What are you thinking about? Part V - Page 18

**mbrek** · 10-19-2011, 11:25 AM

^^^I did not mean to come off as being condescending, Sunny. I know you're an adult (and I meant girl as in girlfriend). But you're going through a tough time right now - and maybe you're lonely. Babies are a poor fix for that. In fact, they are incredibly needy creatures. You're only 20. You have many baby making years ahead of you yet. Don't miss out on some important years of adulthood by jumping onto the motherhood wagon so quickly.

I mean this from the heart as a friend. I value your friendship here, but I've seen too many kids screwed up because their parents weren't quite ready/mature for the job. I'd hate to see that happen to you, truly.

**Cheetah** · 10-19-2011, 11:54 AM

Sunny, I understand. I am recently divorced. My ex kept saying she wanted a child but really did not. It was frustrating because I really wanted children.

Sunshine · 10-19-2011, 12:03 PM

Dallas want baby too, we just both know not ready yet. Only 20! Now need start look new partner. Sigh. Snuggle baby yesterday, powdery smell make really want baby.

rockin'robin · 10-19-2011, 12:19 PM

I really loved babies....wanted 5 of them!...after the birth of my first child (age 19)....then I realized very quickly the responsibility of it all....gone were my care-free days of sleeping late, going out with my friends whenever I wanted to, etc., etc. If I could take it all back, I would have waited until I was 30-something....

Royale · 10-19-2011, 12:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Mintee

thinking about how BEAUTIFUL Dubai is... heard about it a few times but didn't realize how over the top awesome it was until i saw pictures/videos. i'd LOVE to vacation there sometime soon.

I concur with you, Mintee.

I watched several shows about Dubai on National Geographical channel and they talked about their mega structures. They are freakin' awesome.

One of their very expensive hotels offer $25,000 per night stay in one of their suites.

Royale · 10-19-2011, 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by AlleyCat

You need to buy TWO of them. Cats do not share.

my Deaf cat have six mouse toys and two of them seem to be misplaced somewhere. He loves to play them when I am not at home.

AlleyCat · 10-19-2011, 01:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Royale

my Deaf cat have six mouse toys and two of them seem to be misplaced somewhere. He loves to play them when I am not at home.

Do you want some toys? I have a whole wicker basket full of them. With 5 cats, I had to have lots of toys. Problem is, they'd rather play with a paper bag or foil or some dangly thing!! I can mail you some

**KristinaB** · 10-19-2011, 02:01 PM

We found Tinker's little Christmas stocking toy. She has now almost given up the catnip mouse.

Her favorite other than the stocking, is a wadded up piece of yellow paper from a Jr. Legal pad. Wad it up into a ball and she will chase that thing for a good hour before getting tired. She loves it when we toss it and she has to jump for it. She gets a good workout each day that way.

Royale · 10-19-2011, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by AlleyCat

Do you want some toys? I have a whole wicker basket full of them. With 5 cats, I had to have lots of toys. Problem is, they'd rather play with a paper bag or foil or some dangly thing!! I can mail you some

Aw! Tahnsk for your offer! I will think over it!

**KristinaB** · 10-19-2011, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Royale

Aw! Tahnsk for your offer! I will think over it!

I also have a basket full of unused toys for my 2 cats. There must be at least 30 jingle balls and they hate them.

AlleyCat · 10-19-2011, 02:14 PM

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Originally Posted by KristinaB

I also have a basket full of unused toys for my 2 cats. There must be at least 30 jingle balls and they hate them.

They like to see us spend money on toys, then go for the first FREE thing they see. It's what they learn in Cats 101.

Frisky Feline · 10-19-2011, 02:48 PM

i am with alleycat. my furboys like the strange toys such as foil, plastic bag --i tie it as like its a ball, and many homemade toys. my fur boys love baby's toys too! i have many cat toys that are sitting on the floor except the fake fur mouses. one of my cats love fake fur mouses in his mouth all the time. some of mcdonald toys are useful for my furboys to play with.

Mintee · 10-19-2011, 03:02 PM

a certain person...

**Rio** · 10-19-2011, 03:02 PM

I am thinking, time to move on and forget about that jerk! He's ignoring me back! He knows why , I am mad.

**mbrek** · 10-19-2011, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by rockin'robin

I really loved babies....wanted 5 of them!...after the birth of my first child (age 19)....then I realized very quickly the responsibility of it all....gone were my care-free days of sleeping late, going out with my friends whenever I wanted to, etc., etc. If I could take it all back, I would have waited until I was 30-something....

I did. And believe me, I was a better mom for it. Heck, in my early 20's I'd just gotten my freedom - I didn't want to surrender it to the needs of a baby. I wouldn't have had the patience I found out you really need at times! Babies can be cute, but they also can be aggravating, messy, and expensive.

**KristinaB** · 10-19-2011, 05:04 PM

I'm thinking Tinkerbell is learning ASL a little. I can look at her, use the sign name I gave her and sign "come here" and she will come and sit in my lap. I can sign "go to play toy" and she will go either to her paper ball, her catnip mouse or her Christmas Stocking. If I sign "you thirsty?" she will jump up to the bathroom sink for water if she is.

**Dixie** · 10-19-2011, 05:09 PM

I too had my DD at 19 - all due to stupid drunken sex with what is now my ex-husband.

I wouldn't trade her for the world, but I certainly wish I would have waited until I was closer to 30 and firmly established financially and emotionally. I've vowed to myself - no more children! One is enough for me!

**KristinaB** · 10-19-2011, 05:13 PM

I had one child at 16. Too young and he grew up with the father's family at my request. Got married at 28, had DD at 29 and DS at 30. There are times when I wish we were younger having had these kids, but I am still thankful for them.

**shel90** · 10-19-2011, 06:26 PM

I have my first child just a month before turning 25. I would have waited although 25 isnt too bad considering.

**Dixie** · 10-19-2011, 06:27 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

I have my first child just a month before turning 25. I would have waited although 25 isnt too bad considering.

At 25 you were more established than I was at 19!!! And also a bit wiser!

**Beowulf** · 10-19-2011, 06:31 PM

A dear friend has a 25 year old daughter who graduated less than two years ago and has a GREAT job working for Busch/Budweiser. She met a fella 4 months ago and is already discussing marriage. My friend wants me to try to talk her out of it this weekend. Wish me luck!

**shel90** · 10-19-2011, 06:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Dixie

At 25 you were more established than I was at 19!!! And also a bit wiser!

I was still a college undergrad...I wish I had waited until I finished college, worked a few years, and bought a house before having my daughter. That was my plan anyway but didnt go the way I wanted it to.

DeafTim · 10-19-2011, 06:41 PM

talkin about babies? YIKES!

If you wait, it could be too late. you jest never know. this subject is so annoyin'.

**shel90** · 10-19-2011, 06:45 PM

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Originally Posted by DeafTim

talkin about babies? YIKES!

If you wait, it could be too late. you jest never know. this subject is so annoyin'.

30s is definitely not too late. I know this one lady who is currently pregnant with her first child at 41 and all is fine with the pregnancy so far.

DeafTim · 10-19-2011, 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

30s is definitely not too late. I know this one lady who is currently pregnant with her first child at 41 and all is fine with the pregnancy so far.

Well, older women are at higher risk to give birth to down syndrome babies. More older women die from the bleedin than younger women. I am so glad Im male, btw.

Whew!

**KristinaB** · 10-19-2011, 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

30s is definitely not too late. I know this one lady who is currently pregnant with her first child at 41 and all is fine with the pregnancy so far.

Quote:

Originally Posted by DeafTim

Well, older women are at higher risk to give birth to down syndrome babies. More older women die from the bleedin than younger women. I am so glad Im male, btw.

Whew!

My brother's soon-to-be-ex-wife, had her first at age 43 and her 2nd at age 46. Both kids were very healthy and all. 2nd child was allowed to eat what she wanted and went on high blood-pressure medicine at age 6. She had a heart attack at age 8 due to unhealthy eating habit and her weight. She is now 18 and still overweight, still has high blood pressure and heart problems and now has diabetes and sleep apnea and sleeps with a CPAP machine. She decided to also start smoking and she is a drinker. The mother doesn't seem to care and still lets my niece do what she wants. When my brother tried to discipline her, the mother said to back off and get away. He waited until she hit age 18 and he has now left. Their son left home at age 17 to get away from his mother and her "uncaring" attitude.

Basically, I was just trying to say, that even in her mid 40's, she had two very healthy babies and suffered no problems herself.

**shel90** · 10-19-2011, 07:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DeafTim

Well, older women are at higher risk to give birth to down syndrome babies. More older women die from the bleedin than younger women. I am so glad Im male, btw.

Whew!

Not tactful, arent you?

**sallylou** · 10-19-2011, 07:15 PM

I got married at 27 and had my first child at 29. It was a good age to have a baby. Not too young, not too old. Many people don't realize that it can be very difficult for some women to get pregnant in their 40's. Some women even have difficulty getting pregnant in their late 30's. So if you want a baby, and you're not open to adoption, don't wait too long. I've seen some women heartbroken when they can't get pregnant later in life, especially when adoption is not an option.

**sallylou** · 10-19-2011, 07:16 PM

A lot of birth defects come from older fathers. It's not only the mother's age that matters.

sheila022 · 10-19-2011, 07:55 PM

wowie, so many of you had babies before 30's and even younger than my age now!!! I can't imagine myself having babies until like...I'm in my late 20's or 30's.

But I think, there's some discussion about the trend of young adults delaying the milestones to later age...such as marrying later, moving out later, having children, etc.

Anyway....as for "what you thinking about"....I'm thinking about too many things each day. *sighs*. Too many things to do. AD is a great place to procrastinate....

10-19-2011, 11:25 AM	#511 (permalink)
mbrek Premium Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 1,512 Blog Entries: 1	^^^I did not mean to come off as being condescending, Sunny. I know you're an adult (and I meant girl as in girlfriend). But you're going through a tough time right now - and maybe you're lonely. Babies are a poor fix for that. In fact, they are incredibly needy creatures. You're only 20. You have many baby making years ahead of you yet. Don't miss out on some important years of adulthood by jumping onto the motherhood wagon so quickly. I mean this from the heart as a friend. I value your friendship here, but I've seen too many kids screwed up because their parents weren't quite ready/mature for the job. I'd hate to see that happen to you, truly. shel90 and rockin'robin like this. __________________ Sarcasm - just another little service I offer.

10-19-2011, 12:19 PM	#514 (permalink)
rockin'robin Registered User Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Florida Posts: 15,273	I really loved babies....wanted 5 of them!...after the birth of my first child (age 19)....then I realized very quickly the responsibility of it all....gone were my care-free days of sleeping late, going out with my friends whenever I wanted to, etc., etc. If I could take it all back, I would have waited until I was 30-something.... Dixie and mbrek like this.

10-19-2011, 02:01 PM	#518 (permalink)
KristinaB New SDIT Deacon Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Land of the backstroke Posts: 13,768	We found Tinker's little Christmas stocking toy. She has now almost given up the catnip mouse. Her favorite other than the stocking, is a wadded up piece of yellow paper from a Jr. Legal pad. Wad it up into a ball and she will chase that thing for a good hour before getting tired. She loves it when we toss it and she has to jump for it. She gets a good workout each day that way. __________________ Taking life one day at a time.

10-19-2011, 02:48 PM	#522 (permalink)
Frisky Feline Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 20,214	i am with alleycat. my furboys like the strange toys such as foil, plastic bag --i tie it as like its a ball, and many homemade toys. my fur boys love baby's toys too! i have many cat toys that are sitting on the floor except the fake fur mouses. one of my cats love fake fur mouses in his mouth all the time. some of mcdonald toys are useful for my furboys to play with. KristinaB likes this.

10-19-2011, 03:02 PM	#524 (permalink)
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10-19-2011, 11:54 AM	#512 (permalink)
Cheetah Cheetah Consulting-Closed Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 2,694	Sunny, I understand. I am recently divorced. My ex kept saying she wanted a child but really did not. It was frustrating because I really wanted children.

10-19-2011, 12:03 PM	#513 (permalink)
Sunshine Banned Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Home of Canucks! Posts: 3,269 Blog Entries: 2	Dallas want baby too, we just both know not ready yet. Only 20! Now need start look new partner. Sigh. Snuggle baby yesterday, powdery smell make really want baby.

10-19-2011, 03:02 PM	#523 (permalink)
Mintee Banned Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: East Coast Posts: 771	a certain person...

10-19-2011, 05:04 PM	#526 (permalink)
KristinaB New SDIT Deacon Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Land of the backstroke Posts: 13,768	I'm thinking Tinkerbell is learning ASL a little. I can look at her, use the sign name I gave her and sign "come here" and she will come and sit in my lap. I can sign "go to play toy" and she will go either to her paper ball, her catnip mouse or her Christmas Stocking. If I sign "you thirsty?" she will jump up to the bathroom sink for water if she is. mbrek likes this. __________________ Taking life one day at a time.

10-19-2011, 05:09 PM	#527 (permalink)
Dixie May I be found in Him Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Arkansas Posts: 13,266	I too had my DD at 19 - all due to stupid drunken sex with what is now my ex-husband. I wouldn't trade her for the world, but I certainly wish I would have waited until I was closer to 30 and firmly established financially and emotionally. I've vowed to myself - no more children! One is enough for me! mbrek likes this. __________________ Oh, you will. It is all a dream and since matter cannot be created nor destroyed, the dreams must be real in all their myriad forms. -Beowulf This Delicate Thing God Has Made *The world is measured in peasants; smaller than a unicorn but, bigger than a tidbit!*

10-19-2011, 05:13 PM	#528 (permalink)
KristinaB New SDIT Deacon Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Land of the backstroke Posts: 13,768	I had one child at 16. Too young and he grew up with the father's family at my request. Got married at 28, had DD at 29 and DS at 30. There are times when I wish we were younger having had these kids, but I am still thankful for them. __________________ Taking life one day at a time.

10-19-2011, 06:26 PM	#529 (permalink)
shel90 Let It Snow!!!! Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A place where crabs are popular Posts: 40,285 Blog Entries: 3	I have my first child just a month before turning 25. I would have waited although 25 isnt too bad considering. __________________ "Wine improves with age. The older I get, the better I like it." --- Anonymous

10-19-2011, 06:31 PM	#531 (permalink)
Beowulf Premium Member Join Date: May 2004 Posts: 10,514	A dear friend has a 25 year old daughter who graduated less than two years ago and has a GREAT job working for Busch/Budweiser. She met a fella 4 months ago and is already discussing marriage. My friend wants me to try to talk her out of it this weekend. Wish me luck! __________________ .

10-19-2011, 06:41 PM	#533 (permalink)
DeafTim Registered User Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Utica,OH Posts: 2,327	talkin about babies? YIKES! If you wait, it could be too late. you jest never know. this subject is so annoyin'. __________________ It might be,it could be...It is! A homerun! HOLY COW!! Harry Caray Mitt: I have 5 point plan President Obama: Mitt doesnt have 5 point plan, He has one point plan! (ZINGER) Mitt Romney is a scam!!

10-19-2011, 07:15 PM	#538 (permalink)
sallylou Potterhead and Janeite Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: My own private Idaho Posts: 6,653	I got married at 27 and had my first child at 29. It was a good age to have a baby. Not too young, not too old. Many people don't realize that it can be very difficult for some women to get pregnant in their 40's. Some women even have difficulty getting pregnant in their late 30's. So if you want a baby, and you're not open to adoption, don't wait too long. I've seen some women heartbroken when they can't get pregnant later in life, especially when adoption is not an option. __________________

10-19-2011, 07:16 PM	#539 (permalink)
sallylou Potterhead and Janeite Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: My own private Idaho Posts: 6,653	A lot of birth defects come from older fathers. It's not only the mother's age that matters. rockin'robin likes this. __________________

10-19-2011, 07:55 PM	#540 (permalink)
sheila022 Registered User Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 1,536	wowie, so many of you had babies before 30's and even younger than my age now!!! I can't imagine myself having babies until like...I'm in my late 20's or 30's. But I think, there's some discussion about the trend of young adults delaying the milestones to later age...such as marrying later, moving out later, having children, etc. Anyway....as for "what you thinking about"....I'm thinking about too many things each day. sighs. Too many things to do. AD is a great place to procrastinate.... __________________

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