The Lounge thread: Whatever you feel like......... Anything goes! Part XIV

[Bottesini]

Originally Posted by Loghead

I just got rid of my AVG and got Avira. What do Avira users think of it?

What the heck are you talking about sonny?

[Loghead]

AVG and Avira are both free antivirus softwares.

[Bottesini]

Originally Posted by Loghead

AVG and Avira are both free antivirus softwares.

Ah, very good. Carry on with the tech geeks then.

[shel90]

Just got home from another day at the beach with my friends and kids and then we all went to one of their houses to hang out. I love the summer!

[JClarke]

Originally Posted by Bottesini

What the heck are you talking about sonny?

[Everglade85]

Watching the Simpsons!

[Loghead]

An update: I don't like Avira... I am going to switch back to AVG. Avira antivirus scans take too long and I've never been able to finish one because it always freezes my computer.

[Loghead]

Today I managed to contact a friend from another forum/chat that I used to frequent and volunteer at. I had asked her if she would like to add my MSN so we could still keep in touch, but she blatantly ignored the question and her reply to me was short and sweet. I'm beginning to think that the time I spent there was completely worthless...

[LakeTahoe]

Waiting for my yummy dinner ready to eat!!! I am hungry! LOL! I gotta feed my little guy inside me too!

Enjoy your evening, ADers!

[shel90]

I am completely and utterly shocked! I just reconnected with a former classmate whom I was very good friends with. We played softball together on the same teams growing up. She was 5'11 and 180 lbs. She was a big girl but beautiful. We lost touch after I graduated (she was in the class after mine) and then upon her graduation, I heard rumors that she had lost so much weight but didnt see her. Forgot all about it until 3 years later when my former best friend and I ran into her at the college library. That was in '94. We were completely speechless when we saw her cuz she was apparently severly aneroxic..literally a walking skeleton but we didnt say anything to her about her wieght. Just caught up with what we have been up to but I was working so hard to keep my eyes from giving her the look-over. After she left, my friend and I were like "HOly f*** s****! What the hell happened to her?!" I called my former sister-in-law who was best friends with her in high school and she told me that yea, she developed an eating disorder during their senior year in high school. She had lost touch with her at that time.

Well, today, she asked me to be her friend and at first, I didnt know who she was so I looked her up in the yearbook and I was like "OMG..." so I accepted and OMG, I saw her pics...even after 20 years, she looks so underweight...not skeletal but close to it. I messaged her asking her if she was this person and she said yes. She is beautiful but she is so so skinny. If she is still 5'11, she has to weigh around 100 lbs. I cant get her pics out of my head now.

Can someone suffer from anexoria for 20 years??!!!

[Bottesini]

Originally Posted by shel90

I am completely and utterly shocked! I just reconnected with a former classmate whom I was very good friends with. We played softball together on the same teams growing up. She was 5'11 and 180 lbs. She was a big girl but beautiful. We lost touch after I graduated (she was in the class after mine) and then upon her graduation, I heard rumors that she had lost so much weight but didnt see her. Forgot all about it until 3 years later when my former best friend and I ran into her at the college library. That was in '94. We were completely speechless when we saw her cuz she was apparently severly aneroxic..literally a walking skeleton but we didnt say anything to her about her wieght. Just caught up with what we have been up to but I was working so hard to keep my eyes from giving her the look-over. After she left, my friend and I were like "HOly f*** s****! What the hell happened to her?!" I called my former sister-in-law who was best friends with her in high school and she told me that yea, she developed an eating disorder during their senior year in high school. She had lost touch with her at that time.

Well, today, she asked me to be her friend and at first, I didnt know who she was so I looked her up in the yearbook and I was like "OMG..." so I accepted and OMG, I saw her pics...even after 20 years, she looks so underweight...not skeletal but close to it. I messaged her asking her if she was this person and she said yes. She is beautiful but she is so so skinny. If she is still 5'11, she has to weigh around 100 lbs. I cant get her pics out of my head now.

Can someone suffer from anexoria for 20 years??!!!

Yes but they tend to lose a lot of teeth. Also the body starts to shed calcium and they get osteoporosis.

At this time, no treatment program for anorexia nervosa is completely effective. Recovery rates vary between 23 - 50%, and relapses range from 4 - 27%. Recovery takes an average of 5 - 6 years from the time of diagnosis. Up to 30% of patients do not recover.

http://www.umm.edu/patiented/article...a_000049_5.htm

[shel90]

Originally Posted by Bottesini

Yes but they tend to lose a lot of teeth. Also the body starts to shed calcium and they get osteoporosis.

It looks like she has all of her teeth. I am just shocked by how thin she looked. Whenever I think of her, I think of the big athletic girl..not this waif. It will take time to get over the shock. I feel so bad for her if she had suffered from her eating disorder so long. Wow! She used to have such THICK hair and was famous for her BIG 80s hair and in the pics, her hair looks thin. Guess it has taken a toll on her body. She looks happy in the pics with her little one and hubby. I hope she is happy.

What a frightening thought about the body shedding calcium. *Goosebumps*

[sequoias]

Recovery takes an average of 5 - 6 years from the time of diagnosis.

Wow, 5 to 6 years?!

[webexplorer]

In fact, every seven years rebuilds your body. It also heals your body to be normal as well. Let's hope that it doesn't make you crazy when you get older. Knock the wood...

[shel90]

I sent a private message to another friend who was childhood friends with my friend and she confirmed that she is still suffering from her eating disorder. Their parents are still friends and she told me that her dad said that she is 5'11 and weighs 110 lbs. She had been hovering between 80 to 110 lbs for the past 20 years and almost died a few times. I couldnt stop thinking about her all night. How heartbreaking. My other friend said that the kids were so cruel to her for so many years about her weight when they were growing up. I wish I can see her and give her a big hug..she was such a sweet girl in high school and we were so close for a short time. Poor thing..I hope she is happier now that she just had her first baby and with her hubby. Bullying can seriously affect someone for life. Geez...

[Jiro]

for your friend, shel. if she has never had a serious talk about her issue.... she needs to. now. It's a ticking bomb waiting to explode and that's not good especially with her first baby on the board cuz raising a first child can adds to stress and depression.

[shel90]

Originally Posted by Jiro

for your friend, shel. if she has never had a serious talk about her issue.... she needs to. now. It's a ticking bomb waiting to explode and that's not good especially with her first baby on the board cuz raising a first child can adds to stress and depression.

I am sure she had so many people talk to her. I just reconnected with her after 20 years so I dont know if she has been through therapy or not. Anyways, my other friend told me that she is at her healthiest now because of the baby although she is still seriously underweight. She doesnt look like a sketeton but looks like someone who has absulotely no fat and little muscles on her body.

She has posted on her FB how happy she is with her baby so hopefully that is true. She is 36 years old so it has been a long time coming to finally have a child. Wait and see.

[Loghead]

Question for experienced ADers: I just got a hilarious email that I would like to put in the Jokes forum but all of the stuff I got on the email are attachments, so I was just wondering how I get the attachments of the email in my post. If anyone could talk me through that, it would be greatly appreciated!

[Loghead]

I'm really hoping that my American friends like my new signature! Canada & the US have very good relations... and I thought that the quote illustrated that, but also gave a funny twist to it by one of my favourite comedians. I also included the American/Canadian flag to add flavour to it!

Edit... I just realized how big the picture is, so I'm going to get a smaller one.

[shel90]

Originally Posted by Loghead

I'm really hoping that my American friends like my new signature! Canada & the US have very good relations... and I thought that the quote illustrated that, but also gave a funny twist to it by one of my favourite comedians. I also included the American/Canadian flag to add flavour to it!

Edit... I just realized how big the picture is, so I'm going to get a smaller one.

What a great pic!

[Loghead]

Originally Posted by shel90

What a great pic!

Thanks! I just got a smaller version of the picture... how's it look now?

[shel90]

A lot better...

[Dixie]

Originally Posted by shel90

I am completely and utterly shocked! I just reconnected with a former classmate whom I was very good friends with. We played softball together on the same teams growing up. She was 5'11 and 180 lbs. She was a big girl but beautiful. We lost touch after I graduated (she was in the class after mine) and then upon her graduation, I heard rumors that she had lost so much weight but didnt see her. Forgot all about it until 3 years later when my former best friend and I ran into her at the college library. That was in '94. We were completely speechless when we saw her cuz she was apparently severly aneroxic..literally a walking skeleton but we didnt say anything to her about her wieght. Just caught up with what we have been up to but I was working so hard to keep my eyes from giving her the look-over. After she left, my friend and I were like "HOly f*** s****! What the hell happened to her?!" I called my former sister-in-law who was best friends with her in high school and she told me that yea, she developed an eating disorder during their senior year in high school. She had lost touch with her at that time.

Well, today, she asked me to be her friend and at first, I didnt know who she was so I looked her up in the yearbook and I was like "OMG..." so I accepted and OMG, I saw her pics...even after 20 years, she looks so underweight...not skeletal but close to it. I messaged her asking her if she was this person and she said yes. She is beautiful but she is so so skinny. If she is still 5'11, she has to weigh around 100 lbs. I cant get her pics out of my head now.

Can someone suffer from anexoria for 20 years??!!!

Absolutely Shel, I admit I suffer from it too. There have been times I've come dangerously close to being hospitalized over it because I would get so weak. But when I hear the word hospital I usually try to bring my weight up back to where everyone is happy, leave it there for a bit, then sneak it back under.

My weight has gone up and down up and down for the last 12 years. I found a pic of me at my lowest weight, I'll have to scan it off and post it sometime.

[shel90]

Originally Posted by Dixie

Absolutely Shel, I admit I suffer from it too. There have been times I've come dangerously close to being hospitalized over it because I would get so weak. But when I hear the word hospital I usually try to bring my weight up back to where everyone is happy, leave it there for a bit, then sneak it back under.

My weight has gone up and down up and down for the last 12 years. I found a pic of me at my lowest weight, I'll have to scan it off and post it sometime.

I understand about eating disorders as I had a mild case myself when I was in my 20s. I just never known of anyone suffering from it that long without either recovering or dying from it. Knwo what I mean?

[Dixie]

Originally Posted by shel90

I sent a private message to another friend who was childhood friends with my friend and she confirmed that she is still suffering from her eating disorder. Their parents are still friends and she told me that her dad said that she is 5'11 and weighs 110 lbs. She had been hovering between 80 to 110 lbs for the past 20 years and almost died a few times. I couldnt stop thinking about her all night. How heartbreaking. My other friend said that the kids were so cruel to her for so many years about her weight when they were growing up. I wish I can see her and give her a big hug..she was such a sweet girl in high school and we were so close for a short time. Poor thing..I hope she is happier now that she just had her first baby and with her hubby. Bullying can seriously affect someone for life. Geez...

Agreed there too Shel, I was bullied and taunted for my weight throughout Junior High thus I developed an ED. Although at present state I would likely be classified as EDNOS and not ED-Ana w/ bulimic tendencies.

[shel90]

Originally Posted by Dixie

Agreed there too Shel, I was bullied and taunted for my weight throughout Junior High thus I developed an ED. Although at present state I would likely be classified as EDNOS and not ED-Ana w/ bulimic tendencies.

Looking back ,there were red flags with her during high school. She would spend so much time in the mornings to ensure that her appearance was perfect. One time, she was late for school because she had to wash her hair again after not being happy how it looked to do it all over again. We were on the JV softball team and she would get soo upset about putting the helmets on cuz it would mess up her hair (big 80s with hairspray) so the following year, she didnt try out for softball again because of that reason. Her nails, make-up and hair were always so perfect. She was beautiful ..big yes, but beautiful. Apparently she couldnt accept it. In her FB pics, it looks like she is still very high maintenance...I see french manicures on her fingers and toes, perfect outfits, perfect make-up, and perfect hair. Wow...

She had red flags back then but as kids, we always teased her about her obsession with her looks. If only we knew...

[Dixie]

yeah, it always starts out as a desire to fit, or to look like the people in the glossy mags. Then for some the taunting and teasing only drives the person into an obsessive mode to where they start behaving like your friend did/does. Sometimes I'll see a good looking girl on the street with hair and nails done all perfect, but then I'll see her bones and I think to myself - I bet she's one unhappy person.

[Bottesini]

Originally Posted by Loghead

I'm really hoping that my American friends like my new signature! Canada & the US have very good relations... and I thought that the quote illustrated that, but also gave a funny twist to it by one of my favourite comedians. I also included the American/Canadian flag to add flavour to it!

Edit... I just realized how big the picture is, so I'm going to get a smaller one.

I think your signature is great.

However, I was quite attracted to your previous avatar with it's promise of cookies.

[shel90]

Originally Posted by Dixie

yeah, it always starts out as a desire to fit, or to look like the people in the glossy mags. Then for some the taunting and teasing only drives the person into an obsessive mode to where they start behaving like your friend did/does. Sometimes I'll see a good looking girl on the street with hair and nails done all perfect, but then I'll see her bones and I think to myself - I bet she's one unhappy person.

I have always dressed to try to fit in but I never went to that extreme. It was in my 20s when I became overweight for the first time in my life (Freshman 15) and was so depressed about my life after not being able to fit into the hearing world like I wanted to. So, I started obsessing about my looks and my weight so when I lost 10 lbs, I got attention and I just became even more obsessed where I was exercising over 20 hours a week and eating practically nothing. I dropped to 125 lbs (I am 5'7) and people started telling me that I was too skinny but in my sick mind, I loved being told that so it just reinforced my behavior. However, I learned ASL and finally accepted my deafness so the obsession stopped.

[Loghead]

Originally Posted by Bottesini

I think your signature is great.

However, I was quite attracted to your previous avatar with it's promise of cookies.

Thanks Botts!

And yes, the cookie avatar is definitely my favourite avatar of all time. It's hilarious and suits my personality. But I thought I'd do a bit of a post makeover.