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webexplorer · 01-02-2012, 10:53 PM

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MoMo_2010 · 02-12-2012, 06:02 PM

Hey Everyone

When i first thought about it i thought it was when i was 15 but thinking back to it when i was younger i think i showed signs then. When my family would go on holiday and we went to Butlins, i used to always want to be round the pretty redcoats or older attractive girls. When i was 15 i started having 'dreams' about girls but i shrugged it off. I thought i just admired them, i certainly admired them alright! but not in the way i thought. It wasn't til i was 19 when i started to really think about it and then i met my gf

I came out to my mum as bi when i was 20 and she thought i was joking but she said she loves me no matter what. Though she always comments on guys and says how she doesn't think i am. I came out to my friends Feb 2011 and they said it doesn't change who i am. I love them! I have great friends. I haven't come out to everybody though just the people close to me.

Kellieheartsyou · 03-06-2012, 10:08 PM

I liked girls as long as I can remember. But, didn't know there was a name for it until I was 11 and came out just before I turned 13.

bexhet · 07-07-2012, 12:54 AM

I realized I was attracted to guys when I was 14 and came out to friends when I was 15. My mom outed me when I was 15 because she looked through my notes I had written with a friend and they mentioned me being gay. She was cool with it, she just felt like I should not have hid it from her.

darkbunny101 · 07-19-2012, 04:21 PM

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Originally Posted by LuciaDisturbed

How old were you when you first suspected you might be gay or lesbian and how old were you when you came out of the closet?

I am very confused. Lets just keep it at that.

I always kinda knew that I was not 100% straight since I was 7 but denyed it. I kind of addimitted it to myself when I was 12 when I began to develop some crushes. When I was 15 I sort of developed this relationship with a girl at cadets, it kinda went down the drain when she dropped the L-bomb on me to soon.

I still haven't came out of the closet yet. I am still trying to sort out everything.

rayne127 · 07-20-2012, 05:39 PM

I was 11 when I realized I like guys, not girls. I kept my feelings secret because all the other boys in my class were talking about girls, so I thought something was wrong with me. A year later I found out that me liking other boys was "gay" and that being gay is generally not accepted by most people, so I decided to keep it a secret from everyone. When I was 13 I told a couple of my "close" friends that I am gay, expecting them to keep it a secret since I asked them to, but they in turn started telling other people. This caused a lot of problems in school for me, and I denied being gay to anyone who mentioned it. I came out to my mom when I was 14 because the problems at school were getting too difficult for me to handle, and I knew I could count on my mom to help me through them. After that I decided I just don't give a f*ck what people think about me, so I stopped denying my sexuality to anything who said anything to me. This caused a lot more problems with my classmates, so I started home schooling the rest of the year. The following year I went back to public school. It was still tough, but better than the previous year. Things got a little better each year through the rest of high school. Now I'm super happy with myself and I'm glad for the decisions that I made then and all the suffering I went through because I feel it's made me a stronger person.

deafdrummer · 07-21-2012, 06:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LuciaDisturbed

How old were you when you first suspected you might be gay or lesbian and how old were you when you came out of the closet?

Oh... I'd say I was 13...

**Foxrac** · 07-22-2012, 01:21 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LuciaDisturbed

How old were you when you first suspected you might be gay or lesbian and how old were you when you came out of the closet?

I started suspected that I'm bisexual when I was 7 years old because I stared at some boys and had play and hug with one boy at PE. It can be earlier as 3 years old or 4 years old because I got play with my best friend ever, boy, such as petting the clothes, hugging and feel the hair. It can be between 3 years old to 7 years old, hard to remember about exact age.

I don't know about word "gay" and "bisexual" until 10 years old so I started came out when I was 14 years old but lucky, my parent accepted me, however my father was in somewhere uncomfortable with me so finally he accepted me in few days later.

caz12 · 07-22-2012, 04:16 AM

i in my 60's and still waiting find out if gay, my husband is though but he got crap sense of fashion

SteveB · 08-25-2012, 09:12 PM

Looking back, I've been attracted to other guys since I was 5-6. I actually thought that all men were attracted to other men, but you had to date women. I didn't do anything about it until college though. Didn't come out for another 7 years. I think I'm just a slow learner...

MushyCookies · 08-31-2012, 04:57 AM

At first, i was not sure about Bisexuality. I was 15, I brushed it off as if it was nothing until I was about 19. I finally realized.... wait, i really like women too. I would catch myself checking the ladies out unintentionally heh. Had to do a lot of "explaining" to some people to avoid problems. I Loved hugs and cuddles from them, I like their gentle touch a lot. <3

DeafTim · 08-31-2012, 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by MushyCookies

At first, i was not sure about Bisexuality. I was 15, I brushed it off as if it was nothing until I was about 19. I finally realized.... wait, i really like women too. I would catch myself checking the ladies out unintentionally heh. Had to do a lot of "explaining" to some people to avoid problems. I Loved hugs and cuddles from them, I like their gentle touch a lot. <3

very sexy...

I want to hug you and all your female friends together.

caz12 · 08-31-2012, 03:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Dixie

I was probably 7 or 8 when I realized that I was different somehow aside from deafness. I think by the time I graduated I had realized that I was gay, but was afraid to admit it. I got married, had a crappy relationship at best, and after my divorce I realized I was gay, but I was living my life with one foot out of the closet. It was kind of weird because I never actually admitted I was gay to anyone particular person until I was finally going out with a girl friend that was steady for about a year. After that, I was like, yeah OK, this is nice because this is the first respectful relationship I was ever in. We loved each other, but with myself staying so busy she broke it off because she felt like I wasn't able to give her enough time.

Ironically, it wasn't until after we had broken up that I started officially coming out to whoever asked. Ironically, coming out to my friends wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. At one point in time, I had actually considered just posting a small blurb on Facebook that would have been simple: "I'm gay."

But however, that seems to be changing because God has been working in my life recently. I have decided to become a Christian and that this homosexuality is a burden to be carried and eventually the desire will end. This doesn't mean that I am homophobic, it just means that I feel like being gay isn't right for me and my beliefs. The desire hasn't gone away over night, but I just still feel like it's not right for me. I also find myself getting upset when I hear someone bashing homosexuals. They are just as human as myself. When you judge a person's sexuality - you're judging their feelings, their emotions, the way they see themselves, and the way they live. I don't like it when people use the Bible to condemn and degrade homosexuals. I also don't like it when I hear of a student being bullied because he/she is gay or he/she is perceived as being gay by their peers. There is a better way. I just love homosexuals the way I would love anyone else. It's not my place to judge, but it is my place to show them love and understanding because I have been there and I know what they are going through.

If anyone wants to talk - feel free to PM me.

so god and your religion do not allow you to be true to yourself,being gay is not something you turn off unless you very shallow....grow a pair of nads accept what you are then be loud and proud to show the world being christian and gayness do not preclude each other

MushyCookies · 08-31-2012, 08:26 PM

Caz, do not bash her.

behindthemask · 08-31-2012, 10:42 PM

-C No, you have to accept what Dixie believe in, it's her life, not yours and she's not harming anyone with her beliefs. In her eyes, she's being true to god.

-M It sucks you have to explain to some people. Hope they didn't have any issues with you. It's scary to be open to someone when you don't really know what their reaction would be.

behindthemask · 08-31-2012, 10:43 PM

I've always known that I like girls ever since I understood what attraction was and that was when I was nine. Growing up I thought I was bisexual and I was kind of confused. I can be attracted to guys emotionally but after having sexual experiences with guys, I knew I am 100% lesbian.

MushyCookies · 09-01-2012, 12:32 AM

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Originally Posted by behindthemask

-M It sucks you have to explain to some people. Hope they didn't have any issues with you. It's scary to be open to someone when you don't really know what their reaction would be.

I don't do that anymore now that i know who i am really and what i am looking for. I am not here to be someone people want me to be.

behindthemask · 09-01-2012, 01:04 AM

Exactly =]

I believe bi people are really lucky. Deep down I truly want to have the option to love both genders, though it doesn't stop me from finding men attractive. If you know Linkin Park, Chester Bennington is the most beautiful man I've ever seen!

caz12 · 09-01-2012, 01:02 PM

if you gay or bisexual come out as soon as possible if not you not be true to yourself and it cause pain for other people..

gypseaemily · 11-02-2012, 06:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LuciaDisturbed

How old were you when you first suspected you might be gay or lesbian and how old were you when you came out of the closet?

I was 12 when I first realized I was a lesbian, although I did not allow myself to fully realize the thought because of the way I was brought up. I finally came out of the closet 11 years later, at age 23. Since then I have been more myself than I ever have been before.

deafdrummer · 11-02-2012, 11:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LuciaDisturbed

How old were you when you first suspected you might be gay or lesbian and how old were you when you came out of the closet?

I was 13 at the time. Except with a strange twist to it... I was living as a male until early 30s. I knew that if I were to transition, I would have to be lesbian with an understanding woman. That is where I am today. I transitioned to be the woman I am today. But the understanding woman was killed by a drunk driver this year...

I came out in my late 20s only to Mom, who loved me anyway. Years, later, I was to have come out to Mom (I decided to transition in January) but she died in late February, so I never got to tell her that I was going to do it after all. This was in 1998. I had just started counseling for my transition just barely a week before her passing.

asl_rainbow · 11-06-2012, 11:27 AM

I have always known, but I did not come out yet.

ap1287 · 11-07-2012, 12:59 PM

I guess I always knew I was different. But I really knew I was attracted to the same sex when I was about 12. I am also a christian and because of what my church had always told me I was hesitant to come out. I didn't come out until I was 19 and about 200 miles away from my family and my church family. Many of them still accept me because they have broadened their view.

Yesterday in the election, the people of Maryland voted to allow same sex marriages in the state starting January 1st. I hope this is upheld and I will be able to get married in the state I currently live in!!

oompa2003 · 11-07-2012, 05:50 PM

i never really thought about my sexuality and really didn't notice myself noticing other girls until i was in the 7th grade. i came out to some friends when i was 15 and fully came out a year later. most people were like duh i already knew that.

Devyn231 · 03-31-2013, 12:07 AM

By the 3rd or 4th grade I was pretty sure I felt different than others. I guess I've always known I was different but wasn't sure what it ment at a young age. As I got older I pretty much fought against it until last year when I came out to friends and family. Life is SOOO much easier & am very VERY thankful I have a great circle of understanding family & friends!!!!

caz12 · 03-31-2013, 09:13 AM

my husband was in 50's god knows what was in his brain before that

ladysolitary85 · 04-02-2013, 02:45 AM

I have always liked girls, I had a few relationships in jr high/high school (though extremely secretive about it) My mom caught me with one of my ex girlfriend one morning. She thought it was pretty much a phase so when we moved to a new town I tried to explore what it was like dating guy and thought I was perhaps bisexual since my interest in girls was still there (but only very close friends knew about it) and something was missing and deep down inside I knew that.

After my last ex boyfriend I just decided to be honest with myself and be who I wanted to really be. I met my current girlfriend, and last year I decided to come out completely as a lesbian. My whole family knows, everyone around me knows. Gotta say best decision of my life was being honest with myself.

07-07-2012, 12:54 AM	#34 (permalink)
bexhet Registered User Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Milwaukee, WI Posts: 9	I realized I was attracted to guys when I was 14 and came out to friends when I was 15. My mom outed me when I was 15 because she looked through my notes I had written with a friend and they mentioned me being gay. She was cool with it, she just felt like I should not have hid it from her. Andy likes this.

08-31-2012, 04:57 AM	#41 (permalink)
MushyCookies Registered User Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Salem, Oregon. Posts: 413	At first, i was not sure about Bisexuality. I was 15, I brushed it off as if it was nothing until I was about 19. I finally realized.... wait, i really like women too. I would catch myself checking the ladies out unintentionally heh. Had to do a lot of "explaining" to some people to avoid problems. I Loved hugs and cuddles from them, I like their gentle touch a lot. <3 __________________ May The Force Be With You. Last edited by MushyCookies; 08-31-2012 at 12:35 PM.

08-31-2012, 08:26 PM	#44 (permalink)
MushyCookies Registered User Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Salem, Oregon. Posts: 413	Caz, do not bash her. __________________ May The Force Be With You.

08-31-2012, 10:43 PM	#46 (permalink)
behindthemask Registered User Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Raccoon City Posts: 453	I've always known that I like girls ever since I understood what attraction was and that was when I was nine. Growing up I thought I was bisexual and I was kind of confused. I can be attracted to guys emotionally but after having sexual experiences with guys, I knew I am 100% lesbian. MushyCookies likes this.

04-02-2013, 02:45 AM	#57 (permalink)
ladysolitary85 Registered User Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: CA Posts: 1,514	I have always liked girls, I had a few relationships in jr high/high school (though extremely secretive about it) My mom caught me with one of my ex girlfriend one morning. She thought it was pretty much a phase so when we moved to a new town I tried to explore what it was like dating guy and thought I was perhaps bisexual since my interest in girls was still there (but only very close friends knew about it) and something was missing and deep down inside I knew that. After my last ex boyfriend I just decided to be honest with myself and be who I wanted to really be. I met my current girlfriend, and last year I decided to come out completely as a lesbian. My whole family knows, everyone around me knows. Gotta say best decision of my life was being honest with myself. __________________ Severe loss in left Profound loss in right

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02-12-2012, 06:02 PM	#32 (permalink)
MoMo_2010 Registered User Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: England Posts: 11	Hey Everyone When i first thought about it i thought it was when i was 15 but thinking back to it when i was younger i think i showed signs then. When my family would go on holiday and we went to Butlins, i used to always want to be round the pretty redcoats or older attractive girls. When i was 15 i started having 'dreams' about girls but i shrugged it off. I thought i just admired them, i certainly admired them alright! but not in the way i thought. It wasn't til i was 19 when i started to really think about it and then i met my gf I came out to my mum as bi when i was 20 and she thought i was joking but she said she loves me no matter what. Though she always comments on guys and says how she doesn't think i am. I came out to my friends Feb 2011 and they said it doesn't change who i am. I love them! I have great friends. I haven't come out to everybody though just the people close to me.

03-06-2012, 10:08 PM	#33 (permalink)
Kellieheartsyou Registered User Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 3	I liked girls as long as I can remember. But, didn't know there was a name for it until I was 11 and came out just before I turned 13.

07-20-2012, 05:39 PM	#36 (permalink)
rayne127 Registered User Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Cleveland, OH Posts: 30	I was 11 when I realized I like guys, not girls. I kept my feelings secret because all the other boys in my class were talking about girls, so I thought something was wrong with me. A year later I found out that me liking other boys was "gay" and that being gay is generally not accepted by most people, so I decided to keep it a secret from everyone. When I was 13 I told a couple of my "close" friends that I am gay, expecting them to keep it a secret since I asked them to, but they in turn started telling other people. This caused a lot of problems in school for me, and I denied being gay to anyone who mentioned it. I came out to my mom when I was 14 because the problems at school were getting too difficult for me to handle, and I knew I could count on my mom to help me through them. After that I decided I just don't give a f*ck what people think about me, so I stopped denying my sexuality to anything who said anything to me. This caused a lot more problems with my classmates, so I started home schooling the rest of the year. The following year I went back to public school. It was still tough, but better than the previous year. Things got a little better each year through the rest of high school. Now I'm super happy with myself and I'm glad for the decisions that I made then and all the suffering I went through because I feel it's made me a stronger person.

07-22-2012, 04:16 AM	#39 (permalink)
caz12 Registered User Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 2,837	i in my 60's and still waiting find out if gay, my husband is though but he got crap sense of fashion

08-25-2012, 09:12 PM	#40 (permalink)
SteveB Registered User Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Washington DC Posts: 92	Looking back, I've been attracted to other guys since I was 5-6. I actually thought that all men were attracted to other men, but you had to date women. I didn't do anything about it until college though. Didn't come out for another 7 years. I think I'm just a slow learner...

08-31-2012, 10:42 PM	#45 (permalink)
behindthemask Registered User Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Raccoon City Posts: 453	-C No, you have to accept what Dixie believe in, it's her life, not yours and she's not harming anyone with her beliefs. In her eyes, she's being true to god. -M It sucks you have to explain to some people. Hope they didn't have any issues with you. It's scary to be open to someone when you don't really know what their reaction would be.

09-01-2012, 01:04 AM	#48 (permalink)
behindthemask Registered User Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Raccoon City Posts: 453	Exactly =] I believe bi people are really lucky. Deep down I truly want to have the option to love both genders, though it doesn't stop me from finding men attractive. If you know Linkin Park, Chester Bennington is the most beautiful man I've ever seen!

09-01-2012, 01:02 PM	#49 (permalink)
caz12 Registered User Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 2,837	if you gay or bisexual come out as soon as possible if not you not be true to yourself and it cause pain for other people..

11-06-2012, 11:27 AM	#52 (permalink)
asl_rainbow Registered User Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: new orleans, louisiana Posts: 6	I have always known, but I did not come out yet.

11-07-2012, 12:59 PM	#53 (permalink)
ap1287 Registered User Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Maryland Posts: 30	I guess I always knew I was different. But I really knew I was attracted to the same sex when I was about 12. I am also a christian and because of what my church had always told me I was hesitant to come out. I didn't come out until I was 19 and about 200 miles away from my family and my church family. Many of them still accept me because they have broadened their view. Yesterday in the election, the people of Maryland voted to allow same sex marriages in the state starting January 1st. I hope this is upheld and I will be able to get married in the state I currently live in!!

11-07-2012, 05:50 PM	#54 (permalink)
oompa2003 Registered User Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: California Posts: 14	i never really thought about my sexuality and really didn't notice myself noticing other girls until i was in the 7th grade. i came out to some friends when i was 15 and fully came out a year later. most people were like duh i already knew that.

03-31-2013, 12:07 AM	#55 (permalink)
Devyn231 Registered User Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Michigan Posts: 69	By the 3rd or 4th grade I was pretty sure I felt different than others. I guess I've always known I was different but wasn't sure what it ment at a young age. As I got older I pretty much fought against it until last year when I came out to friends and family. Life is SOOO much easier & am very VERY thankful I have a great circle of understanding family & friends!!!!

03-31-2013, 09:13 AM	#56 (permalink)
caz12 Registered User Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 2,837	my husband was in 50's god knows what was in his brain before that

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