What are you thinking about? Part V - Page 15

**shel90** · 10-15-2011, 06:08 PM

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Originally Posted by lanapoo

Think of how you would feel if you were the person who wasn't supposed to know.. I'm sure that person would like to know no matter how nasty the secret is. Telling the truth is better than holding it back.

It doesnt involve me ...just a very very very sticky situation. i am talking to my friend who shared that secret with me that I am concerned for others if we keep it to ourselves about this one person. So frustrating..I could lose another friendship over this and I already lost 3 friendships last weekend for an unrelated situation. *sighs*

**KristinaB** · 10-15-2011, 06:12 PM

Thinking and wondering what I have eaten or drank to give me such pain in the digestive tract. I have been very good and watching all labels and such, but I am having killer pain for now and I have a high thresh hold for pain.

Mintee · 10-15-2011, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Rio

Wirelessly posted

Unsure, two signs come to mind.

i suck at explaining stuff clearly but i'll try my best lol

for GOOF- make a "G" sign on the middle of your forehead and sign as if you're twisting something. same thing for JERK except it's on the side of your head, not middle of forehead.. not sure if the other people here have different signs for it but that's how we sign it here.

lanapoo · 10-15-2011, 06:38 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

It doesnt involve me ...just a very very very sticky situation. i am talking to my friend who shared that secret with me that I am concerned for others if we keep it to ourselves about this one person. So frustrating..I could lose another friendship over this and I already lost 3 friendships last weekend for an unrelated situation. *sighs*

That's why I don't really like socializing with people. They make a mountain out of a molehill and lose friendships over nothing.

I believe in being honest, if others have "drama..." I like to tell them to just deal with it, better told than holding it until 5 years later... The result would be a lot worse. People just don't understand. They get all offended, run off to cry and end the friendship over nothing. At least you have the choice to be a true friend by telling the truth.

**shel90** · 10-15-2011, 06:43 PM

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Originally Posted by lanapoo

That's why I don't really like socializing with people. They make a mountain out of a molehill and lose friendships over nothing.

I believe in being honest, if others have "drama..." I like to tell them to just deal with it, better told than holding it until 5 years later... The result would be a lot worse. People just don't understand. They get all offended, run off to cry and end the friendship over nothing. At least you have the choice to be a true friend by telling the truth.

This could involve a mother losing custody of her children. No, her children arent in danger...it is the drama that could result in lies and accusations that could result in having her children taken away from her and I feel helpless. i am going to contact my therapist to get input because my rationalizing on this is very very muddled right now. I need someone who is unbiased to help me see through this mess clearly. I have been holding it in for 3 days and it is really getting to me. Ughhhh.

It involves some people in my family as well which is why I dont know what to do.

lanapoo · 10-15-2011, 06:45 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

This could involve a mother losing custody of her children. No, her children arent in danger...it is the drama that could result in lies and accusations that could result in having her children taken away from her and I feel helpless. i am going to contact my therapist to get input because my rationalizing on this is very very muddled right now. I need someone who is unbiased to help me see through this mess clearly. I have been holding it in for 3 days and it is really getting to me. Ughhhh.

It involves some people in my family as well which is why I dont know what to do.

Yikes! That does sound like a complicated situation. I hope you figure it out and do what is best for yourself and the people involved...

**shel90** · 10-15-2011, 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by lanapoo

Yikes! That does sound like a complicated situation. I hope you figure it out and do what is best for yourself and the people involved...

Just texted my therapist asking for a session. I havent seen him since I have worked all of my issues out with my daughter being taken away. This situation is totally unrelated but I know it will eat me alive if I dont resolve it.

lanapoo · 10-15-2011, 06:54 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Just texted my therapist asking for a session. I havent seen him since I have worked all of my issues out with my daughter being taken away. This situation is totally unrelated but I know it will eat me alive if I dont resolve it.

Hope it all works out for the best.

**shel90** · 10-15-2011, 06:59 PM

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Originally Posted by lanapoo

Hope it all works out for the best.

me too..funny thing is that my friend whom told me this ugly secret also sees him. I will just not use her name and I am sure he will be able to piece the puzzles together. Wait and see. I cant battle this alone...nope, not worth it. Thanks

**Rio** · 10-15-2011, 07:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Mintee

i suck at explaining stuff clearly but i'll try my best lol

for GOOF- make a "G" sign on the middle of your forehead and sign as if you're twisting something. same thing for JERK except it's on the side of your head, not middle of forehead.. not sure if the other people here have different signs for it but that's how we sign it here.

I got it! I was thinking of the middle finger touching forehead and sign for fool lol thank you

Miss-Delectable · 10-15-2011, 07:29 PM

Thinking how awesome my glow in the dark nail polish looks at night!

Mintee · 10-15-2011, 07:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Rio

I got it! I was thinking of the middle finger touching forehead and sign for fool lol thank you

oh yeah, that's the sign i use for fool too!

Mintee · 10-15-2011, 07:36 PM

shel- that does really sound like a sticky situation.. i pray this all works out on it's own. hope the therapist helps you through this situation.. drama is never fun and i try to stay away from it as much as possible. hugs

**Rio** · 10-15-2011, 07:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Mintee

oh yeah, that's the sign i use for fool too!

That guy wants to learn ASL, he not getting any ASL from me! hahahaha

**shel90** · 10-15-2011, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Mintee

shel- that does really sound like a sticky situation.. i pray this all works out on it's own. hope the therapist helps you through this situation.. drama is never fun and i try to stay away from it as much as possible. hugs

I usually stay away from drama that doesnt involve me and dont have any emotions invested in them but this could involve my family and one of my dearest friends and her children. Some bad stuff going on and I am like

...oh boy.

Thanks...if I get it worked out, I will share the details with you here so you all will understand. If not, then I have to keep quiet.

**Jiro** · 10-15-2011, 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

I usually stay away from drama that doesnt involve me and dont have any emotions invested in them but this could involve my family and one of my dearest friends and her children. Some bad stuff going on and I am like

...oh boy.

Thanks...if I get it worked out, I will share the details with you here so you all will understand. If not, then I have to keep quiet.

lanapoo · 10-15-2011, 07:49 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

I usually stay away from drama that doesnt involve me and dont have any emotions invested in them but this could involve my family and one of my dearest friends and her children. Some bad stuff going on and I am like

...oh boy.

Thanks...if I get it worked out, I will share the details with you here so you all will understand. If not, then I have to keep quiet.

If you ever need an advice. I'm here to listen so you can PM if necessary although you requested for a session with your therapist.

**Oddball** · 10-15-2011, 09:07 PM

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Originally Posted by shel90

I usually stay away from drama that doesnt involve me and dont have any emotions invested in them but this could involve my family and one of my dearest friends and her children. Some bad stuff going on and I am like

...oh boy.

Thanks...if I get it worked out, I will share the details with you here so you all will understand. If not, then I have to keep quiet.

That sucks. I hope everything will be ok eventually for you and your family.

Mintee · 10-15-2011, 09:28 PM

thinking about how BEAUTIFUL Dubai is... heard about it a few times but didn't realize how over the top awesome it was until i saw pictures/videos. i'd LOVE to vacation there sometime soon.

posts from hell · 10-15-2011, 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Mintee

thinking about how BEAUTIFUL Dubai is... heard about it a few times but didn't realize how over the top awesome it was until i saw pictures/videos. i'd LOVE to vacation there sometime soon.

Yep

**Beowulf** · 10-15-2011, 11:46 PM

Today was Homecoming and my job as designated driver is done. Whew.

Sunshine · 10-16-2011, 01:24 AM

How amazing fun Canucks game tonight!!!!!

**Beowulf** · 10-16-2011, 01:32 AM

I am thinking I had better get used to watching more Cardinal baseball. One more game to win and they are in the World Series.

**deafskeptic** · 10-16-2011, 09:26 AM

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Originally Posted by shel90

me too..funny thing is that my friend whom told me this ugly secret also sees him. I will just not use her name and I am sure he will be able to piece the puzzles together. Wait and see. I cant battle this alone...nope, not worth it. Thanks

Let us know how this works out.

**shel90** · 10-16-2011, 09:51 AM

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Originally Posted by deafskeptic

Let us know how this works out.

Yea, it depends on how everything works out. Thanks..I feel better today after talking to that one friend last night about my feelings but she is still expecting me to keep quiet about it which I am not comfortable with due to the fact that it could affect some people in my family. If it were to affect other friends, no problem but my family? That's where I have mixed feelings.

**deafskeptic** · 10-16-2011, 09:52 AM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Yea, it depends on how everything works out. Thanks..I feel better today after talking to that one friend last night about my feelings but she is still expecting me to keep quiet about it which I am not comfortable with due to the fact that it could affect some people in my family. If it were to affect other friends, no problem but my family? That's where I have mixed feelings.

Boy, I hope you get all this worked out!

posts from hell · 10-16-2011, 09:52 AM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Yea, it depends on how everything works out. Thanks..I feel better today after talking to that one friend last night about my feelings but she is still expecting me to keep quiet about it which I am not comfortable with due to the fact that it could affect some people in my family. If it were to affect other friends, no problem but my family? That's where I have mixed feelings.

My priorities: family, then friends.

**shel90** · 10-16-2011, 09:53 AM

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Originally Posted by posts from hell

My priorities: family, then friends.

Yea but it can result in a mother losing custody of her children due to possible false information being made up.

posts from hell · 10-16-2011, 09:53 AM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Yea but it can result in a mother losing custody of her children.

........and you're fine with your family suffering because of someone else's **** up?

posts from hell · 10-16-2011, 09:55 AM

I'll be honest. Not good to see anyone lose their children. Not at all.

However, I realllly don't like how they wrapped your family into these issues. That's bullshit.

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Mintee Banned Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: East Coast Posts: 771	shel- that does really sound like a sticky situation.. i pray this all works out on it's own. hope the therapist helps you through this situation.. drama is never fun and i try to stay away from it as much as possible. hugs

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