Anger management

highlands · 04-09-2008, 05:00 PM

I have been highly emotional ,sad and a little aggressive nowadays so this has made me think that I should have some knowledge on anger management and practice it.

How do you deal with your anger that especially caused by emotional factors like love,friendship issuses ?

What techniques could be appropriate to cool down mood ?

Any suggestion is welcome

PuyoPiyo · 04-09-2008, 06:33 PM

Well I was used to be in the anger management during my high school because I have lot of fights with my parents, we fight like everyday. We fight because I was fighting for my independence and my parents refuse to trust me due to my irresponiblities attitude toward to my sleep time, the school, stealing, the drugs, etc, it's just that I was rebel-type teen boy.

One of the example about my anger problem, after the school during I was sophomore, I walked to the bus stop expecting to ride to my friend's place, but my mom drove by and told me that I have a doctor approitment and I told her that I don't want to go to the doctor approitment because I think it's unnecessary, I don't remember why I have to go to the doctor, but I finally accept get in my mom's car and we continue fighting over the doctor approitment, I have been kept telling her that I am willing to pay for the cancelation fee which my mom refuse to allow me to do so. Till we parked at the clinic's parking lot, right after I got out of the car, I told my mom "You're damn lucky that I am not going to hurt you", I was beating on my backpack on the concrete floor and destroy alot of things inside the backpack include the backpack itself, my mom was crying because I scared her. After that, she finally let me go and didn't go to the doctor approitment.

Anyway, while I was used to attend the anger management, I find it just okay, but not help my situation with parents that much so I decide to go to the consuler instead and again it seems doesn't help neither because my parents kept gaining their "parential power" over me which cause me fighting with them more.

How did I solve my own issue with parents? I decide to change my room into a "mini studio apartment" which have the little living room with tv and couch, a bed, also I even buy my own foods and put them inside my closet, also I got a car so that I don't have to use my parent's living room, their foods, their cars, etc. The reason why I was doing this because I was trying to make things that I need turn into disconnect with parents which my parents can't really do anything with it.

The lastly I would ever seriously fight with my parents was the first month of my Senior Year with my dad. At the morning, my dad want me to go to Seattle to work with him for his business which I refuse to accept because I have to go to the school, but my dad refuse to allow me to go to the school, we kept fighting in the house till I finally tried to run to my car, but my dad chased me and got in the car. We both was in the car and I have been asking him to get out of my car because he was making me late for the school, it was like 5 min I have been asking him to get out of my car so I was very fed up with him, then took my heavy keychain then smashing on my dad's leg with my key and we fought in physcially, till my dad finally choked me with the seatbelt then I stomped my dad's face with my keychain then my dad backed off from me and I took my backpack, then got out of the car. I walked away from the house and the car, I kept walking for like 45 minutes to a supermarket, then called my mom and telling her what happened. After that, I went to my friend's place and stayed there for like 4 days without my parents knowing, I bet they have been looking for me those days. I came back to my parent's place and my parents was home. We didn't talked at all till next day, my dad apologized to me and he promised to not try to force me to do whatever he want me to do. My parents finally recognized my independence.

That is what made my Senior Year in the high school goes very smooth while my Freshmen, Sophomore, and Junior years was the worst, I don't steal anymore, rarely use the drugs except for smoking the cigarettes, I also own a car and drive, buying my own foods all the times, many things that I do on my own. Also after the graduate, I moved out immedately to stay away from the conflict with parnets. Independence is all I want and I had fought for it many times, I even was arrested over the Diet Pepsi, there's lot of things I fought over little stuff with my parents..

Sometimes it's better to think about the solution instead of creating the emenies. Also I notice when the fight become more serious, it's better for me to walk away from them to calm down, but in the notice, they don't always leave me alone so sometimes I have to lock myself inside a room to keep them away from me. Just my advice

jillio · 04-09-2008, 09:51 PM

PiyoPuyo had some very good suggestions. Removing yourself from the situation so that you have wome quiet time to get your emotions under control helps. It allows you to look at the situation more objectively. Also, when it comes to friendships and relationships, we often react to things based on a situation in the past that makes us read intentions into the situation that weren't really there. For instance, if we have been hurt in the past, we will be overly sensitive to anything we perceive as a slight or an insult, even if perhaps it wasn't intended that way. Many times, all we need to do is ask ourself if the way we feel is really the result of what just happened, or the way we feel about what just happened because of something we experienced in the past. Quite often, what we feel has absolutely nothing to do with present circumstance. Just because we feel hurt, and then angry at another, doesn't necessarily mean that the person set out intentionally to hurt us.

You are one step ahead of the game by realizing already that your emotions govern the way you react to a situation, and that emotions can cause all of us to overeact at times. Just allow yourself some quiet time to sort through the situation objectively, and be easy on yourself if you overreact. It happens to all of us. The best thing to do is admit that you overeacted because of something else, make apologies if needed, and resolve to do better the next time.

***VamPyroX*** · 04-09-2008, 10:59 PM

I don't really know any good suggestions. I don't get mad easily. If someone tries to piss me off, I just ignore them. If I have problems with something, I will stop and take a break. It helps me to re-think about what I can do. If someone is causing problems for me, I talk to them about it. If they refuse to listen, then I take myself out of the situation so that it doesn't involve me any more.

XBGMER · 04-10-2008, 12:45 AM

simple: See red flag when If you feeling tense build an anger fuse to blow up. you better walk away instant than keep recycle of voilence and remorses..

PLEASE..NEVER IGNORE "RED FLAG" AS YOUR ALERT TOOL!

PuyoPiyo · 04-10-2008, 01:00 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jillio

PiyoPuyo had some very good suggestions. Removing yourself from the situation so that you have wome quiet time to get your emotions under control helps. It allows you to look at the situation more objectively. Also, when it comes to friendships and relationships, we often react to things based on a situation in the past that makes us read intentions into the situation that weren't really there. For instance, if we have been hurt in the past, we will be overly sensitive to anything we perceive as a slight or an insult, even if perhaps it wasn't intended that way. Many times, all we need to do is ask ourself if the way we feel is really the result of what just happened, or the way we feel about what just happened because of something we experienced in the past. Quite often, what we feel has absolutely nothing to do with present circumstance. Just because we feel hurt, and then angry at another, doesn't necessarily mean that the person set out intentionally to hurt us.

You are one step ahead of the game by realizing already that your emotions govern the way you react to a situation, and that emotions can cause all of us to overeact at times. Just allow yourself some quiet time to sort through the situation objectively, and be easy on yourself if you overreact. It happens to all of us. The best thing to do is admit that you overeacted because of something else, make apologies if needed, and resolve to do better the next time.

Exactly, you got it all right within what my point is.

Jiro · 05-03-2008, 06:57 AM

hmmm... techniques... i don't know but this is what i can think of on top of my head. i remember this scene from Bad Boys where you rub your earlobes and say "wooooo-sssaaaahhhhh" does that help?

Phillips · 05-03-2008, 07:32 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by VamPyroX

I don't really know any good suggestions. I don't get mad easily. If someone tries to piss me off, I just ignore them. If I have problems with something, I will stop and take a break. It helps me to re-think about what I can do. If someone is causing problems for me, I talk to them about it. If they refuse to listen, then I take myself out of the situation so that it doesn't involve me any more.

Yeah i do stop and re-think !!

There is " calm" hot tea. that Help my friend relaxing!

~♥~Pinky~♥~ · 05-03-2008, 01:37 PM

I used to have an emotional problem when I was kid and teen life. I always get out of control with my anger. I was bitter what I have. I am not telling you what I have. I am a denying what I have. It's not a mental problem. It's other. I attended to Deaf School. The kids were cruel and picking on me. They love to see my angry. They were immature about this. They have no heart who I was. When I was join to deaf school with my SEE sign language. I was a nerd girl. They were brainwashed. They were judge on my sign language. I decide to learn ASL. I learned it fast way. I do have problem with my emotional and depress. I attend to counseling for 10 years. I have no longer with counselor anymore. I am doing fine and happy. I am growing up as adult now. If I do have angry. I have to stop and re think. I want to be alone to calm down. I am different than my age from kid and teen.

LuciaDisturbed · 05-03-2008, 03:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pinky678

I used to have an emotional problem when I was kid and teen life. I always get out of control with my anger. I was bitter what I have. I am not telling you what I have. I am a denying what I have. It's not a mental problem. It's other. I attended to Deaf School. The kids were cruel and picking on me. They love to see my angry. They were immature about this. They have no heart who I was. When I was join to deaf school with my SEE sign language. I was a nerd girl. They were brainwashed. They were judge on my sign language. I decide to learn ASL. I learned it fast way. I do have problem with my emotional and depress. I attend to counseling for 10 years. I have no longer with counselor anymore. I am doing fine and happy. I am growing up as adult now. If I do have angry. I have to stop and re think. I want to be alone to calm down. I am different than my age from kid and teen.

When you're in a situation that makes you angry, just simply walk away.

Oceanbreeze · 05-03-2008, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by LuciaDisturbed

When you're in a situation that makes you angry, just simply walk away.

When I'm angry or tense, I just want to be left alone.

THEN, when I've calmed down, I can go back and talk the situation through. One should never jump into the middle of a volatile situation; lest someone could get hurt!

Oceanbreeze · 05-03-2008, 04:18 PM

As mentioned above, when I'm angry it's best to leave me alone for awhile until I've had a chance to calm down.

Generally, I remove myself from the situation to deal with my anger. Usually, I will listen to music or play a computer game. I've also gone and taken a soothing bath to help me relax. Then, I come back and discuss the matter with the person I'm angry with.

~♥~Pinky~♥~ · 05-03-2008, 04:37 PM

Lucia, When I was kid. My staff and teachers told me to calm down when I got angry. It's same with my mom told me to calm down and ignore anyone. Now, I know how to handle with my angry if anyone hurt me or mess around with me. I will ignore and walk away. Everyone does have problem with anger. Some don't. No one is perfect.

~♥~Pinky~♥~ · 05-03-2008, 04:38 PM

Same here.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Oceanbreeze

As mentioned above, when I'm angry it's best to leave me alone for awhile until I've had a chance to calm down.

Generally, I remove myself from the situation to deal with my anger. Usually, I will listen to music or play a computer game. I've also gone and taken a soothing bath to help me relax. Then, I come back and discuss the matter with the person I'm angry with.

~♥~Pinky~♥~ · 05-03-2008, 05:24 PM

I hope you're not treat me a crap. You thought I have a mental illness?? That's wrong! I don't have any mental problem. Don't blame on me! I am tired of it. I want to admit you what I have. Go check it out. Start with R......... P........ or V........ I....... Go figure it out yourself. I don't want you to reject me. Not about Mental. I am shy what I have R........... P............ I hope you're nice to me.

I don't appericate with 2 person sent me a private message to treated me crap and blame on me. I don't like them. I am not comfortable to post about my personal. I am tired of drama over mental issues. That's wrong!!!! I want to express out my feeling with my anger in past. Why they said I was BS. That's not!! They don't know me at all. Y ou both are too much drama with me. I am a new at alldeaf. why you're start bring up drama with me??? That's enough! I am not interesting into dramas or argue with me. LET DROP THE SUBJECT!!!!!! I mean it. (Sighing)

Hey other people who don't drama or argue with me. Don't worry about it. Only 2 person I know who. They started to argue with me. Knock it off!

Oceanbreeze · 05-03-2008, 05:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pinky678

I hope you're not treat me a crap. You thought I have a mental illness?? That's wrong! I don't have any mental problem. Don't blame on me! I am tired of it. I want to admit you what I have. Go check it out. Start with R......... P........ or V........ I....... Go figure it out yourself. I don't want you to reject me. Not about Mental. I am shy what I have R........... P............ I hope you're nice to me.

Cheri · 05-03-2008, 11:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pinky678

I used to have an emotional problem when I was kid and teen life. I always get out of control with my anger. I was bitter what I have. I am not telling you what I have. I am a denying what I have. It's not a mental problem. It's other. I attended to Deaf School. The kids were cruel and picking on me. They love to see my angry. They were immature about this. They have no heart who I was. When I was join to deaf school with my SEE sign language. I was a nerd girl. They were brainwashed. They were judge on my sign language. I decide to learn ASL. I learned it fast way. I do have problem with my emotional and depress. I attend to counseling for 10 years. I have no longer with counselor anymore. I am doing fine and happy. I am growing up as adult now. If I do have angry. I have to stop and re think. I want to be alone to calm down. I am different than my age from kid and teen.

I'm sorry to hear what you had went through,

Some people can be mean and rude forgets that there is a real human being with real feelings.

~♥~Pinky~♥~ · 05-03-2008, 11:53 PM

Thank you for understand how do I feeling. You're very nice to me!

I am dong good so far. That's right we all are human. That's life! I can forgive to anyone for make mistake. If anyone don't nice to me. I will not be nice to them back. It's fair! They need to understand how I do feeling!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cheri

I'm sorry to hear what you had went through,

Some people can be mean and rude forgets that there is a real human being with real feelings.

jillio · 05-04-2008, 02:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Oceanbreeze

Did someone say "anger management?" LOL.

deafbajagal · 05-04-2008, 03:35 PM

I had a lot of anger issues growing up due to not being able to communicate freely with my family and peers. I started to engage in self-destructive behaviors such as not eating for days. One day I took up running and would run and run...eventually I got up to five miles or more daily. It really helped me channel the anger. There were days I would cry as I run...or just get into serious thoughts and sort out a problem during my run. It was a freeing experience.

Now I'm more like Vampy - it is very rare for me to get angry. If someone tries to make me mad, I usually shrug it off because I know that person is just immature and as long as I don't get mad, that person will not "win" this objective. I get angry when I feel that an education system is shortchanging students or if someone hurts a kid - that kind of thing. But generally I'm very easy going...and I've learned how to channel all the anger (if I have it) into something positive such as working out at the gym, calling a friend, and of course, go running. I also have a strong relationship with God - and that certainly is the biggest key (e.g., the power of prayer) for me.

~♥~Pinky~♥~ · 05-04-2008, 04:29 PM

That's good! I am glad that you're doing good. You're relationship with god. That's great! Keep it up!

Quote:

Originally Posted by deafbajagal

I had a lot of anger issues growing up due to not being able to communicate freely with my family and peers. I started to engage in self-destructive behaviors such as not eating for days. One day I took up running and would run and run...eventually I got up to five miles or more daily. It really helped me channel the anger. There were days I would cry as I run...or just get into serious thoughts and sort out a problem during my run. It was a freeing experience.

Now I'm more like Vampy - it is very rare for me to get angry. If someone tries to make me mad, I usually shrug it off because I know that person is just immature and as long as I don't get mad, that person will not "win" this objective. I get angry when I feel that an education system is shortchanging students or if someone hurts a kid - that kind of thing. But generally I'm very easy going...and I've learned how to channel all the anger (if I have it) into something positive such as working out at the gym, calling a friend, and of course, go running. I also have a strong relationship with God - and that certainly is the biggest key (e.g., the power of prayer) for me.

04-09-2008, 05:00 PM	#1 (permalink)
highlands In Love & Happy Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: in an inland city Posts: 4,168	Anger management I have been highly emotional ,sad and a little aggressive nowadays so this has made me think that I should have some knowledge on anger management and practice it. How do you deal with your anger that especially caused by emotional factors like love,friendship issuses ? What techniques could be appropriate to cool down mood ? Any suggestion is welcome __________________

04-09-2008, 06:33 PM	#2 (permalink)
PuyoPiyo My Property!! >:( Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Fourth Plain Village WA Posts: 5,140	Well I was used to be in the anger management during my high school because I have lot of fights with my parents, we fight like everyday. We fight because I was fighting for my independence and my parents refuse to trust me due to my irresponiblities attitude toward to my sleep time, the school, stealing, the drugs, etc, it's just that I was rebel-type teen boy. One of the example about my anger problem, after the school during I was sophomore, I walked to the bus stop expecting to ride to my friend's place, but my mom drove by and told me that I have a doctor approitment and I told her that I don't want to go to the doctor approitment because I think it's unnecessary, I don't remember why I have to go to the doctor, but I finally accept get in my mom's car and we continue fighting over the doctor approitment, I have been kept telling her that I am willing to pay for the cancelation fee which my mom refuse to allow me to do so. Till we parked at the clinic's parking lot, right after I got out of the car, I told my mom "You're damn lucky that I am not going to hurt you", I was beating on my backpack on the concrete floor and destroy alot of things inside the backpack include the backpack itself, my mom was crying because I scared her. After that, she finally let me go and didn't go to the doctor approitment. Anyway, while I was used to attend the anger management, I find it just okay, but not help my situation with parents that much so I decide to go to the consuler instead and again it seems doesn't help neither because my parents kept gaining their "parential power" over me which cause me fighting with them more. How did I solve my own issue with parents? I decide to change my room into a "mini studio apartment" which have the little living room with tv and couch, a bed, also I even buy my own foods and put them inside my closet, also I got a car so that I don't have to use my parent's living room, their foods, their cars, etc. The reason why I was doing this because I was trying to make things that I need turn into disconnect with parents which my parents can't really do anything with it. The lastly I would ever seriously fight with my parents was the first month of my Senior Year with my dad. At the morning, my dad want me to go to Seattle to work with him for his business which I refuse to accept because I have to go to the school, but my dad refuse to allow me to go to the school, we kept fighting in the house till I finally tried to run to my car, but my dad chased me and got in the car. We both was in the car and I have been asking him to get out of my car because he was making me late for the school, it was like 5 min I have been asking him to get out of my car so I was very fed up with him, then took my heavy keychain then smashing on my dad's leg with my key and we fought in physcially, till my dad finally choked me with the seatbelt then I stomped my dad's face with my keychain then my dad backed off from me and I took my backpack, then got out of the car. I walked away from the house and the car, I kept walking for like 45 minutes to a supermarket, then called my mom and telling her what happened. After that, I went to my friend's place and stayed there for like 4 days without my parents knowing, I bet they have been looking for me those days. I came back to my parent's place and my parents was home. We didn't talked at all till next day, my dad apologized to me and he promised to not try to force me to do whatever he want me to do. My parents finally recognized my independence. That is what made my Senior Year in the high school goes very smooth while my Freshmen, Sophomore, and Junior years was the worst, I don't steal anymore, rarely use the drugs except for smoking the cigarettes, I also own a car and drive, buying my own foods all the times, many things that I do on my own. Also after the graduate, I moved out immedately to stay away from the conflict with parnets. Independence is all I want and I had fought for it many times, I even was arrested over the Diet Pepsi, there's lot of things I fought over little stuff with my parents.. Sometimes it's better to think about the solution instead of creating the emenies. Also I notice when the fight become more serious, it's better for me to walk away from them to calm down, but in the notice, they don't always leave me alone so sometimes I have to lock myself inside a room to keep them away from me. Just my advice __________________

04-09-2008, 10:59 PM	#4 (permalink)
*VamPyroX* bloody phreak from hell Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Hell Posts: 27,844	I don't really know any good suggestions. I don't get mad easily. If someone tries to piss me off, I just ignore them. If I have problems with something, I will stop and take a break. It helps me to re-think about what I can do. If someone is causing problems for me, I talk to them about it. If they refuse to listen, then I take myself out of the situation so that it doesn't involve me any more. __________________ Check out my city... CLICK HERE! (If you already visited yesterday, visit again today!)

05-03-2008, 01:37 PM	#9 (permalink)
~♥~Pinky~♥~ Registered User Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 4,679	I used to have an emotional problem when I was kid and teen life. I always get out of control with my anger. I was bitter what I have. I am not telling you what I have. I am a denying what I have. It's not a mental problem. It's other. I attended to Deaf School. The kids were cruel and picking on me. They love to see my angry. They were immature about this. They have no heart who I was. When I was join to deaf school with my SEE sign language. I was a nerd girl. They were brainwashed. They were judge on my sign language. I decide to learn ASL. I learned it fast way. I do have problem with my emotional and depress. I attend to counseling for 10 years. I have no longer with counselor anymore. I am doing fine and happy. I am growing up as adult now. If I do have angry. I have to stop and re think. I want to be alone to calm down. I am different than my age from kid and teen. __________________

05-03-2008, 04:18 PM	#12 (permalink)
Oceanbreeze Happy Holidays to all! Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: S. FL Posts: 6,842	As mentioned above, when I'm angry it's best to leave me alone for awhile until I've had a chance to calm down. Generally, I remove myself from the situation to deal with my anger. Usually, I will listen to music or play a computer game. I've also gone and taken a soothing bath to help me relax. Then, I come back and discuss the matter with the person I'm angry with. __________________ "And I don't want the world to see me 'Cause I don't think that they'd understand When everything's made to be broken I just want you to know who I am" ~Goo Goo Dolls Iris

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04-09-2008, 09:51 PM	#3 (permalink)
jillio Banned Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,197	PiyoPuyo had some very good suggestions. Removing yourself from the situation so that you have wome quiet time to get your emotions under control helps. It allows you to look at the situation more objectively. Also, when it comes to friendships and relationships, we often react to things based on a situation in the past that makes us read intentions into the situation that weren't really there. For instance, if we have been hurt in the past, we will be overly sensitive to anything we perceive as a slight or an insult, even if perhaps it wasn't intended that way. Many times, all we need to do is ask ourself if the way we feel is really the result of what just happened, or the way we feel about what just happened because of something we experienced in the past. Quite often, what we feel has absolutely nothing to do with present circumstance. Just because we feel hurt, and then angry at another, doesn't necessarily mean that the person set out intentionally to hurt us. You are one step ahead of the game by realizing already that your emotions govern the way you react to a situation, and that emotions can cause all of us to overeact at times. Just allow yourself some quiet time to sort through the situation objectively, and be easy on yourself if you overreact. It happens to all of us. The best thing to do is admit that you overeacted because of something else, make apologies if needed, and resolve to do better the next time.

04-10-2008, 12:45 AM	#5 (permalink)
XBGMER Registered User Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 3,455	simple: See red flag when If you feeling tense build an anger fuse to blow up. you better walk away instant than keep recycle of voilence and remorses.. PLEASE..NEVER IGNORE "RED FLAG" AS YOUR ALERT TOOL!

05-03-2008, 06:57 AM	#7 (permalink)
Jiro YOU DOMESTIC DISSENT! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: NJ Posts: 7,358	hmmm... techniques... i don't know but this is what i can think of on top of my head. i remember this scene from Bad Boys where you rub your earlobes and say "wooooo-sssaaaahhhhh" does that help?

05-03-2008, 04:37 PM	#13 (permalink)
~♥~Pinky~♥~ Registered User Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 4,679	Lucia, When I was kid. My staff and teachers told me to calm down when I got angry. It's same with my mom told me to calm down and ignore anyone. Now, I know how to handle with my angry if anyone hurt me or mess around with me. I will ignore and walk away. Everyone does have problem with anger. Some don't. No one is perfect. __________________

05-03-2008, 05:24 PM	#15 (permalink)
~♥~Pinky~♥~ Registered User Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 4,679	I hope you're not treat me a crap. You thought I have a mental illness?? That's wrong! I don't have any mental problem. Don't blame on me! I am tired of it. I want to admit you what I have. Go check it out. Start with R......... P........ or V........ I....... Go figure it out yourself. I don't want you to reject me. Not about Mental. I am shy what I have R........... P............ I hope you're nice to me. I don't appericate with 2 person sent me a private message to treated me crap and blame on me. I don't like them. I am not comfortable to post about my personal. I am tired of drama over mental issues. That's wrong!!!! I want to express out my feeling with my anger in past. Why they said I was BS. That's not!! They don't know me at all. Y ou both are too much drama with me. I am a new at alldeaf. why you're start bring up drama with me??? That's enough! I am not interesting into dramas or argue with me. LET DROP THE SUBJECT!!!!!! I mean it. (Sighing) Hey other people who don't drama or argue with me. Don't worry about it. Only 2 person I know who. They started to argue with me. Knock it off! __________________

05-04-2008, 03:35 PM	#20 (permalink)
deafbajagal Jasmine's Tiger "Lilly" Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: USA Posts: 2,107	I had a lot of anger issues growing up due to not being able to communicate freely with my family and peers. I started to engage in self-destructive behaviors such as not eating for days. One day I took up running and would run and run...eventually I got up to five miles or more daily. It really helped me channel the anger. There were days I would cry as I run...or just get into serious thoughts and sort out a problem during my run. It was a freeing experience. Now I'm more like Vampy - it is very rare for me to get angry. If someone tries to make me mad, I usually shrug it off because I know that person is just immature and as long as I don't get mad, that person will not "win" this objective. I get angry when I feel that an education system is shortchanging students or if someone hurts a kid - that kind of thing. But generally I'm very easy going...and I've learned how to channel all the anger (if I have it) into something positive such as working out at the gym, calling a friend, and of course, go running. I also have a strong relationship with God - and that certainly is the biggest key (e.g., the power of prayer) for me.

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