My best friend's mom

shel90 · 04-09-2007, 03:10 PM

Just found out that my best friend's mom finally passed away last night after a long battle with Parkinston's. Hard to believe that she is gone...I have known her since I was a year old. I just feel so bad for her dad cuz they would have been married for 50 years this August. I may fly to AZ for the funeral so I am waiting to get word from my friend.

Honestly, I have mixed feelings about this...happy that she is not suffering anymore cuz the past year was hard on her with her health deteriorating to the point where she needed 24/7 care and sad that I wont see her again. She was like a 2nd mom to me. I just worry about her dad.

My friend will fly from PA to AZ tonight and will stay with her dad for a few weeks after the funeral to make sure he is ok. 50 years...will be very hard on him.

GalaxyAngel · 04-09-2007, 04:08 PM

I'm sorry about your best friend's mother passed away...

Roadrunner · 04-09-2007, 04:15 PM

Truly sorry for your lost, my thoughts, prayers will be upon you, your friend, friend's dad, family and friends. Knowing that this is a difficult time, even for you, when she has been like a second 'mom' for you...surely, she isn't suffering anymore, is at peace, yet, will be greatly missed. Please do hang in there and cherish all the good and wonderful times you've been blessed while being with her.

Thread will remain 'sticky' for the time being.

~RR

lilylover72 · 04-09-2007, 04:33 PM

I am very sorry about your best friend's mom. I hope that your trip will be safe.

shel90 · 04-09-2007, 04:42 PM

Thank you to everyone.

Just got word from my friend...viewing will be on Thursday and the funeral on Friday or Sat. I am waiting for my husband to get home from work to discuss if it is possible for me to fly out. Getting off from work wont be an issue cuz I am on my spring break this week so just need to make arrangements for someone to take my daughter to school and pick her up from school. If not, then she might have to miss school for a few days.

Anyway...anyone know of good websites to find cheap last minute airfare tickets?

Many thanks!

Roadrunner · 04-09-2007, 04:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shel90

Anyway...anyone know of good websites to find cheap last minute airfare tickets?

Usually, when there is (a sudden) death in the family, airlines will usually peel back prices to 'normal' basic prices like those who purchase tickets 15 or more days in advance instead of charging outrageous prices at short notice. However, you can still consider this as 'family', surely they won't ask further. You can also google about purchasing tickets during a death of a loved one and see what you can come up with.

Quote:

"Most airlines will give you a discounted fare if you must fly on short notice because of a family emergency, such as a death or sudden illness. Call ahead or speak to an agent; this is not possible to arrange online."

(sources: Cheap airline travel in North America - Wikitravel )

I'm sure you'll find an airline that will accommodate you with your present needs and situation.

Do take good care--

~RR

shel90 · 04-09-2007, 04:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Roadrunner

Usually, when there is (a sudden) death in the family, airlines will usually peel back prices to 'normal' basic prices like those who purchase tickets 15 or more days in advance instead of charging outrageous prices at short notice. However, you can still consider this as 'family', surely they won't ask further. You can also google about purchasing tickets during a death of a loved one and see what you can come up with.

(sources: Cheap airline travel in North America - Wikitravel )

I'm sure you'll find an airline that will accommodate you with your present needs and situation.

Do take good care--

~RR

Oh really?? I didnt know that. Wonder if my friend knows about it? Will copy and past this and send it to her. Maybe she hasnt purchased her tickets yet even though she told me she is flying out tonight. All 4 (herself, her husband and 2 kids) are going so that can be costly. Many thanks RR!

Lil_country_gal · 04-09-2007, 05:00 PM

I'm sorry about your lost, I can't imagine losing someone who you've known so long. I understand your conflicted feelings atleast she isn't struggling anymore hang in there and if you do fly down i hope you have a good trip and to be known you and her family are in my thoughts and prayers.

TweetyBird · 04-09-2007, 05:35 PM

aww i am very sowwy abt that..

shel90 · 04-09-2007, 08:00 PM

Well..I searched and searched for flights...they were very expensive. I even called some airlines...even with the discounts, it is still too expensive. The reason for the high costs of the tickets (around $900) is cuz I dont want to stay a week. If I stay a week then the price goes down about 50%. My friend told me not to worry about it. Will send flowers to the funeral home.

I just chatted with her on VP...she is still in a state of shock but she did admit to me that she is relieved that her mom is no longer suffering and that her dad is not taking care of her 24/7. Her parents refused to hire help so her dad took care of her constantly for the past year. So, maybe it is a blessing in disguise cuz according to my friend, her mom's mind was going too and in the past 2 months, she couldnt even carry a decent conversation with her mom. This is one terrible disease and I hope they find a cure for it. Too much suffering for the victims.

Again, thanks everyone.

lumbingmi · 04-09-2007, 08:31 PM

Sorry to hear about your friend's mom. Yea it s tough to see one of your love ones suffering when death is best way or alleviate their pains. Depend on what religion you believe in, love ones should be in good hands

shel90 · 04-09-2007, 08:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KINGOFNOOBS

Sorry to hear about your friend's mom. Yea it s tough to see one of your love ones suffering when death is best way or alleviate their pains. Depend on what religion you believe in, love ones should be in good hands

Thanks and I definitely believe that she is in good hands.

They were devout Catholics so I am hoping their faith will help her dad after the funeral is over and when he is home alone. That is gonna be the tough part for him..when reality sinks in.

mecooncat · 04-09-2007, 09:21 PM

Sorry to hear your best friend's mother.

Here's the link about Emergency air travel-Bereavment: Emergency Air Travel - Bereavement Fares

Angel · 04-09-2007, 09:38 PM

Aw I'm really sorry to hear about your best friend's mother, may she rest in peace and fly high

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Freaky Cat · 04-09-2007, 09:52 PM

Aww I am sorry to hear about your best friends mom.. I will pray for you, your friends family and hope yall get thru the difficult times ahead..

Dixie · 04-09-2007, 09:54 PM

I will be sending up some thoughts and prayers for you friend and her family as well as for you.

LoveLaughSmile · 04-09-2007, 09:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shel90

Just found out that my best friend's mom finally passed away last night after a long battle with Parkinston's. Hard to believe that she is gone...I have known her since I was a year old. I just feel so bad for her dad cuz they would have been married for 50 years this August. I may fly to AZ for the funeral so I am waiting to get word from my friend.

Honestly, I have mixed feelings about this...happy that she is not suffering anymore cuz the past year was hard on her with her health deteriorating to the point where she needed 24/7 care and sad that I wont see her again. She was like a 2nd mom to me. I just worry about her dad.

My friend will fly from PA to AZ tonight and will stay with her dad for a few weeks after the funeral to make sure he is ok. 50 years...will be very hard on him.

My mom had Parkinson to deal with as well. She passed away a couple of years ago. She was a wonderful mom and love her deep in my heart. I hope you friend will be able to go through grieving in a smooth transition to keep on living!

wildzerica06 · 04-09-2007, 10:08 PM

sorry to hear about your best friend's mom hope things will turn out to be good and her mom is an angel in heaven looking over your best friend and her dad too

Sharky99 · 04-09-2007, 11:18 PM

Oh man I am sorry to hear of your friend's mom's passing... I am sure she is finally at peace and that your friend's dad will have to find the strength to go on and be happy as he has loved his wife for almost 50 years.... may God bless them as well...

andycane · 04-09-2007, 11:46 PM

Sorry to hear of your friends passing. I unfortunately had my father pass about a month ago, and looked into the flight situations as I had to fly from Cali to Indiana, so I will share what I've found & discovered (I was suprised).

Most airlines do offer a bereavement policy, however there are usually several "catches" you should be aware of. First, they may require some kind of confirmation, such as a doctor(telephone #), or something like the funeral home, death certificate. They will not offer any type of deals online, as this is done via in person or on the phone.

Lastly, the bereveament tickets may not be the cheapest ticket as their the one they offered me was actually more expensive than a general ticket(coach) as it was approx. ~150 dollars extra. They may take the most expensive ticket & apply the discount (i.e, first class) as opposed to their cheapest. They wanted me to pay close to 900, but got it for a little over 700 by shopping around.

I would check expedia.com as they will help you get a good "ballpark" estimate as to what you can expect by price, number of boardings and whatnot. If they offer something that cost more than what expedia has offered, you can make your choice of what you want.

Once again, sorry about you & your friends' loss. my sympathies.

Liebling:-))) · 04-10-2007, 01:18 AM

I'm truly sorry to hear about the loss of your best friend's beloved one...

Pass my deepest symathpy to her and her family... Our thoughts goes her and her family...

Reba · 04-10-2007, 08:25 AM

I'm very sorry for your loss.

I will pray that the Lord comfort you, and the family and other friends.

Cheri · 04-10-2007, 08:29 AM

I'm sorry to hear about your mom's best friend passing away. You and her family are in my thoughts and prayers as well.

shel90 · 04-10-2007, 09:19 AM

Thank you everyone. My friend sent me a picture of her mom...I am trying to get it resized online so it can be accepted here on AD but it seems not to be working. Will keep trying....

TweetyBird · 04-10-2007, 09:22 AM

aww but her mom will watch over u and her family!

jazzy · 04-10-2007, 07:40 PM

I am sorry for the loss. May she be rest in peace.

SxyPorkie · 04-11-2007, 08:59 AM

Shel...I am very sorry about your loss... hugz...

shel90 · 04-11-2007, 09:25 AM

Mary Ellen Weekley
Mary Ellen Weekley was born August 8th, 1939 in Norwich CT and passed away on April 8th, 2007 after a lengthy battle with Parkinson's disease. Raised in Tucson, she graduated from Tucson High in 1957. On September 7th 1957 she married Melvin Weekley, her beloved husband of 49 years. She is survived by Melvin and her 4 children, Mike, Mark, Doug and Julie, as well as 5 grandchildren, her sister Lorna, and brother Robert. A Visitation/Rosary will be held Thursday evening, April 12th, from 5 to 8 p.m. at Heritage Funeral Chapel, 6830 W. Thunderbird Rd in Peoria. The funeral mass will be at 10 a.m. Friday at St. Jerome's Parrish, 10815 N. 35th Ave in Phoenix with reception to follow.
Published in The Arizona Republic on 4/11/2007.
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shel90 · 04-11-2007, 09:33 AM

Thanks everyone...reading her obituary this morning really hit me and I just cried. I wish I was with my friend and hold her. She just paged me saying that they arrived in AZ last night and now on the way to see her dad. She hasnt seen him yet. I told her that I just wanted to hold her tight and cry with her. I feel bad that I cant be with her. Oh well.

04-09-2007, 03:10 PM	#1 (permalink)
shel90 Sun Whorshipper Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A Desert Rat that has found herself in Maryland Posts: 14,830 Blog Entries: 1	My best friend's mom Just found out that my best friend's mom finally passed away last night after a long battle with Parkinston's. Hard to believe that she is gone...I have known her since I was a year old. I just feel so bad for her dad cuz they would have been married for 50 years this August. I may fly to AZ for the funeral so I am waiting to get word from my friend. Honestly, I have mixed feelings about this...happy that she is not suffering anymore cuz the past year was hard on her with her health deteriorating to the point where she needed 24/7 care and sad that I wont see her again. She was like a 2nd mom to me. I just worry about her dad. My friend will fly from PA to AZ tonight and will stay with her dad for a few weeks after the funeral to make sure he is ok. 50 years...will be very hard on him. __________________ ~Shel~

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GalaxyAngel That's me! Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Ontario,Canada Posts: 13,515	I'm sorry about your best friend's mother passed away... __________________ Parent's proud our children.

04-09-2007, 04:42 PM	#5 (permalink)
shel90 Sun Whorshipper Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A Desert Rat that has found herself in Maryland Posts: 14,830 Blog Entries: 1	Thank you to everyone. Just got word from my friend...viewing will be on Thursday and the funeral on Friday or Sat. I am waiting for my husband to get home from work to discuss if it is possible for me to fly out. Getting off from work wont be an issue cuz I am on my spring break this week so just need to make arrangements for someone to take my daughter to school and pick her up from school. If not, then she might have to miss school for a few days. Anyway...anyone know of good websites to find cheap last minute airfare tickets? Many thanks! __________________ ~Shel~

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Lil_country_gal Cowgirl Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Saint Joseph, MN Posts: 2,309	I'm sorry about your lost, I can't imagine losing someone who you've known so long. I understand your conflicted feelings atleast she isn't struggling anymore hang in there and if you do fly down i hope you have a good trip and to be known you and her family are in my thoughts and prayers. __________________ Put some excitement between your legs.... Ride a Horse Laicy Always and Forever

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shel90 Sun Whorshipper Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A Desert Rat that has found herself in Maryland Posts: 14,830 Blog Entries: 1	Well..I searched and searched for flights...they were very expensive. I even called some airlines...even with the discounts, it is still too expensive. The reason for the high costs of the tickets (around $900) is cuz I dont want to stay a week. If I stay a week then the price goes down about 50%. My friend told me not to worry about it. Will send flowers to the funeral home. I just chatted with her on VP...she is still in a state of shock but she did admit to me that she is relieved that her mom is no longer suffering and that her dad is not taking care of her 24/7. Her parents refused to hire help so her dad took care of her constantly for the past year. So, maybe it is a blessing in disguise cuz according to my friend, her mom's mind was going too and in the past 2 months, she couldnt even carry a decent conversation with her mom. This is one terrible disease and I hope they find a cure for it. Too much suffering for the victims. Again, thanks everyone. __________________ ~Shel~

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04-09-2007, 04:15 PM	#3 (permalink)
Roadrunner Registered User Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 7,090	Truly sorry for your lost, my thoughts, prayers will be upon you, your friend, friend's dad, family and friends. Knowing that this is a difficult time, even for you, when she has been like a second 'mom' for you...surely, she isn't suffering anymore, is at peace, yet, will be greatly missed. Please do hang in there and cherish all the good and wonderful times you've been blessed while being with her. Thread will remain 'sticky' for the time being. ~RR

04-09-2007, 04:33 PM	#4 (permalink)
lilylover72 I love purple! Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: USA Posts: 2,819	I am very sorry about your best friend's mom. I hope that your trip will be safe.

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TweetyBird LOOK AT ILY MAGNETS! Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 21,346	aww i am very sowwy abt that..

04-09-2007, 08:31 PM	#11 (permalink)
lumbingmi Invigorated Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 3,587	Sorry to hear about your friend's mom. Yea it s tough to see one of your love ones suffering when death is best way or alleviate their pains. Depend on what religion you believe in, love ones should be in good hands __________________

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04-09-2007, 09:38 PM	#14 (permalink)
Angel ♥"Concrete Angel"♥ Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 18,851	Aw I'm really sorry to hear about your best friend's mother, may she rest in peace and fly high ...

04-09-2007, 09:52 PM	#15 (permalink)
Freaky Cat My cat Oreo :) Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: ArKaNsAs Posts: 10,177	Aww I am sorry to hear about your best friends mom.. I will pray for you, your friends family and hope yall get thru the difficult times ahead..

04-09-2007, 09:54 PM	#16 (permalink)
Dixie Darren Hayes, Aussie Boi Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Arkansas Posts: 3,848	I will be sending up some thoughts and prayers for you friend and her family as well as for you.

04-09-2007, 10:08 PM	#18 (permalink)
wildzerica06 -Erica- Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: california Posts: 4,147 Blog Entries: 2	sorry to hear about your best friend's mom hope things will turn out to be good and her mom is an angel in heaven looking over your best friend and her dad too

04-09-2007, 11:18 PM	#19 (permalink)
Sharky99 aka NorthStar Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Central Canada Posts: 3,208	Oh man I am sorry to hear of your friend's mom's passing... I am sure she is finally at peace and that your friend's dad will have to find the strength to go on and be happy as he has loved his wife for almost 50 years.... may God bless them as well...

04-09-2007, 11:46 PM	#20 (permalink)
andycane Andy Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: San Diego Posts: 32	Sorry to hear of your friends passing. I unfortunately had my father pass about a month ago, and looked into the flight situations as I had to fly from Cali to Indiana, so I will share what I've found & discovered (I was suprised). Most airlines do offer a bereavement policy, however there are usually several "catches" you should be aware of. First, they may require some kind of confirmation, such as a doctor(telephone #), or something like the funeral home, death certificate. They will not offer any type of deals online, as this is done via in person or on the phone. Lastly, the bereveament tickets may not be the cheapest ticket as their the one they offered me was actually more expensive than a general ticket(coach) as it was approx. ~150 dollars extra. They may take the most expensive ticket & apply the discount (i.e, first class) as opposed to their cheapest. They wanted me to pay close to 900, but got it for a little over 700 by shopping around. I would check expedia.com as they will help you get a good "ballpark" estimate as to what you can expect by price, number of boardings and whatnot. If they offer something that cost more than what expedia has offered, you can make your choice of what you want. Once again, sorry about you & your friends' loss. my sympathies. __________________ Don't miss the colors of the rainbow looking for the pot of gold speed kills: those who doesn't have it

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Liebling:-))) Hiiiiiii it's meeeeee Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Germany Posts: 25,574	I'm truly sorry to hear about the loss of your best friend's beloved one... Pass my deepest symathpy to her and her family... Our thoughts goes her and her family... __________________ sniffing you

04-10-2007, 08:25 AM	#22 (permalink)
Reba Premium Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 16,379	I'm very sorry for your loss. I will pray that the Lord comfort you, and the family and other friends.

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Cheri Premium Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 20,687	I'm sorry to hear about your mom's best friend passing away. You and her family are in my thoughts and prayers as well. __________________

04-10-2007, 09:19 AM	#24 (permalink)
shel90 Sun Whorshipper Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A Desert Rat that has found herself in Maryland Posts: 14,830 Blog Entries: 1	Thank you everyone. My friend sent me a picture of her mom...I am trying to get it resized online so it can be accepted here on AD but it seems not to be working. Will keep trying.... __________________ ~Shel~

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TweetyBird LOOK AT ILY MAGNETS! Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 21,346	aww but her mom will watch over u and her family!

04-10-2007, 07:40 PM	#26 (permalink)
jazzy Registered User Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 3,106	I am sorry for the loss. May she be rest in peace. __________________

04-11-2007, 08:59 AM	#27 (permalink)
SxyPorkie SxyPorkie Join Date: May 2006 Location: Southern California Posts: 3,095	Shel...I am very sorry about your loss... hugz... __________________ Life Goes On!!

04-11-2007, 09:25 AM	#28 (permalink)
shel90 Sun Whorshipper Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A Desert Rat that has found herself in Maryland Posts: 14,830 Blog Entries: 1	Mary Ellen Weekley Mary Ellen Weekley was born August 8th, 1939 in Norwich CT and passed away on April 8th, 2007 after a lengthy battle with Parkinson's disease. Raised in Tucson, she graduated from Tucson High in 1957. On September 7th 1957 she married Melvin Weekley, her beloved husband of 49 years. She is survived by Melvin and her 4 children, Mike, Mark, Doug and Julie, as well as 5 grandchildren, her sister Lorna, and brother Robert. A Visitation/Rosary will be held Thursday evening, April 12th, from 5 to 8 p.m. at Heritage Funeral Chapel, 6830 W. Thunderbird Rd in Peoria. The funeral mass will be at 10 a.m. Friday at St. Jerome's Parrish, 10815 N. 35th Ave in Phoenix with reception to follow. Published in The Arizona Republic on 4/11/2007. Guest Book • Funeral home info • Flowers • Gift Shop • Charities azcentral.com \| obituaries __________________ ~Shel~

04-11-2007, 09:33 AM	#29 (permalink)
shel90 Sun Whorshipper Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: A Desert Rat that has found herself in Maryland Posts: 14,830 Blog Entries: 1	Thanks everyone...reading her obituary this morning really hit me and I just cried. I wish I was with my friend and hold her. She just paged me saying that they arrived in AZ last night and now on the way to see her dad. She hasnt seen him yet. I told her that I just wanted to hold her tight and cry with her. I feel bad that I cant be with her. Oh well. __________________ ~Shel~