Random Vents..... - Page 8

**Phillips** · 05-24-2011, 09:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Dixie

My truck costs $75 to fill up now. Not cool.

Aahh You lucky .. My monster truck costs 120.00 to 150.00 something! Not great cool!

rockin'robin · 05-24-2011, 09:44 AM

Gas prices here went down to $3.69 yesterday, down from $3.75.....

**KristinaB** · 05-24-2011, 03:30 PM

My vent for the day, but I say it's actually for the month. After all I have done for MIL over the last 2 years, and even more over the last 3 weeks, she still does not trust me to deal with the mortgage payments on the new house. The loan will be in 3 names, hers, mine and hubby's. She has to be on it since her house is being used a collateral. Then, then checking account that will be used for paying things out, will be MIL and my hubby. She will not let me on it. Boy, do I ever feel like I have been used and abused. It seems that no matter what I do, she will not appreciate or trust me. Her loss!!

Beach girl · 05-24-2011, 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by KristinaB

I asked about that and the response was "We don't participate." Then they said that the books that are missing are ones that were never returned after 3 years they are removed from the card catalog (internet based).

That makes more sense than them not having bought the whole series, though. Too bad other people's thoughtlessness about not returning the books messed up your reading pleasure.

**Jiro** · 05-24-2011, 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by KristinaB

My vent for the day, but I say it's actually for the month. After all I have done for MIL over the last 2 years, and even more over the last 3 weeks, she still does not trust me to deal with the mortgage payments on the new house. The loan will be in 3 names, hers, mine and hubby's. She has to be on it since her house is being used a collateral. Then, then checking account that will be used for paying things out, will be MIL and my hubby. She will not let me on it. Boy, do I ever feel like I have been used and abused. It seems that no matter what I do, she will not appreciate or trust me. Her loss!!

so.... why do you continue to subject yourself to that kind of abuse?

StSapphire · 05-24-2011, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by KristinaB

Why oh why does this always happen?!! You get interested in a book at the library and are ready for the next one in the series only to find that they don't have them all. I mean, I just finished book 1, book 2 is not in any of the branches. It's not even in the online catalog, but books 3-6 are there, 7 & 8 are not but 9-11 are. Does this make sense? I have a hard time finding something to read. I love to read just to relax and escape, but it's so hard finding things I like.

What series? If you don't mind e-readers, I might be able to see if my library has an e-book version of it that I can check out for you.

**KristinaB** · 05-24-2011, 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Jiro

so.... why do you continue to subject yourself to that kind of abuse?

Well - I have no choice except to do this or she will not help and we will be homeless. She feels it is my responsibility as her daughter-in-law and she does her best to alienate all family members. None of her family members want a thing to do with her.

Beach girl · 05-24-2011, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by KristinaB

My vent for the day, but I say it's actually for the month. After all I have done for MIL over the last 2 years, and even more over the last 3 weeks, she still does not trust me to deal with the mortgage payments on the new house. The loan will be in 3 names, hers, mine and hubby's. She has to be on it since her house is being used a collateral. Then, then checking account that will be used for paying things out, will be MIL and my hubby. She will not let me on it. Boy, do I ever feel like I have been used and abused. It seems that no matter what I do, she will not appreciate or trust me. Her loss!!

WHATTTT???? I'd be furious. Is her name just on the mortgage, or actually on the title? If it's on the mortgage but not title, joke's on her.

That's ridiculous that your name is not on the checking account. What if something happens to hubby, and you can't access the account? Sheesh.

**sallylou** · 05-24-2011, 03:36 PM

Kristina, I'm sorry about the way that your MIL is treating you. It would be nice if she could treat you as her daughter since you're playing that role anyway. I suspect that she's not a person who becomes very attached to people.

**Jiro** · 05-24-2011, 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by KristinaB

Well - I have no choice except to do this or she will not help and we will be homeless. She feels it is my responsibility as her daughter-in-law and she does her best to alienate all family members. None of her family members want a thing to do with her.

oh boy.....

**sallylou** · 05-24-2011, 03:38 PM

Kristina, have them put you on the account as POD. That takes care of the problem and you aren't "on the account."

**KristinaB** · 05-24-2011, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Beach girl

WHATTTT???? I'd be furious. Is her name just on the mortgage, or actually on the title? If it's on the mortgage but not title, joke's on her.

That's ridiculous that your name is not on the checking account. What if something happens to hubby, and you can't access the account? Sheesh.

Mortgage and the title/deed to the property will be in hubby's and my name. She currently owns the property and is giving it to hubby and myself. Her name will be on the mortgage and the checking account. I have told hubby that I am going to be changing all the account we currently own and my check will go into one with my name only and he will have a household account in his name only and he can have his mother help him pay the bills. I will deposit that bit of my check to help cover bills, but not more. He is very upset and trying to talk with his mother. He is also talking with another family member to see if they can work with her. The bank already told her that if this is an account involving the mortgage money, then I have to be on it and she has no say.

Beach girl · 05-24-2011, 03:44 PM

Thank heavens for the assistance of the bank.

Frisky Feline · 05-24-2011, 03:47 PM

Kristina, you are a toughie chica. MIL lost her marble. :/

Glenn · 05-24-2011, 04:05 PM

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Originally Posted by KristinaB

My vent for the day, but I say it's actually for the month. After all I have done for MIL over the last 2 years, and even more over the last 3 weeks, she still does not trust me to deal with the mortgage payments on the new house. The loan will be in 3 names, hers, mine and hubby's. She has to be on it since her house is being used a collateral. Then, then checking account that will be used for paying things out, will be MIL and my hubby. She will not let me on it. Boy, do I ever feel like I have been used and abused. It seems that no matter what I do, she will not appreciate or trust me. Her loss!!

I'm sorry to hear this. Unfortunately, there is probably not much you can do. It is completely unfair to you.

**KristinaB** · 05-24-2011, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Glenn

I'm sorry to hear this. Unfortunately, there is probably not much you can do. It is completely unfair to you.

Thanks - She can be a real bi**h. At least I can say I did not choose her, I chose her son and he is nothing like her at all. He wishes we were not here.

Glenn · 05-24-2011, 04:09 PM

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Originally Posted by KristinaB

Thanks - She can be a real bi**h. At least I can say I did not choose her, I chose her son and he is nothing like her at all. He wishes we were not here.

Yeah...about all you can do is be the better person and not sink to her level.

It is obvious her son is nothing like her.

**Rio** · 05-24-2011, 05:16 PM

Wirelessly posted

Doesn't understand why everyone feels sorry for my brother??? Sigh..I need a better job to move out fast!

**sallylou** · 05-24-2011, 05:56 PM

Rio, let me guess? You're the mature, responsible one that always takes care of others emotionally and your family takes you for granted.

**KristinaB** · 05-24-2011, 06:12 PM

Well - slight update on MIL and the issues from today. She asked me to make a list of both incoming and outgoing funds that we can expect while living in the new house. Luckily I had a budget already put together. I updated it with the new information from our new insurance company and the money my mother will give us each month. MIL was pleased and is giving us a $10,000 down payment so our mortgage will be lower. She admitted she was wrong and is willing to help a little more. Hubby called his Aunt whole was FIL's baby sister and she gave MIL a piece of her mind and really railed at her.

**Rio** · 05-24-2011, 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by sallylou

Rio, let me guess? You're the mature, responsible one that always takes care of others emotionally and your family takes you for granted.

Pretty much sums it up

**sallylou** · 05-24-2011, 06:27 PM

Rio, sorry! This is why I don't see my family. Too much drama! Hope that you get away soon.

**KristinaB** · 05-24-2011, 06:28 PM

Rio - I do wish you the absolute best and have been keeping you in my prayers.

**KristinaB** · 05-25-2011, 06:00 PM

Aaaaaaccccckkkkkk!!!!! My hubby cab really drive me up a wall sometimes. I realize it's because he just doesn't know, but geez, explain something to him, show it to him and he still does not understand. I had to physically let him feel the proof.

Okay - subject was kitchen cabinets. He thought you bought the whole line of cabinets all in one piece and not individual units to make your piece. He thought we would just be picking from set floor plans and saying what we wanted and they would build it and ship it all in one piece. I told him they would build to his specifications and ship it in pieces if he wanted to pay that price, or we could go with something more in our budget that would still be good. I think he finally understands He thought his mother's cabinets were all one piece. I removed the strips and showed him the crevice that proves they are individual units. I actually saw the light bulb turn on in his head. Sheesh!!

**Dixie** · 05-25-2011, 10:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Phillips

Aahh You lucky .. My monster truck costs 120.00 to 150.00 something! Not great cool!

When you're making only $300/wk flat - that's nearly a third of my paycheck just for gas alone!

My dad has a Ford King Ranch and his fills up for NO LESS than $120.00. Ridiculous. He says he got a good deal on the truck. I told him, yeah but you'll be paying out the wazoo for gas everytime you fill up. Just think your gas is going to be nearly as much as the truck payment every month!

**Rio** · 05-31-2011, 01:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Dixie

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Originally Posted by Phillips

Aahh You lucky .. My monster truck costs 120.00 to 150.00 something! Not great cool!

When you're making only $300/wk flat - that's nearly a third of my paycheck just for gas alone!

My dad has a Ford King Ranch and his fills up for NO LESS than $120.00. Ridiculous. He says he got a good deal on the truck. I told him, yeah but you'll be paying out the wazoo for gas everytime you fill up. Just think your gas is going to be nearly as much as the truck payment every month!

That last statement is scary but true.

Grummer · 05-31-2011, 05:25 AM

hypocrites- i want to introduce new by-laws, 'to be a hypocrite is outlawed'...

Grummer · 05-31-2011, 05:30 AM

im just kdding about the by-laws but those kinds of people really do piss me off

drphil · 05-31-2011, 08:13 AM

What would be the effect on grummers' bylaw- don't be a hypocrite-decrease of persons's interacting with oneself? Enjoy the quiet time!

Implanted A B Harmony activated Aug/07

**deafskeptic** · 05-31-2011, 10:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Jiro

oh boy.....

I was thinking the same thing. I can relate to this.

05-24-2011, 03:36 PM	#219 (permalink)
sallylou Potterhead and Janeite Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: My own private Idaho Posts: 6,653	Kristina, I'm sorry about the way that your MIL is treating you. It would be nice if she could treat you as her daughter since you're playing that role anyway. I suspect that she's not a person who becomes very attached to people. __________________

05-24-2011, 03:38 PM	#221 (permalink)
sallylou Potterhead and Janeite Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: My own private Idaho Posts: 6,653	Kristina, have them put you on the account as POD. That takes care of the problem and you aren't "on the account." __________________

05-24-2011, 03:47 PM	#224 (permalink)
Frisky Feline Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Posts: 20,239	Kristina, you are a toughie chica. MIL lost her marble. :/ KristinaB likes this.

05-24-2011, 05:16 PM	#228 (permalink)
Rio Patriots Rock! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Patriots lockerroom Posts: 12,250 Blog Entries: 59	Wirelessly posted Doesn't understand why everyone feels sorry for my brother??? Sigh..I need a better job to move out fast! __________________ Ps.103:12 He washes our sins away into the ocean Brady's back Proverbs 17:9 Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends

05-24-2011, 05:56 PM	#229 (permalink)
sallylou Potterhead and Janeite Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: My own private Idaho Posts: 6,653	Rio, let me guess? You're the mature, responsible one that always takes care of others emotionally and your family takes you for granted. __________________

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05-24-2011, 09:44 AM	#212 (permalink)
rockin'robin Registered User Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Florida Posts: 15,339	Gas prices here went down to $3.69 yesterday, down from $3.75.....

05-24-2011, 03:30 PM	#213 (permalink)
KristinaB New SDIT Deacon Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Land of the backstroke Posts: 13,779	My vent for the day, but I say it's actually for the month. After all I have done for MIL over the last 2 years, and even more over the last 3 weeks, she still does not trust me to deal with the mortgage payments on the new house. The loan will be in 3 names, hers, mine and hubby's. She has to be on it since her house is being used a collateral. Then, then checking account that will be used for paying things out, will be MIL and my hubby. She will not let me on it. Boy, do I ever feel like I have been used and abused. It seems that no matter what I do, she will not appreciate or trust me. Her loss!!

05-24-2011, 03:44 PM	#223 (permalink)
Beach girl Registered User Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: northern Virginia in winter; NC in summer Posts: 3,760	Thank heavens for the assistance of the bank.

05-24-2011, 06:12 PM	#230 (permalink)
KristinaB New SDIT Deacon Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Land of the backstroke Posts: 13,779	Well - slight update on MIL and the issues from today. She asked me to make a list of both incoming and outgoing funds that we can expect while living in the new house. Luckily I had a budget already put together. I updated it with the new information from our new insurance company and the money my mother will give us each month. MIL was pleased and is giving us a $10,000 down payment so our mortgage will be lower. She admitted she was wrong and is willing to help a little more. Hubby called his Aunt whole was FIL's baby sister and she gave MIL a piece of her mind and really railed at her. sallylou and Beach girl like this.

05-24-2011, 06:27 PM	#232 (permalink)
sallylou Potterhead and Janeite Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: My own private Idaho Posts: 6,653	Rio, sorry! This is why I don't see my family. Too much drama! Hope that you get away soon. __________________

05-24-2011, 06:28 PM	#233 (permalink)
KristinaB New SDIT Deacon Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Land of the backstroke Posts: 13,779	Rio - I do wish you the absolute best and have been keeping you in my prayers.

05-25-2011, 06:00 PM	#234 (permalink)
KristinaB New SDIT Deacon Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Land of the backstroke Posts: 13,779	Aaaaaaccccckkkkkk!!!!! My hubby cab really drive me up a wall sometimes. I realize it's because he just doesn't know, but geez, explain something to him, show it to him and he still does not understand. I had to physically let him feel the proof. Okay - subject was kitchen cabinets. He thought you bought the whole line of cabinets all in one piece and not individual units to make your piece. He thought we would just be picking from set floor plans and saying what we wanted and they would build it and ship it all in one piece. I told him they would build to his specifications and ship it in pieces if he wanted to pay that price, or we could go with something more in our budget that would still be good. I think he finally understands He thought his mother's cabinets were all one piece. I removed the strips and showed him the crevice that proves they are individual units. I actually saw the light bulb turn on in his head. Sheesh!! Reba, Glenn and Beach girl like this.

05-31-2011, 05:25 AM	#237 (permalink)
Grummer Registered User Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: In the Batcave Posts: 9,547	hypocrites- i want to introduce new by-laws, 'to be a hypocrite is outlawed'... __________________ "Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them." Albert Einstein

05-31-2011, 05:30 AM	#238 (permalink)
Grummer Registered User Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: In the Batcave Posts: 9,547	im just kdding about the by-laws but those kinds of people really do piss me off __________________ "Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them." Albert Einstein

05-31-2011, 08:13 AM	#239 (permalink)
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