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Unread 12-18-2011, 12:32 PM   #1231 (permalink)
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It does matter.

Not cheating and just leaving the relationship makes you a better person in the situation.

Now after what she has done, people will look at her the wrong way and wonder why she did all that without knowing the entire story.

Say no to cheating!
Doesn't fragment her in my point of view at all. Matter of a fact, I'm actually inspired, and think all ladies should be. This is a lady who took the situation under her control. She denied the guy of the opportunity to pull her down.
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Unread 12-18-2011, 12:33 PM   #1232 (permalink)
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not judgement me please. 2 wrong not make right, i am human make bad mistake seomtime ok? i should broken up with him before but i too scare. now i am strong woman and i cheat on him bec he make me want revenge prove him "I AM NOT UGLY GIRL I CAN GET MEN" he say, "you not beautiful enough for get other men and you so stupid too" YES I DOES KNOW I AM LOW MIND....BUT I PROVE SHOW HIM I CAN DOING GOOD WITHOUT HIM.
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Unread 12-18-2011, 12:34 PM   #1233 (permalink)
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not judgement me please. 2 wrong not make right, i am human make bad mistake seomtime ok? i should broken up with him before but i too scare. now i am strong woman and i cheat on him bec he make me want revenge prove him "I AM NOT UGLY GIRL I CAN GET MEN" he say, "you not beautiful enough for get other men and you so stupid too" YES I DOES KNOW I AM LOW MIND....BUT I PROVE SHOW HIM I CAN DOING GOOD WITHOUT HIM.
I understand completely and I never meant to judge you, just pointed out why there was no compassion on your part not knowing what was really going on.

Cheating is never the best way out.

Hey, in my opinion... The best revenge? Leave him and find a better man who will treat you right. Your ex's ego will feel deflated. Doesn't require cheating.
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Unread 12-18-2011, 12:36 PM   #1234 (permalink)
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Doesn't fragment her in my point of view at all. Matter of a fact, I'm actually inspired, and think all ladies should be. This is a lady who took the situation under her control. She denied the guy of the opportunity to pull her down.
A very face palm worthy moment.

Do you know what you just said? That you support cheating as a method of revenge?
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wow u aint know my story with boyfriend . i doesnt care if close christmas. he hurt me bad many time and he not good person. Giorgos better man and openmind deaf culture, i feeling comfortable good time chat with him bec he is my new friend. i doesnt care if person think me slut, but ex boyfriend not treat me good. CHEATING IS WRONG I KNOW BUT I WAS **** HURT OF EX BOYFRIEND. AUDIST AND JUDGEMENT MY LOOK. I THINK WITH MY HEART NOT LOGIC. I DID BREAK UP HIM AYWAY, AND I NOT CARE IF people think crazy me move in with giorgos for 1 week. giorgos my good friend now
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sorry lanapoo im not yell at you. yes you right cheating wrong, but i was very angry not think straight
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Unread 12-18-2011, 12:38 PM   #1237 (permalink)
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A very face palm worthy moment.

Do you know what you just said? That you support cheating as a method of revenge?
Not at all. You and I have perspective on sexual relationships on the entirely opposite spectrum. You're strictly monogamous where I am a polyamorous.

She had a date, then left the relationship right after. That is fine in my book because it does not emotionally drag things around.
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wow u aint know my story with boyfriend . i doesnt care if close christmas. he hurt me bad many time and he not good person. Giorgos better man and openmind deaf culture, i feeling comfortable good time chat with him bec he is my new friend. i doesnt care if person think me slut, but ex boyfriend not treat me good. CHEATING IS WRONG I KNOW BUT I WAS **** HURT OF EX BOYFRIEND. AUDIST AND JUDGEMENT MY LOOK. I THINK WITH MY HEART NOT LOGIC. I DID BREAK UP HIM AYWAY, AND I NOT CARE IF people think crazy me move in with giorgos for 1 week. giorgos my good friend now
Do you want to know what I really think?

That you should learn how to love yourself first before moving on so quickly. It's clear that you were very hurt. I was hurt in my previous relationship and I've discovered that the best way to heal is to be on your own, with your own real friends and family.

And your Giorgos is your rebound. Rebounds never last long.
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Much, much agreed! And it being so close to Christmas!...No matter the situation, we all need to show compassion and kindness to each other.....And moving into a new boyfriend's apartment after only one date?.....
And not to mention, from what it seems - she has known the guy for a longer while than just "one date."
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let you all know, i never cheating before. but this very bad relationship. he make me losing self esteem
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Do you want to know what I really think?

That you should learn how to love yourself first before moving on so quickly. It's clear that you were very hurt. I was hurt in my previous relationship and I've discovered that the best way to heal is to be on your own, with your own real friends and family.

And your Giorgos is your rebound. Rebounds never last long.
She is very well aware of this relationship with Giorgos not being a long term relationship, fyi.
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i did have sex with girogos yesterday, but he also my good friend. he say our relationship not change with sex and he want be close friend me
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Do you want to know what I really think?

That you should learn how to love yourself first before moving on so quickly. It's clear that you were very hurt. I was hurt in my previous relationship and I've discovered that the best way to heal is to be on your own, with your own real friends and family.

And your Giorgos is your rebound. Rebounds never last long.
So true!...and if takes some people a life time to adhere to these wise words....
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let you all know, i never cheating before. but this very bad relationship. he make me losing self esteem
Everyone makes a mistake and you learn from it. Cheating doesn't help you feel like a better person at all. Having sex with new people really doesn't help either.

You just need to be on your own, embrace yourself, be who you once were before you met your ex.

That's what I'm doing right now with my cross-country move and to be honest, I feel so much better! I've never been happier with myself in such a long time.

Now you know from the experience that cheating isn't really worth it at all. I destroyed my ex by simply getting up and leaving. You could do that. I made my ex fall to his knees and cry for me to stay here for him. I said no. You could do the same.
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i did have sex with girogos yesterday, but he also my good friend. he say our relationship not change with sex and he want be close friend me
That's what I thought.
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That's what I thought.
Just a fyi, sex can hurt. Women are more sensitive than men are.
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Everyone makes a mistake and you learn from it. Cheating doesn't help you feel like a better person at all. Having sex with new people really doesn't help either.

You just need to be on your own, embrace yourself, be who you once were before you met your ex.

That's what I'm doing right now with my cross-county move and to be honest, I feel so much better! I've never been happier with myself in such a long time.

Now you know from the experience that cheating isn't really worth it at all. I destroyed my ex by simply getting up and leaving. You could do that. I made my ex fall to his knees and cry for me to stay here for him. I said no. You could do the same.
if he beg me back, i say HELL TO THE NO. i am strong woman without him. i have good friend and family supportive. he think i will be lonely and invalid rest my life but it not true
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Just a fyi, sex can hurt. Women are more sensitive than men are.
I trust this woman knows herself more than you know her. Check this post out. http://www.alldeaf.com/1996262-post3.html

This is the reason I am not worried in the slightest bit.
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if he beg me back, i say HELL TO THE NO. i am strong woman without him. i have good friend and family supportive. he think i will be lonely and invalid rest my life but it not true
Good, keep it up. You deserve better anyway. Just don't use people to make yourself feel better. Only it can be done on your own.
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I trust this woman knows herself more than you know her. Check this post out. http://www.alldeaf.com/1996262-post3.html

This is the reason I am not worried in the slightest bit.
Women can put on a "strong" face, but deep down they have a heart.

You don't know how women work. All I can say is that she just has to embrace herself and not sleep around. It doesn't make herself any better.
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Women can put on a "strong" face, but deep down they have a heart.

You don't know how women work. All I can say is that she just has to embrace herself and not sleep around. It doesn't make herself any better.
Are you saying that no women can be polyamorous?
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Good, keep it up. You deserve better anyway. Just don't use people to make yourself feel better. Only it can be done on your own.
thank you. well i discuss with giorgos and i did tell him that i want us good friendship. i dont want using him for sex. he know i do not wanting relationship and he did respecting to my decide
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Are you saying that no women can be polyamorous?
If women want to have friends with benefits, I'd rather have them in a good state of mind and well aware instead of using people to get past their own pain and broken heart.
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thank you. well i discuss with giorgos and i did tell him that i want us good friendship. i dont want using him for sex. he know i do not wanting relationship and he did respecting to my decide
There, problem solved. You have communication intact. Both of you guys are clear on what you want.
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thank you. well i discuss with giorgos and i did tell him that i want us good friendship. i dont want using him for sex. he know i do not wanting relationship and he did respecting to my decide
That's good. As long as you both discuss that and understand what it's about or it'd just cause more problems and confusion.
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If women want to have friends with benefits, I'd rather have them in a good state of mind and well aware instead of using people to get past their own pain and broken heart.
To leave a lady in a good state of mind - one shouldn't chastise her for cheating.
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To leave a lady in a good state of mind - one shouldn't chastise her for cheating.
Since when did I chastise her for cheating?

I simply pointed out that cheating isn't the answer.
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truth i did losing love for my ex boyfriend. he make me feel disgust and i am happy broken up him yesterday. i lose emotional attach to my ex. i will change new number, block his email and not let him contacts me. he cannot making me love him again
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Since when did I chastise her for cheating?

I simply pointed out that cheating isn't the answer.
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truth i did losing love for my ex boyfriend. he make me feel disgust and i am happy broken up him yesterday. i lose emotional attach to my ex. i will change new number, block his email and not let him contacts me. he cannot making me love him again
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