Sasha64

Let me help to explain what has really happened to the cancellation of this forthcoming trip.
Im partly to blame but I didn’t expect this decision to be made so quickly as there could have been time for me to ensure the trip still go ahead or not. I was just telling Bear about a proposal that was given to me and it was a conflicting decision to make as it was in the same time as my intended trip out to USA.
This proposal was given to me by my best friend who is getting married in July and asked me to be her chief bridemaid. She was aware that I was going to USA so was going to work on it to make her change her mind to another day. I told Bear about this and hasn’t made any decisions on whether I will attend the wedding or not as I felt there was plenty of time to think about it but unfortunately the decisions was decided by Bear to cancelled the whole thing without second thought. I was very shocked to see the announcement made mins after I told her of what could happens.

I am very sorry for all this to have happened and have put many people down because of this. Im not so sure if this can be all undone now as the damage has now be done and many of u people feelings have been hurt. I apologise that this has come to such a dramatic decision and I hope you all understand the real reason behind all this.

I just hope I havent made too many enemies because of this as I know many will be disappointed in this post of mine but I just want you to know the real truth and I have nothing to hide from it than never telling anyone as it best to get it off my chest now than be burden down with it. Deeply Sorry!!

Deafness

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Jolie77

Sasha - It has not been an easy decision for everyone in this part but there's one thing I know, I'm still not going to hate you and I am sure others won't be hating you for that since your best friend's wedding happened to came up at the same time when the "camping" was supposed to be on the schedule. So I do understand where you are coming from. Sometime things are not meant to be and it happens when we don't expect it. You haven't made an enemy out of me because now that I know what's going on and completely understood about it. You had a good reason not to come and it's totally understandable. There are always some other time for us all to get together. If this year couldn't be the year for you to come, Sasha, perhaps the 2008 AD Caucus will do? (Just a thought) Or anywhere could be convinent as well

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Liebling:-)))

Yes I would say the same as Jolie_77...

Yes, Sasha I can understand where you come from...

Yes, you have a good reason to make your own decision is an understandable..... Nobody can make you do something what they wants but look on your own feeling what you make decision what best for yourself.

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Sasha64

Thanks Joile and Liebling for understanding where im coming from.I truly appreciated ur comments. Who knows what the future might hold for next couple of months as one must remember this quote "Always expect the unexpected" as u can never know what will come around that corner.

Thank u.

Cheri

I really do understand too, Sasha. You haven't made an enemy out of me either. I can understand some things like that just happens, you just gonna do what you gonna do. At least you told her now than the last minute. That part I have respect for. It's not like you made a promise that you'll come and then a day or a week before the event you decide to call it off because you did not have any money or something, nor didn't show up like you promise to.


There's some members here who made promise to come to the 2006 AD Caucus and only 12 of us went, and some of them did not even informed us that they were not coming. Yes, that did pissed me off because when something like that happened, it leaves the person who was in charge a huge bill to pay just because some promise to show up. I hate people like that. It's like this, don't say you're coming, if you don't have the money for it. If you're not sure, then don't say you're coming either. We all had a year in advance noticed, that gave us all a chance to save up before the event occur.

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moonflower

i undy sasha nothing for us to do or change about the stuation i thought it was me that bear was mad at

but i found it was personal reason
hope everything will be alright

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Northstar

Ohh now I know, Sasha.. oh boy ya were in a hard place with your friend asking ya to be her bridemaid for her wedding and the camping trip that Bear made... oh boy I wish Bear would have waited and maybe tried to make some good arangments with the camping trip to be postponed 2 weeks or so to let ya get that wedding in and come over later on that long trip, would it be 20 hours or so by plane to come there for the camping trip, correct? that would have given ya enough time to recover from that wedding celebration and the lousy jetlag ya might have to deal with for a week or so...

I do hope Bear will be okay and etc... I just wish it wasnt under such conditions that had to happen.. oy boy... I do feel for her somehow...

AND Sasha...good to see ya back in here!! Been a long while since we seen ya in here yapping as usual...

LovelyBlkGal

Ahh no wondering that explain i can undy that i don't blame you for that also i do agree w/them

Sasha64

Thank u Thank u for your wonderful comments.

Yes Cheri about your comments about me not giving it the last mins which was the reasons I had to tell Bear to give me plenty of time before the deadline to make other arrangements if the need to be but things just backfired so there nothing I can do now to redo the damage.

No worries moonflower now yu can understand that you werent at fault at all.

And a big hello to u to Northstar and thanks for your comments and yes it was one of those unfortunate moments to have happens and we cant turn the clock back to change things but to move on but hope something better turns up for me and Bear and others too. Yes corrrect about the flight would be over 20 hours to get there and it could have made me pretty tired with everything happening in such short time as i could return back a very very tired person and having to go to work to work with the kids is not a good way to do it so need to seriously think of best way to do it. Oh well!

Thanks heaps Lovelyblkgal for understanding the situation. Appreciate all of u.

TweetyBird

ahh i undy now no plms.. thanks for explain

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UpstNYDesigner

Bear, I never talked with you and I just joined this week. I know you might not read this post but then again, you might will come back. I know how you feel. You worked hard on going to this trip. Were you part of a team to organize a deaf camp week or something like that? If you were, then why not you tell that person to bug off and YOU can handle this with out that sore loser who cancelled it on you.

Bear, I know how you feel. When I was a teenager, I tried to organize a roller skating party for my deaf classmates from our mainstreamed hearing high school. They never came. I felt they never really wanted me so you know what I did? I didnt hang with them after high school graduation. I didnt go to my high school reunions. Nothing! They are in my past. I moved on in many different ways ever since. I tried to make new deaf friends in NTID but that was another story. I said forget them. Then had deaf girlfriends and at least one HOH girlfriend throughout the 90s and early 2000s. I do not go to deaf events at all because they are the same losers I went to school with.

I am happy where I am today. I have deaf friends from Miami, Central America...they love me! Really nice people. There are other deaf people YOU can meet online here, Bear. Or offline in another town!

As for the skating party.. that rink is closed and missed skating. Oh well!

I also tried to have my bible study and no deaf people came. Only hearing people when my best friend was alive. He passed away due to cancer. He was popular but he helped me with my bible study.

Now I do not have one and I dont make too much of a fuss about people not coming.

Because people say they will come to my parties, they do not come and asked me to come to theirs? I dont come to theirs anyway. Just keep trying with NEW crowd of deaf people. There are people HERE that care about you, Bear. Just do not run away to an island. A figure of speech meaning just do not run away from problems. Face it.

I will pray for you, Bear.

Bear, I am happy with what I have now. Maybe some more new friends here I will make. Bear, you missed meeting someone new like me!! Or any future deaf members in here.

HoneyBaby

First of all I really wish the trip was still on because I was making plans to come this year and bring my whole family. Secondly I don't wanna get in the middle of it but I do wanna say something. Sasha, I don't think this should in any way be your fault, there is just ONE of you and MANY of us. Plans shouldn't get cancelled because of ONE person's decision. There will always be some kind of conflicts where eventually we would have to chose. Weddings may be once in a lifetime, trips can always come and go. If you really want to go to this wedding, I would understand because you may never get another chance at it. Just do what you think is important to you even though both may be important, we all have to realize that you won't always be able to put a smile on everyone's face even if you want to. Real friends would understand the position your in and give you space to decide and I'm giving you that even though I would really like to meet you this year I can always wait for the right time to come if it ever comes. ~.~

Bear, I hope your still out there reading, I'm not trying to make you look less important or anything like that. The last time I was at your place I had a wonderful time. I've been trying to make it this year but you know how it is for me. I do have vacation time coming and I'm too in a position where I have to decide whether to fly back to Trinidad and see my family whom I haven't seen for like 7 years now..ugh! Thats a long time heh. Actually I have 4 things that I need to do and the camping trip is one of them, don't even know if I can do it all seeing now that they are all important I may have to chose. You said there were many reasons behind the cancellation and thats understandable. Wanting to move on and pay more attention to your own family is the right decission, I'll back you up on that 100% and I hope all of that works well for you. I do hope you don't shut us all out because of something else that's happened which I have no idea of so I do hope you will get in touch with me soon because I want to send you something in the mail.
You are right though..you've been planning things all on your own so it must be very frustrating looking forward to some people coming and then when the date gets closer some kind of conflict happens. Thats gotta be a bummer. It would be awesome if you had help too. If I had the right job and lived nearby I would gladly have helped given the time. Much love 2 u, hope you hadn an awesome christmans and will have a very blessed year this time.

Anyways, I will let SSP know about the cancellations. I hope that whatever you decide will work out better for you and help you succeed in whatever you set out to do..love always.

HoneyBaby

LOL, sorry for posting the same msg twice..I'm getting used to this thing!! Love ya'll.. peace.



{Mod Edit: That's ok, no problem--duplicate post was removed...over time as you navigate here in AD, you'll no doubt get better. ~RR}

Roadrunner

Whether there is any remote chance that the camping trip is back on, if not.... HoneyBaby mentioned of a few good points out of consideration...indeed it would be nice to be able to know that it's back on while there are others who would love to participate and attend.



Hmmm...Bears like honey... ::thinking::...are ya Bear's baby?? (ofc, I'm j/k-- )





~RR

spainmale

Bear was really frustrated because the camp been cancalled. i can see her feelings. She leave AD for good.. I hope she will come back anytime soon.

Northstar

Maybe over some time, Bear will return to us.. if she does decide, we will welcome her back here with open arms and have good times once again... let Bear deal with this on her own time and she can decide whether to come back or not.... we'll support her somehow...

Sasha64

Honeybabe

Thanks for ur wonderful comments and what u said in there is soo true and yes i will be thinking about what is the best for me. Like u said only one of me and many of you is so true and it saddest me to see the camp cancelled where many of u really wants to go. I pray and hope that things could have been different but unfortunately it wasnt to be.

I also pray and hope that Bear will come back and that she will be still welcome with open arms like Northstar said as i dont hold any grudges at all against her it was just a very unfortunate situation but i believe in let bygone be bygone and move on with our lives.

Thanks everyone for sharing ur thoughts and comments in this posting.