threat about section 8

**Phillips** · 12-14-2007, 02:16 PM

Just curious what your opinion...

I was listening my friend talked...

He was so mad at his new date lady ( only about 3 months) because a lady still have his older son who over 20 years old and live with her. He is a threat to her that he will be calling her section 8 that her son still live with her?

**Chase** · 12-14-2007, 02:55 PM

Phillips, I'm somewhat confused at your post.

Are you asking what a "section 8" means? In the military, anyone discharged for medical reasons is honorably discharged under Section Eight of the Uniform Code of Military Justice. However, the term "section 8" to most GIs implies a discharge for psychological reasons, for being certified insane. Thus, a section 8 is someone who is crazy.

Or are you asking opinions as to whether a person is crazy who has a child older than twenty living with her? It my opinion, it's none of your friend's business. His girlfriend may have any of a dozen legitimate, sane reasons for supporting an adult child or allowing him to live with her.

From what you know of your friend, is it possible that he may be totally self-centered and want his girlfriend's attention all for himself?

Or are you asking opinions about something else?

Byrdie714 · 12-14-2007, 03:06 PM

Or is this Section 8 in terms of reduced income for housing?

**Phillips** · 12-14-2007, 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Byrdie714

Or is this Section 8 in terms of reduced income for housing?

Yes !!!

**Phillips** · 12-14-2007, 03:35 PM

.

Or are you asking opinions as to whether a person is crazy who has a child older than twenty living with her? It my opinion, it's none of your friend's business. His girlfriend may have any of a dozen legitimate, sane reasons for supporting an adult child or allowing him to live with her.

From what you know of your friend, is it possible that he may be totally self-centered and want his girlfriend's attention all for himself?

Yeah I am considered that he is very selfish but Not fair to anyone who waiting on lists on section 8 too Geez!

Freaky Cat · 12-14-2007, 03:56 PM

section 8 may know that the lady's son live with her? beside one is right it is none of our business. tell him to let it go and worry about his life and his own business instead of other business! what goes around will go around so it can bite him in ass! beside too many adult children are living with the parents nowadays.. alot of them cant afford housing costs as it is very high compare to the past it was cheap. it was on news not long ago. so tell that guy who cares. i wouldnt worry about it if i were you.

deafdyke · 12-14-2007, 05:03 PM

Yes, its very common for a whole bunch of people to shack up together on a section 8 voucher.

***VamPyroX*** · 12-14-2007, 07:46 PM

I'm not sure I understand the situation.

Your friend (a guy) has been dating this person (a gal) for a few months. That gal has a 20-year-old son living with her.

That gal has filed for Section 8, so that she has help paying for her rent. Your friend doesn't want that gal's son living with her and is threatening to call on him. If this is the case, this could be a bad thing for that gal. If the son already has income, he could be helping her out with the rent and Section 8 wouldn't be needed. Therefore, she's "cheating" the government. Reporting on her would get her in trouble.

Is this what you're saying?

**Angel** · 12-14-2007, 09:11 PM

Eh? What is section 8? ..

**Phillips** · 12-14-2007, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by VamPyroX

I'm not sure I understand the situation.

Your friend (a guy) has been dating this person (a gal) for a few months. That gal has a 20-year-old son living with her.

That gal has filed for Section 8, so that she has help paying for her rent. Your friend doesn't want that gal's son living with her and is threatening to call on him. If this is the case, this could be a bad thing for that gal. If the son already has income, he could be helping her out with the rent and Section 8 wouldn't be needed. Therefore, she's "cheating" the government. Reporting on her would get her in trouble.

Is this what you're saying?

Sorry me make a short story.. Ok here long story...

Pretend the names.. Guy name is umm David.. His new date gal name is um Kathy.. ok

Kathy's son age about 20 or 21 doesn't working and depend on her. Kathy paid the food, cooking, bills, his cell phone and live with her apartment with section 8. David is pissed off at her son do nothing! David told Kathy that She needs kick her son out but Kathy couldn't rid of her son. David is a threat to Kathy that her son must move out or David will be calling section 8 Because Kathy don't want to break up with David.

Seem to me that Kathy is middle of between her son and date David!

I felt that David could back off and let Kathy decide?

**Phillips** · 12-14-2007, 09:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Angel

Eh? What is section 8? ..

Apartment section 8 for people who pay low income and couldn't afford rental

**Angel** · 12-14-2007, 09:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Phillips

Apartment section 8 for people who pay low income and couldn't afford rental

Ohhh,

Sunshine1 · 12-14-2007, 09:41 PM

What does David have to do with it. David and Kathy have been dating only three months, nothing serious about it. David don't live with them therefore it's NONE his business! Period! It's up to Kathy. If David don't like that idea of Kathy's son is living with her then say good bye to Kathy and stay out of their business. Period!

jillio · 12-14-2007, 09:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Angel

Eh? What is section 8? ..

Government supported low income housing.

jillio · 12-14-2007, 09:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sunshine1

What does David have to do with it. David and Kathy have been dating only three months, nothing serious about it. David don't live with them therefore it's NONE his business! Period! It's up to Kathy. If David don't like that idea of Kathy's son is living with her then say good bye to Kathy and stay out of their business. Period!

**nodding agreement** Plus, Kathy needs to kick David to the curb. If he cares about her, why would he try to gwet her into trouble? Plus, he sounds like a complete control freak to me.

Sunshine1 · 12-14-2007, 09:50 PM

Yes!!! Complete control freak .. geeez that scared me!!! Kathy needs to have a wake up call!!! If I were her I would call police because that's a "harrasment"!!!

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Originally Posted by jillio

**nodding agreement** Plus, Kathy needs to kick David to the curb. If he cares about her, why would he try to gwet her into trouble? Plus, he sounds like a complete control freak to me.

jillio · 12-14-2007, 10:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Sunshine1

Yes!!! Complete control freak .. geeez that scared me!!! Kathy needs to have a wake up call!!! If I were her I would call police because that's a "harrasment"!!!

Yep, any guy that dates a woman for 3 months and thinks he has the right to tell her how to handle her business with her children has some serious issues. Especially when he says he will try to get her in trouble if she doesn't do what he wants her to do! Kathy needs to

away as fast as she can from him!

GarnetTigerMom · 12-14-2007, 11:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sunshine1

What does David have to do with it. David and Kathy have been dating only three months, nothing serious about it. David don't live with them therefore it's NONE his business! Period! It's up to Kathy. If David don't like that idea of Kathy's son is living with her then say good bye to Kathy and stay out of their business. Period!

Yep ,, agree there 110% with you. He don't have the right to make idle threat to her. Very immature of him. I would not be surprise that some adults still live with their folks for many reasons. But sometimes we adults end up taking care of our folks in their old age or health reasons. Nothing to be ashame of living with the parents in our adult years. Family is important and they are always there for you and you there for them. :-)

GarnetTigerMom · 12-14-2007, 11:46 PM

Seem like David is pretty much sound like a control freak. It's all about me! A control freak wants to be talked about - within the community, off of it via email or phone, and especially face to face. To be called names is as good as to be praised, to be ostracized as good as to be sought out - so long as the focus of the community shifts substantively from its own interests to the control freak him- or herself. And the best of all is to be argued over - to split the community into those who approve and those who disapprove of the control freak's statements, attitude, or presentation. Sound like his behavor to her. It does raise lot of red flag on him.

But, You can refuse to worsen their problem by refusing to play along. Control freaks don't realize that they can get what they need without manipulating others, and every successful manipulation strengthens the impression that other strategies are a waste of time and energy. Just say NO to a control freak.

**Angel** · 12-15-2007, 01:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sunshine1

Yes!!! Complete control freak .. geeez that scared me!!! Kathy needs to have a wake up call!!! If I were her I would call police because that's a "harrasment"!!!

*nods* I agree. sad

**Phillips** · 12-15-2007, 06:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sunshine1

What does David have to do with it. David and Kathy have been dating only three months, nothing serious about it. David don't live with them therefore it's NONE his business! Period! It's up to Kathy. If David don't like that idea of Kathy's son is living with her then say good bye to Kathy and stay out of their business. Period!

Agree with you...

My lip is zip and listen because I do not want involved with his business with her!

**Phillips** · 12-15-2007, 06:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sunshine1

Yes!!! Complete control freak .. geeez that scared me!!! Kathy needs to have a wake up call!!! If I were her I would call police because that's a "harrasment"!!!

Interest....... David did dump her once, but She is still stubborn chase him! Even He did insults to her.. I am surprise that she didn't leave him. He said She want him because He is homeowner and live middle class.

She kept called his vp and e.mails. David felt building up fed up with her and threat to her about section 8

**Phillips** · 12-15-2007, 07:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jillio

Yep, any guy that dates a woman for 3 months and thinks he has the right to tell her how to handle her business with her children has some serious issues. Especially when he says he will try to get her in trouble if she doesn't do what he wants her to do! Kathy needs to

away as fast as she can from him!

I wish that she need to run away from him..

She won't leave him alone! Jeez!

**Phillips** · 12-15-2007, 07:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by GarnetTigerMom

Seem like David is pretty much sound like a control freak. It's all about me! A control freak wants to be talked about - within the community, off of it via email or phone, and especially face to face. To be called names is as good as to be praised, to be ostracized as good as to be sought out - so long as the focus of the community shifts substantively from its own interests to the control freak him- or herself. And the best of all is to be argued over - to split the community into those who approve and those who disapprove of the control freak's statements, attitude, or presentation. Sound like his behavor to her. It does raise lot of red flag on him.

But, You can refuse to worsen their problem by refusing to play along. Control freaks don't realize that they can get what they need without manipulating others, and every successful manipulation strengthens the impression that other strategies are a waste of time and energy. Just say NO to a control freak.

She refused break up with him so He have to become nasty to her! Read another posts

**Phillips** · 12-15-2007, 07:11 AM

Here....

Quote:

Originally Posted by Phillips

Sorry me make a short story.. Ok here long story...

Pretend the names.. Guy name is umm David.. His new date gal name is um Kathy.. ok

Kathy's son age about 20 or 21 doesn't working and depend on her. Kathy paid the food, cooking, bills, his cell phone and live with her apartment with section 8. David is pissed off at her son do nothing! David told Kathy that She needs kick her son out but Kathy couldn't rid of her son. David is a threat to Kathy that her son must move out or David will be calling section 8 Because Kathy don't want to break up with David.

Seem to me that Kathy is middle of between her son and date David!

I felt that David could back off and let Kathy decide?

I did advice him... Ignore her and back off.

After Many times read e.Mails and see flashing Vp phone to ignore but after that he gives up and reply to her! Ugh.. He has little felt bad for her because she told him that she wants care of him to laundry, cooking dinner etc. but David do not want her son.

**Phillips** · 12-15-2007, 07:12 AM

I told him that ... Its not good idea for him calling to Section 8 but He want to calling anyway Jeez!!!

He said.. Because Not fair to everyone who's waiting list for apartment section 8

Seem to me He is confused about her too~!

**Phillips** · 12-15-2007, 07:39 AM

So Curious what happen if He is calling to Section 8 about them..

They will give warning or kick them out?

**Cheri** · 12-15-2007, 07:58 AM

How does David know that Kathy's son is not included in the section 8 program? Did Kathy tell him that?

David should just mind his own business because it's her son not his, why does he care who she's living with?

**Dixie** · 12-15-2007, 08:45 AM

I will tell you right now, if a man ever even attempted to come between me and my child and force me to choose my child or him, the choice would be very clear. I would kick him to the curb and tell him to be gone.

If this is what he's like at 3 months of dating, guess what he would be like when married.

But I do see a point - that the grown child does need to at least get a job and pay for their own bills such as cell phone, car payment, and gas. But if the child is mentally deficient such as Down's Syndrome or Autism (or a spectrum of it), or even mental disorders such as schizophrenia, the grown child may not be able to hold down a job. So really it needs to be a individual- based thing where individual circumstances dictate one's individual lifestyle. The boyfriend has no say in this, he's not living there, its not his problem to worry about.

**Reba** · 12-15-2007, 08:49 AM

My advice?

Phillips, just leave the whole mess alone.

12-14-2007, 02:16 PM	#1 (permalink)
Phillips Lets ride horses! Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Spaceship Posts: 11,170	threat about section 8 Just curious what your opinion... I was listening my friend talked... He was so mad at his new date lady ( only about 3 months) because a lady still have his older son who over 20 years old and live with her. He is a threat to her that he will be calling her section 8 that her son still live with her? __________________ My journal! http://poochie21.blogspot.com/ *Enjoy life today, Yesterday has past and Tomorrow may never come.*

12-14-2007, 03:35 PM	#5 (permalink)
Phillips Lets ride horses! Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Spaceship Posts: 11,170	. Or are you asking opinions as to whether a person is crazy who has a child older than twenty living with her? It my opinion, it's none of your friend's business. His girlfriend may have any of a dozen legitimate, sane reasons for supporting an adult child or allowing him to live with her. From what you know of your friend, is it possible that he may be totally self-centered and want his girlfriend's attention all for himself? Yeah I am considered that he is very selfish but Not fair to anyone who waiting on lists on section 8 too Geez! __________________ My journal! http://poochie21.blogspot.com/ *Enjoy life today, Yesterday has past and Tomorrow may never come.*

12-14-2007, 03:56 PM	#6 (permalink)
Freaky Cat Registered User Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Central ArKaNsAs Posts: 10,221	section 8 may know that the lady's son live with her? beside one is right it is none of our business. tell him to let it go and worry about his life and his own business instead of other business! what goes around will go around so it can bite him in ass! beside too many adult children are living with the parents nowadays.. alot of them cant afford housing costs as it is very high compare to the past it was cheap. it was on news not long ago. so tell that guy who cares. i wouldnt worry about it if i were you. __________________ When you miss me just look up to the night sky and remember, I'm like a star; sometimes you can't see me, but I'm always there! Freaky Cat's Blog

12-14-2007, 07:46 PM	#8 (permalink)
*VamPyroX* bloody phreak from hell Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: 40.18, 58.41 Posts: 34,193	I'm not sure I understand the situation. Your friend (a guy) has been dating this person (a gal) for a few months. That gal has a 20-year-old son living with her. That gal has filed for Section 8, so that she has help paying for her rent. Your friend doesn't want that gal's son living with her and is threatening to call on him. If this is the case, this could be a bad thing for that gal. If the son already has income, he could be helping her out with the rent and Section 8 wouldn't be needed. Therefore, she's "cheating" the government. Reporting on her would get her in trouble. Is this what you're saying? __________________ Check out my city... C L I C K H E R E! (If you've already visited yesterday, visit again today!)

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12-14-2007, 02:55 PM	#2 (permalink)
Chase Premium Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 2,320	Phillips, I'm somewhat confused at your post. Are you asking what a "section 8" means? In the military, anyone discharged for medical reasons is honorably discharged under Section Eight of the Uniform Code of Military Justice. However, the term "section 8" to most GIs implies a discharge for psychological reasons, for being certified insane. Thus, a section 8 is someone who is crazy. Or are you asking opinions as to whether a person is crazy who has a child older than twenty living with her? It my opinion, it's none of your friend's business. His girlfriend may have any of a dozen legitimate, sane reasons for supporting an adult child or allowing him to live with her. From what you know of your friend, is it possible that he may be totally self-centered and want his girlfriend's attention all for himself? Or are you asking opinions about something else?

12-14-2007, 03:06 PM	#3 (permalink)
Byrdie714 Banned Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 8,927	Or is this Section 8 in terms of reduced income for housing?

12-14-2007, 05:03 PM	#7 (permalink)
deafdyke Registered User Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Trebekistan Posts: 13,234	Yes, its very common for a whole bunch of people to shack up together on a section 8 voucher.

12-14-2007, 09:41 PM	#13 (permalink)
Sunshine1 Registered User Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 1,449	What does David have to do with it. David and Kathy have been dating only three months, nothing serious about it. David don't live with them therefore it's NONE his business! Period! It's up to Kathy. If David don't like that idea of Kathy's son is living with her then say good bye to Kathy and stay out of their business. Period! __________________ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~ My nephew/godson ~CM Punk~ ~~~~~~~~Dancer~~~~~~~~:

12-14-2007, 11:46 PM	#19 (permalink)
GarnetTigerMom Registered User Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Virginia Posts: 4,958	Seem like David is pretty much sound like a control freak. It's all about me! A control freak wants to be talked about - within the community, off of it via email or phone, and especially face to face. To be called names is as good as to be praised, to be ostracized as good as to be sought out - so long as the focus of the community shifts substantively from its own interests to the control freak him- or herself. And the best of all is to be argued over - to split the community into those who approve and those who disapprove of the control freak's statements, attitude, or presentation. Sound like his behavor to her. It does raise lot of red flag on him. But, You can refuse to worsen their problem by refusing to play along. Control freaks don't realize that they can get what they need without manipulating others, and every successful manipulation strengthens the impression that other strategies are a waste of time and energy. Just say NO to a control freak. __________________ GarnetTigerMom "The rain may be falling hard outside, But your smile makes it all alright. I'm so glad that you're my friend. I know our friendship will never end." -- Robert Alan

12-15-2007, 07:12 AM	#26 (permalink)
Phillips Lets ride horses! Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Spaceship Posts: 11,170	I told him that ... Its not good idea for him calling to Section 8 but He want to calling anyway Jeez!!! He said.. Because Not fair to everyone who's waiting list for apartment section 8 Seem to me He is confused about her too~! __________________ My journal! http://poochie21.blogspot.com/ *Enjoy life today, Yesterday has past and Tomorrow may never come.* Last edited by Phillips; 12-15-2007 at 07:27 AM.

12-15-2007, 07:39 AM	#27 (permalink)
Phillips Lets ride horses! Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Spaceship Posts: 11,170	So Curious what happen if He is calling to Section 8 about them.. They will give warning or kick them out? __________________ My journal! http://poochie21.blogspot.com/ *Enjoy life today, Yesterday has past and Tomorrow may never come.*

12-15-2007, 07:58 AM	#28 (permalink)
Cheri Prayers for my dad. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 22,818	How does David know that Kathy's son is not included in the section 8 program? Did Kathy tell him that? David should just mind his own business because it's her son not his, why does he care who she's living with? __________________ Avoid being a victim of a stroke, a stroke can happen to anyone at anytime. You will never know how devastating this could be until you had live through it. It affects everybody. So Support Stroke Awareness to find a cure and hope.

12-15-2007, 08:45 AM	#29 (permalink)
Dixie May I be found in Him Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Arkansas Posts: 13,266	I will tell you right now, if a man ever even attempted to come between me and my child and force me to choose my child or him, the choice would be very clear. I would kick him to the curb and tell him to be gone. If this is what he's like at 3 months of dating, guess what he would be like when married. But I do see a point - that the grown child does need to at least get a job and pay for their own bills such as cell phone, car payment, and gas. But if the child is mentally deficient such as Down's Syndrome or Autism (or a spectrum of it), or even mental disorders such as schizophrenia, the grown child may not be able to hold down a job. So really it needs to be a individual- based thing where individual circumstances dictate one's individual lifestyle. The boyfriend has no say in this, he's not living there, its not his problem to worry about. __________________ Oh, you will. It is all a dream and since matter cannot be created nor destroyed, the dreams must be real in all their myriad forms. -Beowulf This Delicate Thing God Has Made *The world is measured in peasants; smaller than a unicorn but, bigger than a tidbit!*

12-15-2007, 08:49 AM	#30 (permalink)
Reba Granny Terp Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: South Carolina Posts: 39,517	My advice? Phillips, just leave the whole mess alone. __________________ Tell us the truth about Benghazi!

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