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I'm incredibly grateful for the wonderful parents I have, they have sacrificed and given me so much. I have returned my gratitude on so many occasions. I just wish a lot of people I know were lucky enough to have that. |
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Well, I hope no one gets offended by that, but I think it is somewhat true that deaf people (regardless of their education, since the oral-only adults I met are not necessarily better than the SL users) have a hard time with grammar. mmh... No, that's not the point. Many hearing people does not know how to write their mother language and have poor grammar skills, but deaf people usually make the same kind of mistakes. There are exceptions, though, and I ended up thinking the reason is just one, for both hearing and deaf: nobody was able to teach them to ENJOY READING. Deaf people of course may encounter more difficulties, because spoken english or italian will never be a "natural" language to them, even if it is their first language (and saying this make people in other forums flame me in a moment!) because born deaf people think differently. From the start! This explains why they do the same kind of mistakes... But the ones who like reading are usually better in writing, while the ones who were tortured as kids to "speak, read, write like all other kids" often come to HATE it all so much they'll never pick up a newspaper or book again in their life... And this happens a lot with hearing kids, too. That's why I'm not forcing my children to like books, I just leave them around (i LOVE reading) and read/sign for them when they ask me. Love is not something you can force on someone, but you can SHOW it. The, it's up to them. My hearing kid is already writing at 5 (learning by herself, copying letters), the deaf one doesn't seem interested for now, but that's ok, too.
I don't know, does this make sense to you... ?
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English language development in deaf people is not really a simple matter. You can't just shove books in their faces, just teach them the rules of grammar, etc and expect them to just pick up the language without much trouble. Up until the late 90's, people didn't have their hearing tested until late. With that, the window of opportunity for learning a language has been completely lost for people who were discovered to be deaf later in life. This window for language development is from birth to about three years. So for people who were discovered to be deaf after three years of age, language development became much more difficult. These days now, babies and toddlers are being tested.
It's not easy to just put on a hearing aid or CI and *boom* the person's English improves. There's so many factors to consider. I know some people who got either the HA or the CI at a young age and they still struggle with their English. Hearing people can have as many issues with English language development as deaf people. Early exposure to reading is a huge key for anyone, deaf or hearing. So, if parents are negligent to do even the ABCs for common items, English becomes more difficult. This is why Gallaudet University has a reading program for adults to learn how to read with deaf children so teach the children early reading skills. Even if presented with a lot of text, deaf children still need a visual means of language development. Body language, facial expressions, intonation of signs/gestures, etc all help to guide the wiring of the linguistic center of a child's brain. And you know what, some hearing people have atrocious language skills, too Maybe what you need to do in order to help you understand this dilemma is to analyze exactly how you developed your English language. What resources did you and your parents use? How early did you start reading? How much reading did you do on average? |
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As for hearing grammar errors, my personal favorites are stuff like your and you're as in "your going to school tomorrow?" there/their as in "is this room there homeroom?" or I seen this before instead of I've seen this before.
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"I have a hearing aid so I am normal and you are not." Different technology, same oralist attitude. And it's growing. |
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I didn't see my mom for quite a while after I moved to college, because I was resentful of her attitude towards who I am. I was, and still sometimes am, resentful of the fact that she wouldn't let me learn ASL when I was younger, and her and my teachers would tie my hands behind my back so I couldn't use my "home made" signs. She would sit with me, make me practice my speech, make my practice my lip reading. Telling me, no its pronounced like this, no you say it this way... no thats not what I said... In high School I wasn't allowed to even meet the one other dhh girl in my school, because she had a CI, and she used sign... the one year we were put in the same class, my mom made my principal switch me out of the class, because "that could be detrimental to Ash's progress, that could be detrimental to her mental health..." what she didn't realize is that she was detrimental to my mental health at that time... always telling me, you need to be more hearing, you need to hide your hearing aids, you need to act normal... why can't you just be normal? It was hard growing up like that... It was hard feeling like there was something wrong with me. She was more accepting of the fact I was gay, then the fact that her daughter was going deaf. It was because of everyone's attitudes around me, because I felt so wrong... that I tried to kill myself... I will NEVER let this happen to my children. They will be loved for who they are, not what they can or can't do. They will be loved and know that whoever they are, is fine with me.
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It was so much fun! Having lunch with Steph today! Even staying up past my bed time wasn't bad
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Ever since I was in middle school I can remember my mom wanting me to proof-read her letters or anything that had to do with her grammar. I always understood because she writes how she signs. It's as simple as that. It doesn't mean she's stupid or uneducated, it simply means the grammar that is her native language is different than English grammar, primarily word order. I can understand what my mom is saying when she sends me emails and other text correspondence but it is definitely not "grammatically correct" AND that's ok. I don't think it's a big deal because she has done absolutely fine in her life and she's 48. It has never set her back or caused her job performance to suffer.
Does it really matter to you sailorboy or are you just trying to make people feel bad? |
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On the very unlikely but possible off-chance that this is a genuine question, let me ask you a follow-up question. If this site was populated with a large number of Americans who were French ex-pats, and you occasionally saw posts in French, would you be asking why people kept writing gibberish words and used funny looking letters? This isn't meant to be insulting, I'm actually wondering if that's the case. Because ASL is a distinct language, one that a large number of people here are fluent in or familiar with, and that occasionally people respond in. No, people responded negatively because your wording, attitude and questions were extremely condescending, arrogant and insulting. This response, even moreso. |
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Short answer: Because Deaf generally don't spend their days talking to Oral speakers of English. And if they do, they may be talking to people who don't have 'good' grammar.
Most Deaf learn how to read and write English but don't advance. Most of the time, it's a matter of early language development and lack of proper instruction in either sign or English. *shrug* The out-of-order thing you see is syntax confusion. Standard Academic English grammar is actually spoken by a minority of the hearing population. I'm one of them because I went to prep school and I wasn't allowed to speak anything but proper grammar. Not sure if you've noticed, but most people don't sound like CNN newscasters.
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Currently there are Deaf who resent CIs, so I'm sure it will go both ways! D'oh!
Actually, Jillio, because of your profession and experience, you can probably back me up when I say that MOST people who speak Standard English look down on ANYONE who does not!
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Absolutely, I will back you up on that one. |
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Grammar is good, but only to get your point across and makes it easier for the audience to read. Is there anything else?
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