Do you believe in second chances? - Page 2

Freaky Cat · 05-23-2008, 11:19 PM

i dunno.. i never gave second chances.. but if it was to my sons father.. no i wouldnt give him second chances cuz he cheated on me. no way... once a cheater, always will be a cheater.. forget it..

Grummer · 05-24-2008, 12:05 AM

it depends

DrPepper4ever · 05-25-2008, 04:50 PM

It depends on situtation. Sometimes they do deserve second chance if they are serious but they have to earn for it.

***VamPyroX*** · 05-25-2008, 04:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jolie_77

I do believe in second chances, only if it depends on the circumstances.

Second chances should not be easily handed out. If one wants to have a second chance, they need to earn it in order to succeed the second chance to prove it otherwise.

I'm the same way.

It depends on the circumstances. They have to prove themselves worthy of second chances.

Pepsi · 05-25-2008, 11:10 PM

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Originally Posted by moonflower

i never give a second chance Pfftt to second chance

I agree

***Jolie77*** · 05-25-2008, 11:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by VamPyroX

I'm the same way.

It depends on the circumstances. They have to prove themselves worthy of second chances.

Yeah - If they can't prove themselves worthy of it, then that second chance is out of the door.

Although, sometime it is hard not to keep it at bay especially when you're involved in a situation that has went afar.

deafbajagal · 05-26-2008, 09:25 AM

It is extremely hard for me to trust a person, especially in a relationship. Once that trust is broken, I don't go back. It's done. Hands are washed and doors are closed. Period.

moonflower · 05-26-2008, 12:19 PM

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Originally Posted by deafbajagal

It is extremely hard for me to trust a person, especially in a relationship. Once that trust is broken, I don't go back. It's done. Hands are washed and doors are closed. Period.

i agree big time

Oceanblue7 · 05-26-2008, 12:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jolie_77

I do believe in second chances, only if it depends on the circumstances.

Second chances should not be easily handed out. If one wants to have a second chance, they need to earn it in order to succeed the second chance to prove it otherwise.

Your too nice

GarnetTigerMom · 05-26-2008, 10:48 PM

Second chance is great to give a person another chance to prove themselve to you. But sometimes is good thing and other time it hard to give second chances to that person. I think it's only fair to give anyone a second chances denpending on the situation.

***Jolie77*** · 05-26-2008, 10:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Oceanblue7

Your too nice

Hahaha

Well, It's just who I am. I can be nice but there are times when I am not so nice, lol.

Liebling:-))) · 05-27-2008, 03:30 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jolie_77

I do believe in second chances, only if it depends on the circumstances.

Second chances should not be easily handed out. If one wants to have a second chance, they need to earn it in order to succeed the second chance to prove it otherwise.

Yes I second that.

NorCal20 · 05-27-2008, 05:49 AM

why not?

Silenthand · 05-28-2008, 08:05 PM

Any one whom is willing getting alot of love cheating it.. Harm is heart break it

Grummer · 05-28-2008, 08:40 PM

i think forgiveness really depends on how well you knwo your own philosophy in life, 9and i dont mean christian thoughts!, i mean PURE self-knowledge that also decide how well you conduct yourself unto others and how it reflects back to you, so in a way its "power" but then again dont get confused with "power to rule" i meant more "power to attract and show inspiration to others - like charisma. So, you you are willing to forgive , you'd have to know WHY you're willing to do so, in the same vain, also have to know why you are not willing to forgive, this spans further than 'trust', i think its more if you can or can not recognise another person's character's ability to develop/grow or wise up. That's what I reckon.

deafbajagal · 05-28-2008, 08:48 PM

Very, very interesting perspective. Especially the part about where it is more than just trust, but whether or not you can recognize another person's ability to develop and grow. This statement has me thinking now.

GarnetTigerMom · 05-28-2008, 10:56 PM

I think before you can forgive someone who has cheated on you, you need to find out what caused the cheating from the start.It will not help to just blame the cheater. Have a discussion with your partner to get to the cause so that even if you let her/him gio you can not repeat the same mistake in your next relationship

crossinfocus · 06-13-2008, 06:02 PM

Sure. We all need second chances from time to time.

coolgirlspyer90 · 06-13-2008, 07:34 PM

I usually believe in 2nd chances when I think I'm going to give on one. sometimes you do need to give a person a 2nd chance. soemtimes not.

GarnetTigerMom · 06-13-2008, 10:22 PM

We all deserve a second chance to find the love we crave. But giving someone second chances is not always easy or simple thing to do. But I think we all do believe in second chances so denpending on the situations. But if about relationship, then If both couples have determined that yes the relationship is fixable. But both couple have to be fully committed to making the changes necessary, then a second chance could work out beautifully. I have known a number of happily married couples that tell tales of huge breakups that almost ended in divorce during the early years of their marriages. However, they were fully committed to fixing the problems and did so. Sometimes it takes losing someone to realize just how much they mean to us. I have also watched dear friends take someone back into their lives over and over again; only to have their heart shattered each time. No matter how much they loved the other person, they could not fix the relationship all by themselves and the other person kept on behaving the same old ways repeating the same old patterns. Without a real commitment to fixing and changing the problems, there is no way the second, third, fourth, or fifth chances are going to make the problems go away. No one said relationships are easy. It take lot of guts for two people willing to changes and give each other second chances. Sometimes we have to changes for the better to make the relationship work better. But it don't just happen over night so it will takes time.

Angel · 06-14-2008, 12:00 PM

Absolutely, I do believe that there's still a room for second chances but like the others said it depends on the circumstances and the situations..There's no guarantee that ALL people will change because some unwilling to change themselves and continue to repeat the same mistakes while the others do change when they become wiser and more mature..

Oceanblue7 · 06-14-2008, 02:09 PM

Since, this topic is on "cheating" and giving that person a second chance, for me it would be very hard to give a second chance to the cheater. I know myself, the thought of him cheating again would always be in the back of my mind with no trust, no confidence and no gurantee a change in the guy who cheats on me. That's just who I am, once a cheater always a cheater.

Giving a second chance to person in general depends on the situation where I can actually forgive, solve the problem and be friends again with a guy or gal. In a relationship, there's no chance it would take a mighty, mighty miracle from heaven above to change my heart and mind to get that guy back in my life again for a second chance into the relationship. Bottom line, my answer is No.

05-23-2008, 11:19 PM	#31 (permalink)
Freaky Cat My cat Oreo :) Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: ArKaNsAs Posts: 10,177	i dunno.. i never gave second chances.. but if it was to my sons father.. no i wouldnt give him second chances cuz he cheated on me. no way... once a cheater, always will be a cheater.. forget it.. __________________ When you miss me just look up to the night sky and remember, I'm like a star; sometimes you can't see me, but I'm always there! Freaky Cat's Blog

05-26-2008, 09:25 AM	#37 (permalink)
deafbajagal Jasmine's Tiger "Lilly" Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: USA Posts: 1,885	It is extremely hard for me to trust a person, especially in a relationship. Once that trust is broken, I don't go back. It's done. Hands are washed and doors are closed. Period. __________________ "The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires." ~Quote by William Arthur Ward

05-26-2008, 10:48 PM	#40 (permalink)
GarnetTigerMom Registered User Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Virginia Posts: 4,595	Second chance is great to give a person another chance to prove themselve to you. But sometimes is good thing and other time it hard to give second chances to that person. I think it's only fair to give anyone a second chances denpending on the situation. __________________ GarnetTigerMom "The rain may be falling hard outside, But your smile makes it all alright. I'm so glad that you're my friend. I know our friendship will never end." -- Robert Alan

05-27-2008, 05:49 AM	#43 (permalink)
NorCal20 -superdorky :o) Join Date: May 2008 Location: Golden State Posts: 2,403	why not? __________________ Phil.4:13- "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" I play USSSA, not ASA! Rest in Peace, Mrs.C.Yoshitake. You'll be always wonderful teacher. i will sorely miss you and my heart goes to your family. We will meet again.

05-28-2008, 10:56 PM	#47 (permalink)
GarnetTigerMom Registered User Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Virginia Posts: 4,595	I think before you can forgive someone who has cheated on you, you need to find out what caused the cheating from the start.It will not help to just blame the cheater. Have a discussion with your partner to get to the cause so that even if you let her/him gio you can not repeat the same mistake in your next relationship __________________ GarnetTigerMom "The rain may be falling hard outside, But your smile makes it all alright. I'm so glad that you're my friend. I know our friendship will never end." -- Robert Alan

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05-24-2008, 12:05 AM	#32 (permalink)
Grummer Burn fat off your soul Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: North Island in the South Posts: 929	it depends

05-25-2008, 04:50 PM	#33 (permalink)
DrPepper4ever Registered User Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 16	It depends on situtation. Sometimes they do deserve second chance if they are serious but they have to earn for it.

05-28-2008, 08:05 PM	#44 (permalink)
Silenthand Registered User Join Date: May 2008 Location: West Virginiaw Posts: 91	Any one whom is willing getting alot of love cheating it.. Harm is heart break it

05-28-2008, 08:40 PM	#45 (permalink)
Grummer Burn fat off your soul Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: North Island in the South Posts: 929	i think forgiveness really depends on how well you knwo your own philosophy in life, 9and i dont mean christian thoughts!, i mean PURE self-knowledge that also decide how well you conduct yourself unto others and how it reflects back to you, so in a way its "power" but then again dont get confused with "power to rule" i meant more "power to attract and show inspiration to others - like charisma. So, you you are willing to forgive , you'd have to know WHY you're willing to do so, in the same vain, also have to know why you are not willing to forgive, this spans further than 'trust', i think its more if you can or can not recognise another person's character's ability to develop/grow or wise up. That's what I reckon.

05-28-2008, 08:48 PM	#46 (permalink)
deafbajagal Jasmine's Tiger "Lilly" Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: USA Posts: 1,885	Very, very interesting perspective. Especially the part about where it is more than just trust, but whether or not you can recognize another person's ability to develop and grow. This statement has me thinking now.

06-13-2008, 06:02 PM	#48 (permalink)
crossinfocus crossinfocus Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Stl, MO Posts: 10	Sure. We all need second chances from time to time. __________________ Learn to Sign w/ the Fastest & Most Effective Course Available on the Net. www.sign-language-course.com

06-13-2008, 07:34 PM	#49 (permalink)
coolgirlspyer90 Music is my life. Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 510	I usually believe in 2nd chances when I think I'm going to give on one. sometimes you do need to give a person a 2nd chance. soemtimes not.

06-13-2008, 10:22 PM	#50 (permalink)
GarnetTigerMom Registered User Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Virginia Posts: 4,595	We all deserve a second chance to find the love we crave. But giving someone second chances is not always easy or simple thing to do. But I think we all do believe in second chances so denpending on the situations. But if about relationship, then If both couples have determined that yes the relationship is fixable. But both couple have to be fully committed to making the changes necessary, then a second chance could work out beautifully. I have known a number of happily married couples that tell tales of huge breakups that almost ended in divorce during the early years of their marriages. However, they were fully committed to fixing the problems and did so. Sometimes it takes losing someone to realize just how much they mean to us. I have also watched dear friends take someone back into their lives over and over again; only to have their heart shattered each time. No matter how much they loved the other person, they could not fix the relationship all by themselves and the other person kept on behaving the same old ways repeating the same old patterns. Without a real commitment to fixing and changing the problems, there is no way the second, third, fourth, or fifth chances are going to make the problems go away. No one said relationships are easy. It take lot of guts for two people willing to changes and give each other second chances. Sometimes we have to changes for the better to make the relationship work better. But it don't just happen over night so it will takes time. __________________ GarnetTigerMom "The rain may be falling hard outside, But your smile makes it all alright. I'm so glad that you're my friend. I know our friendship will never end." -- Robert Alan

06-14-2008, 12:00 PM	#51 (permalink)
Angel ♥"Concrete Angel"♥ Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 18,902	Absolutely, I do believe that there's still a room for second chances but like the others said it depends on the circumstances and the situations..There's no guarantee that ALL people will change because some unwilling to change themselves and continue to repeat the same mistakes while the others do change when they become wiser and more mature..

06-14-2008, 02:09 PM	#52 (permalink)
Oceanblue7 Go Patriots! @SD Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Live Sun night football Posts: 4,043 Blog Entries: 6	Since, this topic is on "cheating" and giving that person a second chance, for me it would be very hard to give a second chance to the cheater. I know myself, the thought of him cheating again would always be in the back of my mind with no trust, no confidence and no gurantee a change in the guy who cheats on me. That's just who I am, once a cheater always a cheater. Giving a second chance to person in general depends on the situation where I can actually forgive, solve the problem and be friends again with a guy or gal. In a relationship, there's no chance it would take a mighty, mighty miracle from heaven above to change my heart and mind to get that guy back in my life again for a second chance into the relationship. Bottom line, my answer is No. __________________ Ps.103:12 He washes our sins away into the ocean

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