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Icecreamgood · 07-08-2012, 08:37 AM

So I been reading a lot of post about deaf and hearing relationships. About how they don't work out. And about when girl ditch guy as soon she finds out he deaf.

I don't know. Do you guys ever assume that girl is intimated by you. Personal experience I saw this guy in class. My first thought was "wow he cute". And then I finds out he smart in math when he solves an calculus problem on board. He has great smile - basically my dream guy. But then he signs and I'm thinking "huh? He deaf?!". Okay this not going to work. And it wasn't because he deaf! But because that basically a sign saying its not going work and he to good for me. I was competely interested but I was scare to talk to him. All his friends are deaf and I didn't want to took stupid. So I gave up. Good thing I did anyways because my friend like him too and unlike me she went for it. But he reject her saying "only date deaf girls". What heck that?

green427 · 07-08-2012, 07:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Icecreamgood

So I been reading a lot of post about deaf and hearing relationships. About how they don't work out. And about when girl ditch guy as soon she finds out he deaf.

I don't know. Do you guys ever assume that girl is intimated by you. Personal experience I saw this guy in class. My first thought was "wow he cute". And then I finds out he smart in math when he solves an calculus problem on board. He has great smile - basically my dream guy. But then he signs and I'm thinking "huh? He deaf?!". Okay this not going to work. And it wasn't because he deaf! But because that basically a sign saying its not going work and he to good for me. I was competely interested but I was scare to talk to him. All his friends are deaf and I didn't want to took stupid. So I gave up. Good thing I did anyways because my friend like him too and unlike me she went for it. But he reject her saying "only date deaf girls". What heck that?

Read some of the older posts in this section and you will get a glimpse of why relationships can be difficult between deaf & hearing couples.

Many deaf people will only date other deaf people for various reasons, but the ability to communicate is the biggest reason. Deaf guys know that hearing girls can be attracted to them in the beginning, and tire of them later. Same goes for deaf girls and hearing guys.

authentic · 07-08-2012, 07:57 PM

Learn ASL, and act like deaf, you will have a high chance to date him.

Jess · 07-08-2012, 09:44 PM

I'm deaf/CI user and have no problem attracting attention (and trouble mind you),, it just depends on how you carry yourself and if you can handle said person. This division between deaf and hearing is pretty ridiculous, eventually, when you get to know either person, the line distinguishing the two doesn't matter a whole lot. Even the deaf can be ignorant, we're not always righteous angels, just put your mind into it a little more.

dereksbicycles · 07-08-2012, 10:57 PM

Some deaf people don't want to deal with struggle of learning ASL.

Some people feel soooo moved learning ASL to cultivate a relationship.

No law about dating a deaf person only or not.

07-08-2012, 08:37 AM	#1 (permalink)
Icecreamgood Registered User Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 3	Response to posts So I been reading a lot of post about deaf and hearing relationships. About how they don't work out. And about when girl ditch guy as soon she finds out he deaf. I don't know. Do you guys ever assume that girl is intimated by you. Personal experience I saw this guy in class. My first thought was "wow he cute". And then I finds out he smart in math when he solves an calculus problem on board. He has great smile - basically my dream guy. But then he signs and I'm thinking "huh? He deaf?!". Okay this not going to work. And it wasn't because he deaf! But because that basically a sign saying its not going work and he to good for me. I was competely interested but I was scare to talk to him. All his friends are deaf and I didn't want to took stupid. So I gave up. Good thing I did anyways because my friend like him too and unlike me she went for it. But he reject her saying "only date deaf girls". What heck that?

07-08-2012, 07:57 PM	#3 (permalink)
authentic Registered User Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: San Francisco Posts: 6,098	Learn ASL, and act like deaf, you will have a high chance to date him. __________________

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Jess Registered User Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Tampa, Florida Posts: 683 Blog Entries: 1	I'm deaf/CI user and have no problem attracting attention (and trouble mind you),, it just depends on how you carry yourself and if you can handle said person. This division between deaf and hearing is pretty ridiculous, eventually, when you get to know either person, the line distinguishing the two doesn't matter a whole lot. Even the deaf can be ignorant, we're not always righteous angels, just put your mind into it a little more. __________________ Official AD Nutcracker

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dereksbicycles Registered User Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: 60202 Posts: 3,808	Some deaf people don't want to deal with struggle of learning ASL. Some people feel soooo moved learning ASL to cultivate a relationship. No law about dating a deaf person only or not.