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You get out of your house and see things through another's window. Just because you have no problem with being deaf doesn't mean that your child or another's won't have problems with it. This is a cruel world we live in. You think your child won't get made fun of because he/she is deaf? But wait they wouldn't hear it if they were being made fun of so I suppose that doesn't matter. Unless of course they get beat up. Then that might be classified as torture. |
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We may not "hear" ourselves being made fun of, but we're very well darned aware of it. So it DOES matter. |
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They remember. I am out of my house looking through the windows of my clients about 50-60 hours a week. You think a child won't get made fun of for wearing a CI? You think a child won't get made fun of because of any numerous things? That is what kids do to each other. The way to raise a healthy child is not to insulate them from the world. It is to give them the skills and the values to maintain their identity and self esteem in spite of these things. Giving them the message that they need to be fixed only re-inforces the teasing and the bullying and destroys them from the inside out. You continue to look at only the superficial. I hope that one day will change for you. |
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Children are resilient. They bounce back from pain/illnesses a lot faster than adults and generally forget it. You sound like you were an over-protective mom. That's your choice. But that is neither here nor there as this is a forum for Hearing Aid and/or CI users who want to talk about THEIR HAs and/or CIs.
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Soooo, because children have a natural resilience it is perfectly okay to cause them unnecessary pain? And that resillience wears thin after a while. I see it every day in my contact with deaf adolescents of hearing parents. Over protective? LOL. Boy, are you mistaken. |
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Interesting. How do you find time to come here and belittle those of us who are happy with our CIs and HAs?
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I am not belittling anyone. That is your defensive position that causes you to see things that way, not me. I don't see a lot of "happiness" being posted around here. Perhaps your definition of happiness is different from most. Those that are happy and well satisfied and secure with their decisions generally do not spend so much time attempting to defend them. |
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Perhaps I should mention the fact that I am profoundly deaf. I wear only one hearing aid in my right ear. I cannot hear anything at all in my left ear, despite the fact the hearing test showed that I can hear better in that one. Go figure!
My parents started raising me with the oral-only method on the advice of the family doctor who died shortly after. They realized that it wasn't working by the time I was three. They decided to adapt the SEE method. Suddenly, everything became much easier for everyone involved. I started learning ASL in the fourth grade. Yes, I did have speech therapy for years, just in case you were wondering. I was in a total communication program for the deaf at a public school from kindergarten to grade six. After that, I decided to attend a school for the deaf. I graduated with the highest grades in the school leading to a post-secondary scholarship awarded by the government. After I graduated from high school, I decided to enter a college. They provided interpreters. No problem. I graduated with honours. Yep, yep. I have a full-time employment. I own a car. I own a house. I have a wonderful wife. I enjoy my life a lot. I cherish and enjoy the gift of life that I have been given. I don't take life for granted and never will. To bemoan the absence of the ability to hear on a daily basis is just sad and a waste of time. If you want to hear, go for it. If you feel the need to get defensive with us over the choices you make in your life, it shows that you are not fully confident in yourself. If you are confident and comfortable with the choices you have made, you would not see the need to argue with people over it. Just let it be. You should be happy to be who you are and take pride in the choices you have made with your life. Life is short, enjoy it while you can. |
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A CI doesn't make us feel deaf. Getting one doesn't make us feel deaf. It does however make us deaf When we are not wearing it. Otherwise we are still able to hear. You seem to get told a lot about these CI's however you don't actually have one. So I consider your input irrelevant. Also you say you see resilience wearing thin in all your adolescents. The definition of adolescent is the process of developing from a child to an adult. That generally is about ages 15-20 or so. However we are talking about implanting a child at maybe 13 months or maybe a year or two old. They won't remember any of it, unless you tell them. How much of your childhood do you remember? |
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I felt like a normal person, except to hear, functioning perfectly normal, dealing with whatever life throws at me. |
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You remember moments but the pain goes away fairly quickly and besides you only feel pain for about the first 3-5 days. And its not that bad if you take the medicine they give you..
And to jillio Narcotics aren't bad when they aren't abused. If you take it as prescribed and no more then no harm done. Also I consider it a drug not a narcotic. Even if it is a narcotic that makes it sound illegal. it isn't illegal when its prescribed.. |
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And we are not intentionally arguing. As I said you guys came in here. |
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Yep a title stating for PAITENT'S and yet those who have not gone through the process come and spew their drudge and try to get those who made the choice to use a device that WORKS face it CI's are here to stay like it or not!
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Maybe that is when "reality" will sink in. |
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so far i have seen no one mentioned if ci is bad. They were only stating that they feel perfectly fine without relying on the form of making sounds as well. Only if someone mentioned how much silent it was without relying on the form of making sounds. nothing else.
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Sorry PFH,
Im just pissed off at some of the crap I have been reading on here and am quite frankly tired of seeing people tell those of us who have gone through the process of a CI that we are wrong or done something wrong that is destroying deaf culture. I for one would never be a part of such a culture if this is how they treat other's that are like themself.
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It's not wise to lump all of us into one category. We (including you) are all individuals and offer different viewpoints to the threads here at AllDeaf. We just have to agree to disagree. That's what I always do here. The thing about life is, it never stays the same. It never does. You cannot preserve your life as it is. It's always changing. You just have to adapt to it and make some changes to go with it as well. My life is radically different now compared to the life I had twenty years ago. However, I can say without hesitation that I am a very happy person. Why? Because I chose to be. |
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Talk about being so insecure that you have to belittle my intelligence. Thank you for proving me right. |
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It will work out just fine for my career, as I have been promised to work hearing or not. If i can't do my normal job I will be running a camera, which is kinda ironic because thats how i lost my hearing in the first place. But whats to lose? My hearing? I already lost that. I am in reality, and the reality is that your apparently in hell.. And last time I checked the devil never had anything good to say!
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