CrazyPaul

Who gives the **** about what you think?

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VacationGuy234

I tried to date one woman whom I was not attracted to, but felt she had a good personality and knew my party of friends. It was a total disaster and I will not do it again. Not only is this not the right thing to do it is dumb. You are not doing the other person any favors and more harm than good.

There has to be some attraction and physical connection as well as certain personality attributes which attract you. And even with all that, it doesn't stop the other person from creating issues you don't like so you at least should start with something, IMO.

To answer the question: There has to be a mix. I couldn't stay with someone who is hot, but didn't (on some level) have at least common sense in common. And, I couldn't stay with someone whom I wasn't attracted to either.

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metalangel

I think that everyone's definition of 'cute' for a potential partner is different, because what I might find irresistible physically or mentally other people might be put off by. Likewise, everyone functions differently... I have friends where the man and the woman alternate between being devoted and playfully putting the other one down. I just can't understand that sort of thing but they are very happy so who am I to judge? They seem to fit each other perfectly.

VacationGuy234

I agree. I'm not a big fan of disrespectful relationships, but some people don't have a problem with it. I think light sarcasm is OK, but I'd never cross the line to calling my partner offensive names, it's just not right.

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Jiro

goddamn right. gotta test drive it first before I seal the deal

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Reba

A human being is not a car.

A relationship is not a "deal."

Jess

A subjective answer to a subjective question:

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Alex

You might want to ask Beyonce about that one.



Kidding aside, I think it's all about the inner qualities a person has that is important, and not necessarily looks. Well, maybe if the girl had ugly feet, then that's a different story. LOL

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metalangel

It might be a British thing, they're not the only ones I know, and it's playful disrespect. Then again, I'd never seen quite so many couples shrieking at each other in genuine anger out on the street until I moved here.

SneakerNet

I think I created on the post before and reading all of your post above, let me ask you this...to allow to think about yourself. Talking about your mind.. your mentality. The way it developed from birth.
So, about physical attraction, if you saw a person (male or female doesn't matter) and you instantly locked on this person, and your heart pumped and your feeling wanting to date her... (pressing pause button) What causing this person instantly attracted to him/her?

(there will be more after this questions)

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Irish

How about I pick a guy that is both attractive and has a good personality? It's important to me to be both physically and emotionally attracted to someone if I am to start dating or enter a relationship. I will not pick an ugly guy with a good personality or an attractive guy with a bad personality. That'd just be a waste of everyone's time.

I know you might enjoy asking philosophical questions like that, but usually these questions aren't quite realistic. It's not an "either or" situation like someone pointed out earlier. Usually there are plenty of other choices/decisions to make and factors to take into consideration.

Marie579

Personality can make someone attractive, if you get to know someone, where you thought they weren't attractive at first, they become attractive after knowing them. And the same is true in reverse, someone's personality can make them ugly, thinking they are nice looking, but after knowing them, they repulse you. I've only went out with a few guys on their looks and it ended badly or at least in a lesson learned lol, and I learned to date for attraction to personality only, of course now I'm married and I don't have to worry about those things. Good luck!!!!

Steinhauer

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(I wouldn't - I based my marriage on love and promised my wife's family to love her till the day I die - beauty is fleeting - better base your relationship on something a bit more solid IMHO)).

ambrosia

What if a frog had wings? It wouldn't bump it's ass when it hopped. That's what my mom always said when I asked her "what if". Nobody's talking about basing their relationship on attractiveness or sex.

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VacationGuy234

I have friends who go at it like cats and dogs and they are still together while other couples have divorced. It makes me uneasy sometimes. I believe it is rare that two people can be OK with it without one of then getting hurt at some point, but it does exist.

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dereksbicycles

For how long have they been together for?

As to the OP's question, it does not really matter about look and personality. If you find someone, then you can figure how to work things out. See, I don't need to lose weight, but my girlfriend does have to. I get curious about best ways to lose weight because of my girlfriend. I would not look them up if it was just me. So, it's not just personality and look. As you dive deeper and deeper in a relationship, you will see. I've been with my girlfriend for a little more than 1.5 years. Those who are or were in a long term relationship will understand what I am talking about.

CrazyPaul

Nothing is predictable. For example. you marry someone with a good personality, then a few years later your spouse gets arrested for stealing alot of money from his/her employer. "I can't believe that my husband/wife did that." Another example: serial killer BTK - his family was shocked, even though he had a good personality with his wife. People with good personality can be tricky. It actually happens everywhere. So be careful when you find someone new with a good personality.

caz12

i met this guy once good looking kind and rich everything you want from a guy,then he told me the the clincher he was woman awaiting for surgery,i am one those people no hang ups but i just could't go for that relationship he was italian..the full package apart from important package.part of me shamed i felt like that but time gone on i still could not go for it but i would encourage another person not be shallow like i was,but a penis do help

Marie579

You should just pay attention to what a person is and what they are telling you and if it makes sense to what they are and if they have family around them that ignores them or loves them, sometimes the signs are there, not always, but sometimes.

Marie579

I would take care of him, love him and never ever leave him, I love him, for better or worse , in sickness and health, til death do us part. And death only parts us, I'd still love his dumb butt!!! He wouldn't repulse me, and we'd figure things out...but I've loved him since I was 14, so I can say that, I'm almost 40 now.

Reba

Yes. Many military spouses have already experienced this with their wounded warriors. Many others who have ill or injured spouses from many causes continue to love them.

When my son-in-law had his leg amputated last year after a terrible accident at work, my daughter told me, "Yes, this is tough to go thru but I love *****, and he is not just body parts."

I also know several spouses who spend years taking care of their loved ones who are disabled by Alzheimer's or brain injury. They don't even have the pleasure of sharing their loved ones' personalities, much less their bodies. Yet, they still love and care for them.

There is more to love than the physical or the personality.

Steinhauer

My first "real" job was in a bookstore while in High School. My manager was married to a man who had Muscular Dystrophy. He was bed ridden. I got to know their family very well, her son ended up at Oxford. In any case, she set the first "real world" example of what a real relationship is.

My grandmother also stood right by my grandfather's side when his body wasted away to cancer.

Jolie77

Of course, communication is the major part of every and any kind of relationships. Compatibility can be one of the thing that does make or break it. However, compatibility also indicates that existing couple can live in harmony, yet, what if harmony doesn't exist? That's when the couple have to figure out how to weather through the storm. Compatibility isn't really the MAIN issue of how a couple can prosper together. The MAIN thing is - genuine love.

Genuine love is not synonymous with sex. Genuine love can and does exist in the absence of sex. Love in found within charity, healing, humility, patience, self-sacrifice. All these qualities and loving behaviors come from within the spiritual heart of a person.

The key to one's heart has been replaced with the key to one's panties. When most people talk about love, they actually talk about sex. Unfortunate but true for many.

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Reba

Love is not "feelings;" love is action.

howag

No brainer, unattractive appearing girl with awesome personality.

dereksbicycles

When I was single, I had fantasized riding bike with a woman. Would she look good on a red Schwinn or maybe a blue Fuji? Well, I ended up getting her a purple Trek. So, find someone, then worry about personality and looks.