Are you OUT ? - Page 3

Splendor · 08-06-2007, 04:04 AM

I am out, it been 4 yrs..

Mom and Dad know
Sister and Step brother know
Step Dad know

Co-worker know
Friends know

MyBlueEyes · 08-08-2007, 08:02 AM

I am NOT out of here.... hahaha

but it is not safe to even drive by the place at night for fear of getting shot...No place is safe in jax fl.

Cane Corso · 08-10-2007, 12:34 AM

If I'm straight, does it mean I am in?

blackcrow · 08-15-2007, 05:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cane Corso

If I'm straight, does it mean I am in?

No, you simply say where you stand. "I am straight". Enough said.

If you intend to say you're "in", it will come to our mind that you are "IN the closet". Naturally, I guess.

I logged in here as the new member and happily said that I'm FULLY out! Basically, everyone knows.

Badboy2 · 08-17-2007, 09:40 AM

First - longtime I did told my parent I am gay and moving to ex boyfriend. They not accept who I am. Nearly two years never heard from my parent. I write letter for them and phone them and they neva write back or phone back and neva talk to me. Few month before I left boyfriend bec not happy live and later me and my parent are back peace. So I show my parent str8 looking but when I am not with my parent to go somewhere then I am out

Second- I am out for my friend who understand me. I am in for my parent but my both sister know about me and nothing againts to me. Me an my parent neva talk about gay live. And about my work I am in bec alots of guys who work with me have no brain and no open minded. They hate gay that why I am careful for them.

MetroGuy03 · 08-17-2007, 01:35 PM

Straight people should come out as "Dad, mom, I'm straight" too.

Dixie · 08-25-2007, 03:52 PM

Its a little more odd for me though as I am involved at a SBC church and while Ive got a great deal of friends there, I dont want to ruin the one place I can go to find peace.

Maybe I should be out - but then again if your out in this area, youre good as dead. Im in and will likely remain so until I am able to move someplace where I feel comfortable coming out.

HappyBoi · 08-27-2007, 03:00 PM

Sorta, my parents know, & a few close friends of mine. I'd rather take it slow, but yessir it feels SO much better when people know, like you don't have to 'HIDE' anymore. =)

MetroGuy03 · 08-27-2007, 07:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by HappyBoi

Sorta, my parents know, & a few close friends of mine. I'd rather take it slow, but yessir it feels SO much better when people know, like you don't have to 'HIDE' anymore. =)

Right on!

Nan2950 · 09-15-2007, 09:06 AM

I am fully out.... like some of you.... I don't go running around announcing I'M A LESBIN!! If they ask.... I'd say... yep, I am. No one has the right to judge me, esp the church. This is my life and is between me and God.

I've been in a relationship with the same woman for the last 15 years and counting.

bonozdeafman · 10-20-2007, 08:46 PM

Yep - totally out there, all my family, workmates and mates know about me & dont have any problems at all. I can safety say that it's great to be gay in the 21st century

SnAzZyStyLe2002 · 10-21-2007, 04:39 AM

I'm out *only* to a selected, trusted few friends, that's it.

Unfortunately, I still stand by the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy because of my family.

I've been acting paranoid lately because some faggy idiot sabotaged my discreetness via showing my ManHunt.net profile to a friend (she later told me she's a "fag hag" lol) of mine from the current university I'm attending. I have had to delete that ManHunt profile off and create a wholly new account, with a completely reworded profile and hide all my pictures. I hate assholes like that.

Suppose the rumors just fly about and eventually reach to either the director of Student Support Services (she doesn't know about me) or even my parents ..... I shudder at the thought of the results of that.

I'm sorry, but that's just how I am ... a discreet, very picky guy who's into other normal, discreet, cute/hot, masculine, disease-free guys that are age-approximate (my age ± 3 or 4 years - 30s-somethings are exceptional), nice, and willing to learn some ASL.

I don't like any of the following:

- Cows (fat guys) ... I wouldn't wanna be squashed on my bed like a bug or rolled on top of an exercise ball
- Queenies (fem guys aka "girlie men," as CA Governor Arnold Schwarznegger would say - that had me literally laughing for days) ..... ew
- Guys old enough to be my dad/grandpa - ick
- Those with faces that can knock a buzzard off a gut wagon (in other words to be blunt, fugly-ass guys)
- Vexatious (annoying) guys
- Asian guys
- Flamboyant guys (like showing PDA, holding hands, etc)
- Negative/fucked-up personalities - I don't have the time to deal with guys with sick minds and disorders
- Lazy bums who don't have any goals or college education
- Cheaters/players, thieves, liars, and general assholes - absolutely forbidden in my book

.... etc etc etc. I can go on and on.

All that pickiness came as a result of my own experiences. I know that my straight sister is very picky when it comes to guys, also.

I apologize for this snobby post, but what can I do about it, really? I learned a lot about myself when I became interested in guys, starting in 1998.

On a further note, do NOT try to change my ways or make me "cross off the list" some of those that I don't want. Please respect me for who I am. Thanks and have a nice day.

webexplorer · 10-21-2007, 10:59 AM

Wow. That is interesting! It sounds too snobby to me, but I can understand that. I'm lucky that I look good myself as long as we take care of our healthy.

CrazehJess · 10-21-2007, 11:09 AM

I'm 'out' to all my friends on the internet and to my parents. But a while ago, none of my friends at my old school knew. Then I was asked a couple of weeks ago by a friend if I was actually a lesbian, (a 'rumor' got out about me a couple years ago and I left school), and I finally said I was. Now, I wouldn't be surprised if the whole school knows. But nobody seems to care. I won't tell my grandparents though, they wouldn't understand nor the people in my village. (It's actually a really anti-gay place round here, but I couldn't care less anymore. Their problem, not mine.)

However, I've recently bought this awesome t-shirt to wear: Nobody Knows I'm A Lesbian.

Lanee · 10-21-2007, 01:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SnAzZyStyLe2002

- Cows (fat guys) ... I wouldn't wanna be squashed on my bed like a bug or rolled on top of an exercise ball
- Queenies (fem guys aka "girlie men," as CA Governor Arnold Schwarznegger would say - that had me literally laughing for days) ..... ew
- Guys old enough to be my dad/grandpa - ick
- Those with faces that can knock a buzzard off a gut wagon (in other words to be blunt, fugly-ass guys)
- Vexatious (annoying) guys
- Asian guys
- Flamboyant guys (like showing PDA, holding hands, etc)
- Negative/fucked-up personalities - I don't have the time to deal with guys with sick minds and disorders
- Lazy bums who don't have any goals or college education
- Cheaters/players, thieves, liars, and general assholes - absolutely forbidden in my book

.... etc etc etc. I can go on and on.

All that pickiness came as a result of my own experiences. I know that my straight sister is very picky when it comes to guys, also.

I apologize for this snobby post, but what can I do about it, really? I learned a lot about myself when I became interested in guys, starting in 1998.

On a further note, do NOT try to change my ways or make me "cross off the list" some of those that I don't want. Please respect me for who I am. Thanks and have a nice day.

I guess it's your choice. But, dang... that makes your dating pool about the size of a puddle.

Good luck with that.

As for me: Out. I can't say I go to work and make announcements or anything. But I make reference to my partner, and I don't censor my stories to keep someone from knowing I'm not straight. My family knows, although they half-secretly hope it's "a phase."

SnAzZyStyLe2002 · 10-21-2007, 02:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lanee

I guess it's your choice. But, dang... that makes your dating pool about the size of a puddle.

Good luck with that.

As for me: Out. I can't say I go to work and make announcements or anything. But I make reference to my partner, and I don't censor my stories to keep someone from knowing I'm not straight. My family knows, although they half-secretly hope it's "a phase."

Haha - well I do have reason to be that picky, like I said in my other post.

shel90 · 10-21-2007, 02:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SnAzZyStyLe2002

I'm out *only* to a selected, trusted few friends, that's it.

Unfortunately, I still stand by the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy because of my family.

I've been acting paranoid lately because some faggy idiot sabotaged my discreetness via showing my ManHunt.net profile to a friend (she later told me she's a "fag hag" lol) of mine from the current university I'm attending. I have had to delete that ManHunt profile off and create a wholly new account, with a completely reworded profile and hide all my pictures. I hate assholes like that.

Suppose the rumors just fly about and eventually reach to either the director of Student Support Services (she doesn't know about me) or even my parents ..... I shudder at the thought of the results of that.

I'm sorry, but that's just how I am ... a discreet, very picky guy who's into other normal, discreet, cute/hot, masculine, disease-free guys that are age-approximate (my age ± 3 or 4 years - 30s-somethings are exceptional), nice, and willing to learn some ASL.

I don't like any of the following:

- Cows (fat guys) ... I wouldn't wanna be squashed on my bed like a bug or rolled on top of an exercise ball
- Queenies (fem guys aka "girlie men," as CA Governor Arnold Schwarznegger would say - that had me literally laughing for days) ..... ew
- Guys old enough to be my dad/grandpa - ick
- Those with faces that can knock a buzzard off a gut wagon (in other words to be blunt, fugly-ass guys)
- Vexatious (annoying) guys
- Asian guys
- Flamboyant guys (like showing PDA, holding hands, etc)
- Negative/fucked-up personalities - I don't have the time to deal with guys with sick minds and disorders
- Lazy bums who don't have any goals or college education
- Cheaters/players, thieves, liars, and general assholes - absolutely forbidden in my book

.... etc etc etc. I can go on and on.

All that pickiness came as a result of my own experiences. I know that my straight sister is very picky when it comes to guys, also.

I apologize for this snobby post, but what can I do about it, really? I learned a lot about myself when I became interested in guys, starting in 1998.

On a further note, do NOT try to change my ways or make me "cross off the list" some of those that I don't want. Please respect me for who I am. Thanks and have a nice day.

Dont blame u for being picky but I am curious about one thing. Why do u prefer not to date Asian guys?

I met an Asian guy at BDPHH on Friday night and generally, I am not attracted to them but this one was HOT! My friends and I were drooling over him.

SnAzZyStyLe2002 · 10-21-2007, 03:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shel90

Dont blame u for being picky but I am curious about one thing. Why do u prefer not to date Asian guys?

I met an Asian guy at BDPHH on Friday night and generally, I am not attracted to them but this one was HOT! My friends and I were drooling over him.

Just because .... Asians are just not my thing.

Not appealing to me at all.

CrazehJess · 10-21-2007, 04:49 PM

How do you know you won't meet an Asian guy who you just click with and find appealing? I'm not going against your 'tastes' or whatever you wanna call it, but I just think you're being somewhat narrow-minded. I always say I don't have a type. I just say that my type is whoever I meet, click with and am attracted to. If you limit yourself as much you have, you could be refusing a potential date or person, just because you've decided all people in that category aren't to your liking. Everyone's an individual. Everyone's different.

SnAzZyStyLe2002 · 10-21-2007, 07:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CrazehJess

How do you know you won't meet an Asian guy who you just click with and find appealing? I'm not going against your 'tastes' or whatever you wanna call it, but I just think you're being somewhat narrow-minded. I always say I don't have a type. I just say that my type is whoever I meet, click with and am attracted to. If you limit yourself as much you have, you could be refusing a potential date or person, just because you've decided all people in that category aren't to your liking. Everyone's an individual. Everyone's different.

Sorry, but I like whites, blacks, and latinos.

I would never click it on with an Asian guy because that's just the way it is. I don't find Asians attractive.

CrazehJess · 10-21-2007, 07:28 PM

Okay doke. Gotcha.

SnAzZyStyLe2002 · 10-21-2007, 08:45 PM

One more thing I forgot to tell you all, I know that finding a deaf guy that suits my wants are 99.99% impossible for me, so I just switched to hearing guys and hope that they'd at least be willing to learn some ASL. I can talk with my voice and sign at the same time (*gasp* simultaneous communication?! No! It's forbidden in the general deaf community! Pfft I don't follow that deafie's bullshit rule).

Cheri · 10-21-2007, 09:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SnAzZyStyLe2002

No! It's forbidden in the general deaf community! Pfft I don't follow that deafie's bullshit rule).

That's not true, deaf community and Deaf culture are two phrases. It's a forbidden from those who referred to as "big D Deaf". Big D Deaf communities believes in strongly ASL is only allows.

cherry · 10-23-2007, 09:09 PM

I'm closed.....

bonozdeafman · 10-23-2007, 10:06 PM

Interesting reading there folks. I'm a profoundly Deaf 31 year old man, I work in a hetro-orentinated enviroment, most of them are accepting of what I am, in fact I am quite close mates with some of the really "straight" blokes, however there are some who aren't so accepting, but I just ingore them and get on with my life and work - I'm happy with who and what I am.

I dont tend to hang out with Deaf gays because I find it too bitchy, gossipy and troublesome, I have a select few - that's about it, I prefer to hang out mostly with hearing gay mates.

faeryterp · 07-29-2008, 04:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mizzou

I know it sound simply to another thread...

Are you full OUT ??

Are you halfway OUT ??

Are you hiding from everybody ??

I been with DreamDeaf then I am full OUT because the way we are.

What about you ??

I have the forum for GLBTdeaf... be yourself

yep! im out and lov'n it

Wokamuka · 07-29-2008, 06:34 PM

I am out . . . in case those who meet me do not already know that I am!

(Your mother knows!)

webexplorer · 07-29-2008, 09:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Wokamuka

I am out . . . in case those who meet me do not already know that I am!

(Your mother knows!)

Wow! Your picture reminds of a man in Provincetown, Mass. when I was on a vacation with my family. Now, I wonder. You must be so relief by now.

whynatty · 07-30-2008, 08:05 PM

I'm out and proud! Living in SanFran is a plus too!

PIRATE@HEART · 09-16-2008, 07:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by EyesBlueDeaf

yes, I'm out 100%. But I don't announce it.. If they ask me if I'm a lesbian, I will say 'yes'.

SAME here!!! I'm out....Mom n Dad know...Friends know but I dont walk aorund yelling it out to all who dont know me. But if ppl question im all honest n stuff

08-06-2007, 04:04 AM	#61 (permalink)
Splendor Registered User Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Sacramento, CA Posts: 25	Yep I am out, it been 4 yrs.. Mom and Dad know Sister and Step brother know Step Dad know Co-worker know Friends know __________________ The Best things in life is to do hard things.

08-10-2007, 12:34 AM	#63 (permalink)
Cane Corso Please Boycott China Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Southwest Posts: 692	If I'm straight, does it mean I am in? __________________ French Ring http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RyeMis9rLhg http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MDTwMig410E

08-17-2007, 09:40 AM	#65 (permalink)
Badboy2 Registered User Join Date: May 2006 Location: South-Africa Posts: 103	Both out or in First - longtime I did told my parent I am gay and moving to ex boyfriend. They not accept who I am. Nearly two years never heard from my parent. I write letter for them and phone them and they neva write back or phone back and neva talk to me. Few month before I left boyfriend bec not happy live and later me and my parent are back peace. So I show my parent str8 looking but when I am not with my parent to go somewhere then I am out Second- I am out for my friend who understand me. I am in for my parent but my both sister know about me and nothing againts to me. Me an my parent neva talk about gay live. And about my work I am in bec alots of guys who work with me have no brain and no open minded. They hate gay that why I am careful for them.

08-25-2007, 03:52 PM	#67 (permalink)
Dixie Biggest Wimp of AllDeaf Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Arkansas Posts: 5,942	Its a little more odd for me though as I am involved at a SBC church and while Ive got a great deal of friends there, I dont want to ruin the one place I can go to find peace. Maybe I should be out - but then again if your out in this area, youre good as dead. Im in and will likely remain so until I am able to move someplace where I feel comfortable coming out. __________________ Visit my Deaf Blog Signature banner created by me, please do not steal!

10-21-2007, 04:39 AM	#72 (permalink)
SnAzZyStyLe2002 IchBinSchwulUndGlücklich. Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 477	I'm out only to a selected, trusted few friends, that's it. Unfortunately, I still stand by the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy because of my family. I've been acting paranoid lately because some faggy idiot sabotaged my discreetness via showing my ManHunt.net profile to a friend (she later told me she's a "fag hag" lol) of mine from the current university I'm attending. I have had to delete that ManHunt profile off and create a wholly new account, with a completely reworded profile and hide all my pictures. I hate assholes like that. Suppose the rumors just fly about and eventually reach to either the director of Student Support Services (she doesn't know about me) or even my parents ..... I shudder at the thought of the results of that. I'm sorry, but that's just how I am ... a discreet, very picky guy who's into other normal, discreet, cute/hot, masculine, disease-free guys that are age-approximate (my age ± 3 or 4 years - 30s-somethings are exceptional), nice, and willing to learn some ASL. I don't like any of the following: - Cows (fat guys) ... I wouldn't wanna be squashed on my bed like a bug or rolled on top of an exercise ball - Queenies (fem guys aka "girlie men," as CA Governor Arnold Schwarznegger would say - that had me literally laughing for days) ..... ew - Guys old enough to be my dad/grandpa - ick - Those with faces that can knock a buzzard off a gut wagon (in other words to be blunt, fugly-ass guys) - Vexatious (annoying) guys - Asian guys - Flamboyant guys (like showing PDA, holding hands, etc) - Negative/fucked-up personalities - I don't have the time to deal with guys with sick minds and disorders - Lazy bums who don't have any goals or college education - Cheaters/players, thieves, liars, and general assholes - absolutely forbidden in my book .... etc etc etc. I can go on and on. All that pickiness came as a result of my own experiences. I know that my straight sister is very picky when it comes to guys, also. I apologize for this snobby post, but what can I do about it, really? I learned a lot about myself when I became interested in guys, starting in 1998. On a further note, do NOT try to change my ways or make me "cross off the list" some of those that I don't want. Please respect me for who I am. Thanks and have a nice day. __________________ ~Snazzy Style 2002

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08-08-2007, 08:02 AM	#62 (permalink)
MyBlueEyes Registered User Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 1,149	I am NOT out of here.... hahaha but it is not safe to even drive by the place at night for fear of getting shot...No place is safe in jax fl.

08-17-2007, 01:35 PM	#66 (permalink)
MetroGuy03 Registered User Join Date: May 2007 Location: Seattle, Washington Posts: 844	Straight people should come out as "Dad, mom, I'm straight" too.

08-27-2007, 03:00 PM	#68 (permalink)
HappyBoi Registered User Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 46	Sorta, my parents know, & a few close friends of mine. I'd rather take it slow, but yessir it feels SO much better when people know, like you don't have to 'HIDE' anymore. =)

09-15-2007, 09:06 AM	#70 (permalink)
Nan2950 Registered User Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 8	I am fully out.... like some of you.... I don't go running around announcing I'M A LESBIN!! If they ask.... I'd say... yep, I am. No one has the right to judge me, esp the church. This is my life and is between me and God. I've been in a relationship with the same woman for the last 15 years and counting.

10-20-2007, 08:46 PM	#71 (permalink)
bonozdeafman Registered User Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Sydney, Australia Posts: 3	Yep - totally out there, all my family, workmates and mates know about me & dont have any problems at all. I can safety say that it's great to be gay in the 21st century

10-21-2007, 10:59 AM	#73 (permalink)
webexplorer I'm listening to everyone Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: New England Posts: 4,504	Wow. That is interesting! It sounds too snobby to me, but I can understand that. I'm lucky that I look good myself as long as we take care of our healthy.

10-21-2007, 11:09 AM	#74 (permalink)
CrazehJess Live free or die. Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: England, Devon Posts: 28	I'm 'out' to all my friends on the internet and to my parents. But a while ago, none of my friends at my old school knew. Then I was asked a couple of weeks ago by a friend if I was actually a lesbian, (a 'rumor' got out about me a couple years ago and I left school), and I finally said I was. Now, I wouldn't be surprised if the whole school knows. But nobody seems to care. I won't tell my grandparents though, they wouldn't understand nor the people in my village. (It's actually a really anti-gay place round here, but I couldn't care less anymore. Their problem, not mine.) However, I've recently bought this awesome t-shirt to wear: Nobody Knows I'm A Lesbian. __________________ Live free or die. Deaf Person: I'm deaf. Other Person: (speaks louder and opens mouth wide) Oh really? THAT'S A SHAME. Deaf Person: .... Other Person: CAN YOU NOT HEAR ME? Deaf Person: My deaf Aunt in Russia can hear you.

10-21-2007, 04:49 PM	#79 (permalink)
CrazehJess Live free or die. Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: England, Devon Posts: 28	How do you know you won't meet an Asian guy who you just click with and find appealing? I'm not going against your 'tastes' or whatever you wanna call it, but I just think you're being somewhat narrow-minded. I always say I don't have a type. I just say that my type is whoever I meet, click with and am attracted to. If you limit yourself as much you have, you could be refusing a potential date or person, just because you've decided all people in that category aren't to your liking. Everyone's an individual. Everyone's different. __________________ Live free or die. Deaf Person: I'm deaf. Other Person: (speaks louder and opens mouth wide) Oh really? THAT'S A SHAME. Deaf Person: .... Other Person: CAN YOU NOT HEAR ME? Deaf Person: My deaf Aunt in Russia can hear you.

10-21-2007, 07:28 PM	#81 (permalink)
CrazehJess Live free or die. Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: England, Devon Posts: 28	Okay doke. Gotcha. __________________ Live free or die. Deaf Person: I'm deaf. Other Person: (speaks louder and opens mouth wide) Oh really? THAT'S A SHAME. Deaf Person: .... Other Person: CAN YOU NOT HEAR ME? Deaf Person: My deaf Aunt in Russia can hear you.

10-21-2007, 08:45 PM	#82 (permalink)
SnAzZyStyLe2002 IchBinSchwulUndGlücklich. Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 477	One more thing I forgot to tell you all, I know that finding a deaf guy that suits my wants are 99.99% impossible for me, so I just switched to hearing guys and hope that they'd at least be willing to learn some ASL. I can talk with my voice and sign at the same time (gasp simultaneous communication?! No! It's forbidden in the general deaf community! Pfft I don't follow that deafie's bullshit rule). __________________ ~Snazzy Style 2002

10-23-2007, 09:09 PM	#84 (permalink)
cherry Registered User Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 103	I'm closed..... __________________ Deafloves.com: online community for deaf, ASL and hearing-impaired friends and singles! Have fun with photos, message boards, chat, blog and more.

10-23-2007, 10:06 PM	#85 (permalink)
bonozdeafman Registered User Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Sydney, Australia Posts: 3	Interesting reading there folks. I'm a profoundly Deaf 31 year old man, I work in a hetro-orentinated enviroment, most of them are accepting of what I am, in fact I am quite close mates with some of the really "straight" blokes, however there are some who aren't so accepting, but I just ingore them and get on with my life and work - I'm happy with who and what I am. I dont tend to hang out with Deaf gays because I find it too bitchy, gossipy and troublesome, I have a select few - that's about it, I prefer to hang out mostly with hearing gay mates.

07-29-2008, 06:34 PM	#87 (permalink)
Wokamuka No Line on the Horizon Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: U.S.A. Posts: 1,881	I am out . . . in case those who meet me do not already know that I am! (Your mother knows!) __________________

07-30-2008, 08:05 PM	#89 (permalink)
whynatty Why Not? Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: San Francisco, CA Posts: 103	I'm out and proud! Living in SanFran is a plus too!

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