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Unread 09-29-2008, 12:31 PM   #1 (permalink)
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How do you tell that a person is gay or lesbian?

How do you tell if a person is gay or lesbian?

Some people assumed that I'm gay (Yea, I'm gay) because of my acting and sometimes I act straight (Depend where I go). Some gay/lesbian people can act straight and it's hard to tell.

Like for Example Clay Aiken, You could tell that he's gay because how he act or his looks.

A friend of mine who's lesbian. At first I thought she's straight but not. It's hard to tell because she act straight (she's a lipstick lebsian).

Straight guys can be mistaken for looks gay because of metrosexual?
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Unread 09-29-2008, 01:01 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Some people have well developed gaydar, and some don't.
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It is hard to tell sometimes...sometimes by her/his acting, by her/his look, etc

Sometimes I thought this person is straight but I found out he or she is gay/lesbian. I was like sometimes he or she don't even looks like gay/lesbian!
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Unread 09-29-2008, 01:35 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I have a gay sensor.

That means, I know automatically that they're gay, but I do nothing and let them be themselves and buy me drinks.
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Unread 09-29-2008, 01:38 PM   #5 (permalink)
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How do you tell if a person is gay or lesbian?

Some people assumed that I'm gay (Yea, I'm gay) because of my acting and sometimes I act straight (Depend where I go). Some gay/lesbian people can act straight and it's hard to tell.

Like for Example Clay Aiken, You could tell that he's gay because how he act or his looks.

A friend of mine who's lesbian. At first I thought she's straight but not. It's hard to tell because she act straight (she's a lipstick lebsian).

Straight guys can be mistaken for looks gay because of metrosexual?
show a pix of yourself and I will judge if you're gay or not. My gay sensor is pretty damn accurate, too.
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show a pix of yourself and I will judge if you're gay or not. My gay sensor is pretty damn accurate, too.
I will show a pix of myself later not now. I think maybe Nov or Dec.
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show a pix of yourself and I will judge if you're gay or not. My gay sensor is pretty damn accurate, too.
Oh really?
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Unread 09-29-2008, 07:30 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Oh really?
OK I admit it. I made a mistake with you but that's just one time...
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I have picked up that people were GLB from just being around them.
I remember from camp as a teen, just picking up that a couple who worked there were a couple.
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I was gonna say the same thing.

It's all a matter of how well our "gaydar" is.

It can be confusing and we shouldn't always make assumptions just by looking. Sometimes, seeing isn't always believing.

Sometimes, it can be very obvious... but I'm not going to get involved. For instance, if I see a guy kissing another guy... I'm not going to bluntly ask "Hey, that's your boyfriend!?"
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Some people have well developed gaydar, and some don't.
One of my best friends says that only gay people can have gaydar. I've heard the opposite.
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One of my best friends says that only gay people can have gaydar. I've heard the opposite.
I know some gay people that have malfunctioning gaydar. I have a gay friend that will ask me for confirmation on his intuitions, and I'm straight.

And it really has nothing to do with appearance or mannerisms.
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People can tell if I was gay due to my interests and personality, if they don't like it then it's their problem

But can I tell if they were gay? It depends, I just don't like to accuse in the first place before I know them.
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Just out of curiosity, how does gaydar work with deaf/hoh? I feel like my gaydar is pretty good, but I would base a lot of it on how someone talked. Do you just tell more from mannerisms? (Is there a way to sign "gay"?) I hadn't even thought of that. I think my gaydar would be broken...
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Some people have well developed gaydar, and some don't.
Hmm......

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Just out of curiosity, how does gaydar work with deaf/hoh? I feel like my gaydar is pretty good, but I would base a lot of it on how someone talked. Do you just tell more from mannerisms? (Is there a way to sign "gay"?) I hadn't even thought of that. I think my gaydar would be broken...
Deaf GLBT people have their own slang in ASL--and when one recognizes the slang--it's a confirmation of one's sexual orientation.
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Deaf GLBT people have their own slang in ASL--and when one recognizes the slang--it's a confirmation of one's sexual orientation.
What kind of slang? I went to a deaf event recently, and two of the people were joking that they had to understand english, sign language, and "GAY!!!!!!!" (yelled and with a crazy face while signing "sign language"). I think I need to learn that language.
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What kind of slang? I went to a deaf event recently, and two of the people were joking that they had to understand english, sign language, and "GAY!!!!!!!" (yelled and with a crazy face while signing "sign language"). I think I need to learn that language.
Hard to explain on the forum and putting it into words.

I suggest attending a GLBT coffee gathering where you live and meet up with the folks......

You will see what is slang and what isn't.
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Deaf GLBT people have their own slang in ASL--and when one recognizes the slang--it's a confirmation of one's sexual orientation.
So if you "get it", that makes you gay? I don't think that makes sense. I have heard lots of different slang that gays and lesbians use. Not too different from regular slang words.
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So if you "get it", that makes you gay? I don't think that makes sense. I have heard lots of different slang that gays and lesbians use. Not too different from regular slang words.
IF one is gay...
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IF one is gay...
Exactly. I have seen slang used in the GLTD deaf community, and I hear it used in the hearing GLTB community. Knowing the slang does not make me gay. However, if I hear one gay man refer to another with the statement, "Oh, yes. He's family.", I know exactly what he is talking about.
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Makes more sense now.
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have you ever say i had a "lover" or "partner"?
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have you ever say i had a "lover" or "partner"?
Personally, I refer to my girlfriend as my girlfriend (and eventually someday as my wife ), but that varies by person. I will say that I don't hear "lover" very often, but "partner" is pretty common. For undergrad, I went to a very liberal all-women's college, and it did get annoying that a lot of professors would refer to their spouses as their "partner" regardless of if they were the same or opposite sex. It made it hard to tell. By the end we were just thinking, "Look, if he's your husband, just call him your husband, nobody is offended".
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Exactly. I have seen slang used in the GLTD deaf community, and I hear it used in the hearing GLTB community. Knowing the slang does not make me gay. However, if I hear one gay man refer to another with the statement, "Oh, yes. He's family.", I know exactly what he is talking about.
What does that mean?
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Personally, I refer to my girlfriend as my girlfriend (and eventually someday as my wife ), but that varies by person. I will say that I don't hear "lover" very often, but "partner" is pretty common. For undergrad, I went to a very liberal all-women's college, and it did get annoying that a lot of professors would refer to their spouses as their "partner" regardless of if they were the same or opposite sex. It made it hard to tell. By the end we were just thinking, "Look, if he's your husband, just call him your husband, nobody is offended".
Wellsley College? Maybe they viewed it as "ownership" by stating husband? Afterall the society is patriachal enough....

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Means that they are part of the GLBT community.
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Wellsley College? Maybe they viewed it as "ownership" by stating husband? Afterall the society is patriachal enough....



Means that they are part of the GLBT community.
Thanks, Byrdie! Beat me to the punch!
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right. i'm careful because of some narrow-minded person, i use word "friend". someone knows me very well and open minded, i use word "my boyfriend" or "my lover".
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Well, when I was with Whisperhorse....she had short spikey, dyed blonde hair with men clothes.....lot of people assumed she's lesbain. She said: Nope, I'm not, it's just my style. She is pretty much a straight gal, but likes women only for fun. So, their sensor is whacked out of order. You cannot always assume people by their looks or how they behave. One guy that I know who acts gay, but he actually is into women, nothing more.
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I recall this gem by Neil S. Plakcy (on a take of Christopher's classic poem)...

Come live with me and be my love,
And we will some new pleasures prove
Of golden sands and crystal brooks
With silken lines, and silver hooks.
There's noting that I wouldn't do
If you could be my POSSLQ.

You live with me, and I with you,
And you would be my POSSLQ.
I'll be your friend and so much more;
That's what a POSSLQ is for.

And everything we will confess;
Yes, even to the IRS.
Some day on what we both may earn,
Perhaps we'll file a joint return.
You'll share my pad, taxes, joint;
You'll share my life-up to a point!
And that you'll be so glad to do,
Because you'll be my POSSLQ.
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