheating on me. Forget it! I would give another chance if we want to sit down and find out what's conflicts in our relationship, discuss. I used to give my ex many chances but I continued hurt myself inside of my heart so I learned my lesson that I don't want to hurt again. If that person that you really love, it's kinda hard!! I had through that before with my first love. But the positive was good experience and learned love.

Smartiesgeek · 06-12-2003, 02:02 PM

myself, I once had a ex-gf... She cheated on me 3 times. I guess, I gave her another chances. Yes I did. I believed that she can do any better than that. So, On march, I told her many things which it impacted on her. so, She stopped to cheat on me ever since.. and we ended our relationship last summer. We lasted for 9 months.

Sydlie · 06-13-2003, 07:27 PM

Second chances for some things yes, but a second chance after cheating is NOT an option.

Smartiesgeek · 06-13-2003, 08:40 PM

but I learned my mistakes by giving alot of chances. I was told that I am toooooo sweet to giving another chances. as of right now, I am not giving another chances for my lovers if they cheats on me.

but another than cheats.. I would give her and friends another chances.

Professor_Bush · 06-14-2003, 11:06 PM

i agree with lunz on that.

men listen to thier penis.. not by the heart.. = lame

LeviathanC · 06-22-2003, 03:36 PM

I don't believe in second chance for some reasons if it hurt more. Their first chance will be their last chance.

OldNavyGirl · 06-22-2003, 04:03 PM

depend on the situations if i'm willing to give 2nd chance or not....

GoKiGOki48rs · 06-23-2003, 11:19 AM

yup yup i do believed in second chance as always unless if somebody would like to make this up to me FOR GOOD, then whoever would get this last chance..

Mizzou · 06-26-2003, 05:07 PM

2nd chance is RARE to give good reason. I do gave one chance but if improves then I could might decide for 2nd.

I believe in first chance......

***VamPyroX*** · 06-26-2003, 05:15 PM

Yes, second chances do happen on special occurences. It's not always recommended but if necessary, then yes.

Sexy Babe · 05-23-2008, 07:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by knightwolf68

second chance is answer yes for after few months to see if things change or not ... I grew up with my wife ... since we met each other in 81' and we have been break up and got back together over the years along with thousand chances !!! until finally in 95' I move out of state for awhile like 6 years later and ran into my wife before we got married ... she asked me back together again ... while i was engage with someone else from other country... so i had to do the pro and con list and compare. that something hit me with the realized that i have a great heart for my wife ... so it is our first time 6 years aparts !! right now we are pretty good with the marriage . Of course it is so many struggle for us to get through ... Thanks God that She gave me that chances even i return her the chances to share too... I am telling u that sometime the aparts of times like a year or so then see if the chances get better or not ... Won't hurt to try again...

Heyyyyy Knightwolf hugsssss, long time no chat.. I didn't know you are in AD.. LOL.. It's me from tagdeaf long time ago.. aka BCB or Prb. It is soo good to hear from you..

I don't know, if I would give my man 2nd chance to give a try. But that is really depends on how the relationship goes and what reasons to give 2nd chances. Bec I have been through with my ex husband for 12 yrs and I gave him toooooo many chances and been so hurt by him. So too scared to give 2nd chances. But it won't hurt to try if given 2nd chance.

moonflower · 05-23-2008, 08:31 PM

i never give a second chance Pfftt to second chance

***Jolie77*** · 05-23-2008, 10:13 PM

I do believe in second chances, only if it depends on the circumstances.

Second chances should not be easily handed out. If one wants to have a second chance, they need to earn it in order to succeed the second chance to prove it otherwise.

04-16-2003, 12:49 PM	#1 (permalink)
Marj The Army Princess Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: My Bedroom Posts: 156	Do you believe in second chances? Hi! I was cheated on for so long before I built up some guts to tell him off and to quit cheating on me. He didn't seem to care that he was hurting me so I f-k'ed him over and grabbed a next boyfriend to prove him that I am not going to wait around for him... That's part of a story from my diary. It was written over a year ago. Now I'm with him again and life has been great. Tis all because I gave him a second chance. Do you believe in second chances?

04-16-2003, 12:55 PM	#3 (permalink)
ChelEler Registered User Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 5,537	Yes, I believe in second chance. I was given second chance when I was in High School. Whew. Long story and I don't want to talk about it again. Sorry. But anyway, I do believe in it. It's like a warning to me. If my boys do something "bad" or anything like that... like "lying to me" or "stealing and not telling me," I warn them and give them only one more chance to see if they learned something about it. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't work. If it doesn't work, I take away what they want. About second chance with relationship, I have never had that experience before because I knew I found my guy and I'm married to him. __________________ -ChelEler- =^.~=

04-17-2003, 06:08 PM	#12 (permalink)
prostock19 BAH HUMBUG!!! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Formerly RI, Now Albany, NY Area Posts: 3,308	Good luck on your relationship. I hope you 2 are happy now and no one will cheat again. I would give someone a 2nd or 3rd chance if I really love the person. __________________

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OldNavyGirl Premium Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Somewhere in Illinois Posts: 3,593	depend on the situations if i'm willing to give 2nd chance or not.... __________________ what does friendship really mean to you?

06-26-2003, 05:15 PM	#27 (permalink)
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04-16-2003, 12:54 PM	#2 (permalink)
LUNZ Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 874	Once cheat, always cheat = Once hurt, always pain the ass! Follow your heart.

04-16-2003, 07:08 PM	#4 (permalink)
Marj The Army Princess Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: My Bedroom Posts: 156	how sweet! i think i found my guy too

04-16-2003, 07:26 PM	#5 (permalink)
allisonjoy t e d d y s GIRL Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: rhodey isle Posts: 1,124	Yeah. Well, it really depends on why the relationship ended in the first place, and WOULD the relationship get any better?

04-16-2003, 08:52 PM	#6 (permalink)
wildzerica06 -Erica- Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: california Posts: 4,147 Blog Entries: 2	depends on situation if it was givien 2nd chance... but after all once a cheater always be cheater..

04-17-2003, 12:15 AM	#7 (permalink)
javapride Java's Big Island Life! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: hawaii Posts: 6,509	2nd chances are a good thing earning trust is another thing, working as a team deffy says it all

04-17-2003, 12:37 AM	#8 (permalink)
BabyPhat21 Sex Univ. Head Mistress Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: CALI Posts: 3,109	NOPE cuz there is always doubt or suspicious - trust me .......... the relationship doesnt have the same spark or the connection cuz the trust is gone........you now wonder when they say they are going out with their "friends" or they come home late you wonder.... hmmm hmmmm maybe he is............

04-17-2003, 07:53 AM	#9 (permalink)
Marj The Army Princess Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: My Bedroom Posts: 156	i was once a cheater and so far i haven't cheated :p

04-17-2003, 11:04 AM	#10 (permalink)
BostonIceFire Guest Posts: n/a	I don't believe in cheating.

04-17-2003, 03:51 PM	#11 (permalink)
GoKiGOki48rs MamaLicIoUS Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: SOuTh D3RRtY KoAsT Posts: 1,556	sure i will provide a second chance if they want to work things out unless its not worse than before but if it is.. tsk i dont think i owuld let myself to give another chance if he cannot work it out with me..

04-18-2003, 01:14 PM	#13 (permalink)
knightwolf68 I am darts player Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Mile High City Posts: 1,902	second chance is answer yes for after few months to see if things change or not ... I grew up with my wife ... since we met each other in 81' and we have been break up and got back together over the years along with thousand chances !!! until finally in 95' I move out of state for awhile like 6 years later and ran into my wife before we got married ... she asked me back together again ... while i was engage with someone else from other country... so i had to do the pro and con list and compare. that something hit me with the realized that i have a great heart for my wife ... so it is our first time 6 years aparts !! right now we are pretty good with the marriage . Of course it is so many struggle for us to get through ... Thanks God that She gave me that chances even i return her the chances to share too... I am telling u that sometime the aparts of times like a year or so then see if the chances get better or not ... Won't hurt to try again...

04-18-2003, 02:00 PM	#14 (permalink)
Fly Free Just me Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Wherever i want to be LOL Posts: 9,101	yes i would give 2nd chances AFTER we have had sat down and talk civilly and express all that needs to be put on the table -- if i get a sense the ex gf who wants a 2nd chance still hasnt learned the mistakes i would not allow it -- just remain friends and be respectful with eachother without the screaming and other BS but then again there ARE some ex partners that just wont be civil and be an adult with the screaming matches, stalking (either online or IRL) and all that smh those are the ones i DEFINATELY WILL NOT give another chance to -- it all depends on WHO they are and the kind of history we had together to begin with

05-05-2003, 04:42 AM	#15 (permalink)
Lasza Premium Lurker Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Mile High State Posts: 2,510	I do believe in second chances if me and other person sit down and discuss thru depend on what situations. Have to chance to learn the lesson than NEVER. Won't give another chance that make that person might not able to feel the heartbroken or might repeatly with next relationship. That is my theory.

05-05-2003, 12:20 PM	#17 (permalink)
Irish Devil Dog ~Taken by my mystery hun~ Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Florida Posts: 1,464	Yes I do believe in 2nd chance but on depend what situation it is... I'd not go for 2nd chance if it's cheater, lairs, etc u named it. If I truly love a person so much and nothing that are on list I'd not go for 2nd chance.. I will go for 2nd chance if we both discuss and work it out for few months to see how we goes.

06-12-2003, 12:36 PM	#18 (permalink)
Dreamykel Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Denver, Colorado Posts: 24	Yes, I do believe 2nd chance. But if that person cheats on me, It's OVER! I don't want to get hurt and go through those craps. I don't want to waste myself time if that person kept doing cheating on me. Forget it! I would give another chance if we want to sit down and find out what's conflicts in our relationship, discuss. I used to give my ex many chances but I continued hurt myself inside of my heart so I learned my lesson that I don't want to hurt again. If that person that you really love, it's kinda hard!! I had through that before with my first love. But the positive was good experience and learned love.

06-12-2003, 02:02 PM	#19 (permalink)
Smartiesgeek a hot strawberry Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Hammond, Indiana Posts: 965	myself, I once had a ex-gf... She cheated on me 3 times. I guess, I gave her another chances. Yes I did. I believed that she can do any better than that. So, On march, I told her many things which it impacted on her. so, She stopped to cheat on me ever since.. and we ended our relationship last summer. We lasted for 9 months.

06-13-2003, 07:27 PM	#20 (permalink)
Sydlie Happier for it Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Columbus Posts: 445	Second chances for some things yes, but a second chance after cheating is NOT an option.

06-13-2003, 08:40 PM	#21 (permalink)
Smartiesgeek a hot strawberry Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Hammond, Indiana Posts: 965	but I learned my mistakes by giving alot of chances. I was told that I am toooooo sweet to giving another chances. as of right now, I am not giving another chances for my lovers if they cheats on me. but another than cheats.. I would give her and friends another chances.

06-14-2003, 11:06 PM	#22 (permalink)
Professor_Bush Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Somewhere Posts: 10	i agree with lunz on that. men listen to thier penis.. not by the heart.. = lame

06-22-2003, 03:36 PM	#23 (permalink)
LeviathanC Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 1,312	I don't believe in second chance for some reasons if it hurt more. Their first chance will be their last chance.

06-23-2003, 11:19 AM	#25 (permalink)
GoKiGOki48rs MamaLicIoUS Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: SOuTh D3RRtY KoAsT Posts: 1,556	yup yup i do believed in second chance as always unless if somebody would like to make this up to me FOR GOOD, then whoever would get this last chance..

06-26-2003, 05:07 PM	#26 (permalink)
Mizzou Where is my car ? Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: somewhere in Missouri Posts: 2,593	2nd chance is RARE to give good reason. I do gave one chance but if improves then I could might decide for 2nd. I believe in first chance......

05-23-2008, 08:31 PM	#29 (permalink)
moonflower Registered User Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: hiding in my room Posts: 4,679	i never give a second chance Pfftt to second chance __________________

05-23-2008, 10:13 PM	#30 (permalink)
*Jolie77* Love all, trust a few. Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: The Bluegrass State Posts: 4,651	I do believe in second chances, only if it depends on the circumstances. Second chances should not be easily handed out. If one wants to have a second chance, they need to earn it in order to succeed the second chance to prove it otherwise.

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