Yes, I'm at it again. You cannot refer to the Bible, AD rules. Are ye for or against?
My opinion:
I think marriage of gays and lesbians should be knocked totally out of the our universe.
Civil unions are fine. We're being discriminated against and my guess is the very core of this discrimination lies in money. Whoever predeceases the other is not allowed to collect SS or other benefits. But that's why I fought for and we received an imbalanced domestic partnership benefit (dp) at various companies. The problem there was I was taxed the actual value of the health insurance plan, so dp benefits were fine and I was xxxx. That does not happen to those who are married.
We are no different from anyone else. Ya look at us and we're two women with a dog who's adorable. We both worked our entire life and others do. We also don't look any different. It's only due to my eyesight and age that an 8 year old kid beats me in basketball.
We contributed and continue to contribute to society as you all do. My partner still works helping people. We are entitled to the same rights. But we don't have them. Because we are not legally civil unioned (okay, I made that up), we had to pay a lawyer a lot of money to set up a trust. At our house closing in NY, that lawyer asked how much we were charged for it and he laughed and said he would get in that business. It was an auto document - fill in key words and let it rip.
We're also now in the South in a progressive area in a backward state. But we're careful. When I dated guys and married one, we could hold hands and it wasn't a problem. Doing that here could get us killed. So, by allowing civil unions it "normalizes" the picture and could speed up the government getting more taxes from us. But it would stop us from having to pay extra money for a trust.
I'm going back to 2008 and my close encounter with the death kind. The closest hospital was 5 miles away. It was a Catholic Hospital and my partner was concerned about the discrimination but there wasn't any. She presented my Living Will, which was kindly ignored. She also told them I was deaf and it was ignored. But she was treated like any other spouse would be and had the authority as any other person stated in a Living Will to "off me" but chose not to or let me live and ignore what I had written and it was respected. As I write a lot of this with jest, she could've been legally ignored.
How is this related to allowing civil unions? Again, when you begin to be accepted by just a few and you are able to be who you are, it's catchy and acceptance spreads. Being accepted in the hospital was good, thank god.
Since we live in NC where marriage is not legal (that's not my idea of what to call it), it's too confusing to go somewhere and marry. I ran it by my tax accountant.
I just want to live my life with all the same rights as everyone else has.
My opinion:
I think marriage of gays and lesbians should be knocked totally out of the our universe.
Civil unions are fine. We're being discriminated against and my guess is the very core of this discrimination lies in money. Whoever predeceases the other is not allowed to collect SS or other benefits. But that's why I fought for and we received an imbalanced domestic partnership benefit (dp) at various companies. The problem there was I was taxed the actual value of the health insurance plan, so dp benefits were fine and I was xxxx. That does not happen to those who are married.
We are no different from anyone else. Ya look at us and we're two women with a dog who's adorable. We both worked our entire life and others do. We also don't look any different. It's only due to my eyesight and age that an 8 year old kid beats me in basketball.
We contributed and continue to contribute to society as you all do. My partner still works helping people. We are entitled to the same rights. But we don't have them. Because we are not legally civil unioned (okay, I made that up), we had to pay a lawyer a lot of money to set up a trust. At our house closing in NY, that lawyer asked how much we were charged for it and he laughed and said he would get in that business. It was an auto document - fill in key words and let it rip.
We're also now in the South in a progressive area in a backward state. But we're careful. When I dated guys and married one, we could hold hands and it wasn't a problem. Doing that here could get us killed. So, by allowing civil unions it "normalizes" the picture and could speed up the government getting more taxes from us. But it would stop us from having to pay extra money for a trust.
I'm going back to 2008 and my close encounter with the death kind. The closest hospital was 5 miles away. It was a Catholic Hospital and my partner was concerned about the discrimination but there wasn't any. She presented my Living Will, which was kindly ignored. She also told them I was deaf and it was ignored. But she was treated like any other spouse would be and had the authority as any other person stated in a Living Will to "off me" but chose not to or let me live and ignore what I had written and it was respected. As I write a lot of this with jest, she could've been legally ignored.
How is this related to allowing civil unions? Again, when you begin to be accepted by just a few and you are able to be who you are, it's catchy and acceptance spreads. Being accepted in the hospital was good, thank god.
Since we live in NC where marriage is not legal (that's not my idea of what to call it), it's too confusing to go somewhere and marry. I ran it by my tax accountant.
I just want to live my life with all the same rights as everyone else has.