Divorce process - what is it like?

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I am expecting to sign the divorce papers later this year. :|
but I wonder what yours was like, how did you manage to get half of your things back etc etc Share your experience, if you wish. If you wish not to share, don't post.
 
Sorry about that.
All I know is it is easier to marry someone, and it is HELL when to divorce someone.
I hope both of you have a mutual agreement to make it EASIER and faster way to divorce.
 
Sorry about that.
All I know is it is easier to marry someone, and it is HELL when to divorce someone.
I hope both of you have a mutual agreement to make it EASIER and faster way to divorce.
We are - we both don't really want to make it nasty and I hope it is kept that way though.
We have already discussed about the things and halved and all that. All I have to wait is the papers shoved under my nose.
 
Been divorced a long time...and have to say...no matter if both parties are in agreement to the divorce...it Hurts!

Having a good Lawyer...is good in cases where there is Property/Real Estate....etc.....So dunno how long you were married, or even if you both had acquired a House/Vehicles or even if there are children from the marriage....

I made notations as to what I wanted and what I brought and bought into the marriage...having receipts is good also....My Lawyer was urging me to ask for Alimony....and I declined!...not wanting any more "ties" to my former spouse. Even gave up the new car...I turned around and bought my own, the House too!...

In other words, I cut and dried it the day the divorce was "final"...he moved to another State and I've never been in touch since.

Good Luck...give yourself time to grieve....there will be brighter days ahead for you.
 
It's like having your wallet extracted through your penis.

make sure you both agree on everything 100% or be prepared to pay a lot of money if you don't.
 
I was still so in love with my ex that I let him have everything. I didn't want to make him mad in case he changed his mind. Gave him the house, most of the furniture and I temporarily left my brand new mustang with him. It was a stick, and I had just had arm surgery. When I was ready to pick up my car he informed my that his new gal had totaled it. The most important thing was me keeping my son. Same as RR, I didn't ask for alimony either. Had to deal with him for a long time since we had a kid together. He eventually moved cross country and my son has no desire to see or talk to him. All worked out great because I met the best guy in the world and have been happily married for 26 years. There is life after divorce and yes you can be happy again.
 
The furniture and posessions mean shit when u get your child taken away. nothing mesures up to that..nothing. I could go through 100 divorces and still not endure the kind of pain I went through what I went through 4 years ago when my ex husband won custody of my daughter and moving her 3,000 miles away. Furniture and posessions are not worth fighting over. it is petty.

Children and monetary assets are worth hiring lawyers.
 
I'm agreed and some disagreed on posts

Mostly people got divorce less than one years or more over years if kept marriages faith,god,trust sponsors and mores..

My parents got divorce when I was 9 years old and no longer as married couples but my mom filed divorces and separate from my dad but my parents did custody of me and my brother till 18 years old..I'm been see my dad mostly after divorce I do love my dad lots as dad's girls
 
Sorry about that.
All I know is it is easier to marry someone, and it is HELL when to divorce someone.
I hope both of you have a mutual agreement to make it EASIER and faster way to divorce.

if a person is really worried about a hellish divorce process... one should get married in a state where divorce law is more lax than other states and... draft up a pre-nup paperwork :lol:
 
In Maryland, you have to live separately from your spouse for at least one year before you can file for a divorce. It is obvious that they're making filing for divorce a hell.
 
if a person is really worried about a hellish divorce process... one should get married in a state where divorce law is more lax than other states and... draft up a pre-nup paperwork :lol:
What do you mean by lax?
 
It's taken a while for us to get to signing the papers, we're doing an uncontested divorce, and I think the wait has helped make things more even from each side. We get a long much better now that we don't see or communicate with each other much. Not that you shouldn't be concerned about finances and custody, but you should also take care of your emotional and spiritual well being. Divorce affects everyone differently. I've been going to a Divorce Care program. It's a Christian, divorce support group. It's not therapy, but does help you recognize and cope with the emotions associated. I don't find it too preachy, and even without the scripture, it is very helpful. You get to share with other people going through divorce, watch videos about different aspects, and there's a workbook to help you as well. You can find more info at DivorceCare: Divorce Recovery Support Groups.
 
lax = relaxing. He means less strict law.

We have 50 different divorce laws in USA. I am not sure about your country, but I had to admit I am somewhat shocked to find out your going though divorce. I remembered back then when you got exciting about marriage. Now you know, it is just a toilet paper after all.

Glad you didn't have kid of any kind. It would even more hellish if got em.


What do you mean by lax?
 
with my first husband i left everything bastard destroyed all my stuff,but i did get revenge i costed his new MBG (with over drive) over a small valley it was written off.to see that bastard cry like little girl gave me great satisfaction and desire to live again
 
I'm agreed and some disagreed on posts

Mostly people got divorce less than one years or more over years if kept marriages faith,god,trust sponsors and mores..

My parents got divorce when I was 9 years old and no longer as married couples but my mom filed divorces and separate from my dad but my parents did custody of me and my brother till 18 years old..I'm been see my dad mostly after divorce I do love my dad lots as dad's girls

I disagree , I known people that "faith,god,trust sponsors and mores.." and their marriage did not work out.
 
Divorce is tough. Mine was very amicable (friendly) and we pretty much split everything down the middle 50/50. That was the easy part. But, 8 years later, we're still dealing with legal issues regarding the house. (Not stuff that the ex and I are fighting over or anything, it is stuff to do with the lender. So sometimes things just take a long time to finish. Had we better planned for that with the lawyers I think that would have been finished a long time ago. Heck, I've already re-married!)
 
lax = relaxing. He means less strict law.

We have 50 different divorce laws in USA. I am not sure about your country, but I had to admit I am somewhat shocked to find out your going though divorce. I remembered back then when you got exciting about marriage. Now you know, it is just a toilet paper after all.

Glad you didn't have kid of any kind. It would even more hellish if got em.
It is not just you, it has shocked the community of mine, unfortunately however it was the ex wife who walked out. Definitely toilet paper - dammnit.
 
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shel90 said:
The furniture and posessions mean shit when u get your child taken away. nothing mesures up to that..nothing. I could go through 100 divorces and still not endure the kind of pain I went through what I went through 4 years ago when my ex husband won custody of my daughter and moving her 3,000 miles away. Furniture and posessions are not worth fighting over. it is petty.

Children and monetary assets are worth hiring lawyers.

Hi
 
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sara1981 said:
I'm agreed and some disagreed on posts

Mostly people got divorce less than one years or more over years if kept marriages faith,god,trust sponsors and mores..

My parents got divorce when I was 9 years old and no longer as married couples but my mom filed divorces and separate from my dad but my parents did custody of me and my brother till 18 years old..I'm been see my dad mostly after divorce I do love my dad lots as dad's girls

Hi
 
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