Irish Devil Dog

When they found out or you admitted that your gay or lesbo or BI???

For my experiences... Ahh, last year my mom and I had a hugest agurment for other reasons.. Somehow it pushed my feelings real hard (I have been wanting to admit to them that I am lesbo in long time).. So I admitted and said "I'm gay!!" in angry voice.. My mom got pissed off more and kicked me out of her home which I was invited for dinner but dad had to take me back home and I cried all the way to home... My dad asked me if im alright and i said NO... He said whats wrong and I explained.. He was like well, we knew all along that your gay.. I was and asked him how he knows?? He said becuz of one of my ex gf looks like lesbo or whatever and the way I acted... So they kept it themselves for about 2 years!! Damn them lol... Right now my parent accepted but unddy dont accept my lifestyle but accepted who I am and love me no matters what.. We had a deal that I keep my own lifestyle private and do whatever I wish to makes myself happy.

So, share your experiences w/ your parent here =D.

Deafness

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kuifje75

For me it was a very strange experience.
I was in college, and started to have more gay and lesbian friends. I didn't feel anymore that my being gay was something to be ashamed of. One weekend, I was at home, and I told my dad that I was gay. His reaction was that it didn't matter to him, that I am still his son nevertheless.

As for my mum, I think it was through a phone conversation one night. I was talking about my plans for weekend, and that included going to gay and lesbian club and meetings. My mum didn't really get it, and told me "to be careful." Later on, she finally put it together and understood.

My sister... ahhh... I don't know who came out first, me or her. She started living with this girlfriend of hers, and never told me anything. I somehow suspected anyway, but said nothing. Then on the phone, I was telling her that I told mum and dad that I was gay. She didn't say anything about her. Finally, I caught her hugging and kissing her girlfriend one night, and said so... you're lesbian!

They don't have problems with my being gay. I have brought my boyfriends to this house, and they slept here too. I think, my parents already had gay and lesbian friends in the past, so they were already open minded about it. I also suspect that my uncle is gay too!

GoldenLeaf74

lucky you your family are cool anf flexable

Irish Devil Dog

Damn your very lucky, kuifje75

Sydlie

I myself am not gay, but nearly all of my close friends are and I have supported dozens of my friends coming out. Two of the best ones, that I will never forget I absolutely HAVE to share with you.

My friend: "Um... mom... there's something I have to tell you."
His June-Cleaver-type mother: "Yes, dear?"
My friend: "I'm gay"
His Mom: "Oh well thank god you finally said something! We were really getting tired of pretending we didn't know!"

My friend: "Mom I'm gay"
His mom: "What?"
My friend: "Don't give me that 'what' shit! You're the one who gave me Vanity Smurf underoos when I was a kid! The ****ing most flaming homo of a smurf! It's your fault!"
His mom: "Oh, you said your gay? Honey, I just didn't hear you... Your father and I came to terms with you possibly being gay when you asked for Rock Star Barbie when you were 7"
My friend: "Well dammit, you should have told me! Oh gross! I've kissed a girl in front of you as a cover! Mom! I'm never going to get over that! She tasted like lipstick!" -starts spitting in the sink and rinsing his mouth out with water-
His mom (looking at me): "He behaves like a drama queen and yet he really thinks the closest people to him think he's straight? -giggle- Honey, why don't you take your head out of the sink and invite some cute boys over or something?"


My friends' parents RULE

Marj

My lord. IDD is a girl?

Marj

anyway, i'm bisexual.

i found out i was bi when i was 12 and had my first encounter when i was 13 but didnt lose virgin til i was 16.. to a boy. goddamn.

anyway i told my parents i was bi. they was like "Ph, sure, sure, this a cry for help? u just gay for attention."

Me: Mum
Mum: Whut
Me: Gotta tell ya sumthin
Mum: So say it.
Me: I'm Bi.
Mum: -choke on food-
Me: -silent-
Mum: this bullshit?
Me: Hell na, i don't joke on subjects like this
Mum: Well, damn.
Me: What?
Mum: You're just gay for attention right?
Me: :shocked: Hell no!
Mum: C'mon i know u r lying.
Me: Ok :madfawk1:
Mum: Go to ur room.
Me: No. Ima go out with a GIRL.
Mum: As long u dont lick her
Me: At least i get laid often than u do
Mum: GASP!
Me: EXIT

Irish Devil Dog

Yes I'm female... Ya thought I was a guy the whole of time?? eh?

Irish Devil Dog

Damn sydlie and Marj... your story is very 258.

DefMATRIXense

All the time, I thought you were guy until I read your thread about "admitted that I am gay" I didnt say something earlier because I thought if i said something to you, and you will get offend or something like that

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Irish Devil Dog

*Chuckles* No it won't offend me at all. Now u know I am female and butchy. =D

DoVip

Stevey Boy

I am not gay or bi. But I can see that it's hardest to admit that you're gay when your father is a leader of an anti-gay organization.

deafgal01

I haven't had this experience, so I don't know.

By the way, I found out one of my best friend is gay a few years ago. I was shocked at first, but then my common sense kicked in and I figured out that him being gay didn't change anything cuz he's still the same person I know. The only difference is he and I talk about boys now. Haha.... *blushes*

ChelEler

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Stevey Boy

Yeah, imagine that.

javapride

i came out to my mom in the worse of the worse place to tell her, in a damn car, she was driving to a meeting and i joined along after finding out i would have to sign something so i didn t mind, but i was hemming and hawwing for a while how to tell my mom and i decided right then and there just to tell my mom,

me: mom i need to tell u something..
mom: what?
Me: im a lesbain.
mom: Slamming on the brake in the middle of the freeway staring at me.
Me : MOM ur on the highway DRIVE!
mom: oh uh ok shit....
me: we'll talk more at home.
mom: nodding fine fine ....


we were quiet thru out the drive home and then finsihing my story of my feelings. I told mom just love me for me and my feeling and respect me same way i do u . ]

that pretty much was it .

Irish Devil Dog

That's very interesting stories, deafgal lol...

Java, oh yeah I remmied that story u told me before =D.. Glad she accepted who u are tho

Waz

Irish Devil Dog,

I am sorry to hear that as i hope thing does well soon, i got some friend who is lesb or gay also my bro is gay aswell, but my point of view it is wrong coz i am a strong born-again Christian, but i dont judge them of course as i respect them!

Lasza

How interested about some of us have experience for admit about lez/gay.
Let me tell you about my experience. I was rasied by my grandparents. Ofc, me pretty close to my grandfather very much. That's fact about still being tomboyish since I was little gurl. Anyway, when I start notice myself as female. Then why can't I crazy over boys very much like other gurls? *puzzled* Till I enter high school, then dated with some boys but make me feel different and loveless. Start realized that I am in love with gurls. Become more scare myself and feel "insane" myself. During early 1990's not have much educate about Lesbian and Gays culture at that time. For me remain inside the closet for many years. I was too fear to tell my family about that. Till I enter NTID/RIT in 1992, notice some gay/lesbians around. i was feel start open more more in my heart. realize my truly love is for women.
Took lot of time for thought how to say to my grandma about my truth. my grandpa passed away in 1990. I cannot figure it out how how. After I return to school for second year on end of Aug 1993 (I was 20 years old at that time). I happen feel strong enuff with high spirit at right time. Decide to make a call to my grandma in Texas that where she still lives there. we blahhh. then i told her.

Me: I want tell you something.
Grandma: What's it?
Me: I am a lesbian.
Grandma: I knew that.
Me: How do you know?
Grandma: I suspect u are lesbian all the way from TSD. Because u and houseparent did something. did houseparent make you?
Me: No, houseparent not make me lesbian. Just happen feel inside mine.
Grandma: Oh okay
Me: Are you mad?
Grandma: No I want you be happy. Be careful with women.
Me: Okay

After I told her, Feel much relief. Sadly, she hopes i change my mind for marrying a man for security. She still do. but she accept who i am. oh well. that's my life. just remmy Truth set u free.

OldNavyGirl

no, i'm not gay or bi.

MsGiglz

I am not lesbian or bi as people thought I am or was.. heh.. cuz i have tons of friends who are bi or gay/lesbian... BUT my sister is lesbian.. she still HAVE not tell my mom yet.. she is now 35 years old, she been a lesbian since she was HS.. I dont have problem with it but i dont like keep sceret from my mom so my bro too.. my bro and i decided not to tell mom cuz she is anti-almost at everything.. she didnt approved me hang out with my friends who are bi/gay/lesbian.. hehe..

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vvti low rolla

my bro is gay. he told me through aol...when he said i need to tell you something. i said what? in my mind, i knew he was going to say he is gay...so he said...im gay. i said cool, i respect you. he said thanks.

so i don't know what my parents were reactin when he told them

allisonjoy

not lez or a bi here so i dont have an experience like that...

kevbo

Travis

not gay ... at least I hope! I still like girls heh

vice

not gay or bi

nozobo

I'm happy to be gay myself but I don't tell people that I'm gay unless they asked me...

I, myself, do like all type of people men or women but have no feeling for woman, just man. But strangely I have friends, many of them were girls. Let me go far back as I can remember what the story began... I must be 8 or 9 year old in a public school where there is a small program for deaf students in a class only. There was a boy who liked and started playing with me in the bathroom stall. Of course, most common boys hate girls when they were younger, I guess I kept it that way for sexuality thing, but like girls for a good company conversation. I'm a person who can try to understand alot of people's feeling when they're upset or anything. I usually comfort them and try to get to the main reason why they're upset and try to get over it or overcome the problem. I was transferred to CSDB, Colorado School for the Deaf & Blind, which I ain't blind since i can read this thing, lol. Anyway I was transferred to CSDB when I was 11 year old in 4th grade then moved to 5th grade cuz I was above the grade level. At the time I was pissed off at my mother for sending me there cuz I was close to my mother but at the same time I'm glad she sent me there so I don't have to hear my parent fighting all the time, I mean nearly 24/7. I had a mixed feeling which I should be toward girls or boys during my middle school and part of high school year... As I entered my freshmen in HS, I had alot of emotional time with family problem, basically it's between my father and mother but my father made the whole family to be involved... I met this guy, I won't mentioned his name will explain later... Anyway I met this guy who's bi in sophomore which he liked me so I date him very secretly which no one knew about us until I became senior, he moved away. During those time, he and I did date other girls to see which it's better to be gay or straight, I kept going toward the gay thing and he decided to go straight and be with his girlfriend which I understand. He was my first boyfriend. I won't mentioned his name cuz some deaf might know him and spread the deaf community and will stab and black-name label him so that why I won't mentioned his name anyway. After I graduated, my mother beg and made me stay and not go Gallaudet last year which I want to, so I decide to do for her sake and get a job around Colorado and at same time I tried to find deaf gay people, not that many but most are in closet or being secret. As of today, my aunt, uncle, and 3 cousins all know about me and love me no matter what cuz they have gay/lesbians friends also... My brother found out about me last February, he told me being gay doesn't change anything cuz I'm still the same person my brother know me as his brother. My oldest sister found out two week ago in my mother's car I drove to drop my sister at her home and we stopped in front of her trailer and she asked me all questions and start to upset that I'm gay, etc. I told her that I am the same brother you always know all of our life and it will never change that except the fact that I have feelings for guys not woman. She asked me IF she decide she doesn't want to contact me or anything, I told her that's your own decision and I cannot change that and you cannot change my decision so therefore I have many friends who support me for who I am not what I do. She got pissed off and walked out. So I went home and she emailed to apology for our conversation. I told her no big deal but I know it's hard now but will get used to it later on. My 2nd sister, my mother, and my father still doesn't know about me yet... oh well...

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DoVip

I'm not gay! I always like only the girls.