Still Disturbed...

DreamDeaf · 04-26-2006, 10:59 AM

If you remember a few months ago, I created a thread...

http://www.alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=20657

Well...now I gotta admit that this has been bothering me longer than I care to admit.

Its the knowledge that there were four (yes, 4) AllDeaf members that have intimate knowledge about this.

One has completely disappeared from sight from both here and from my life - I talked to a friend of mine (no connection to AllDeaf) that lives in that state - and was told that the person feels so quilty about it, that the person will not talk to me anymore, even on AIMs or email. That person has not even apologized to another friend of mine - my friend's name was used in sending the emails to me, suggested by the disappearing AD member.

One was not present when this happened - but I do know that the person does know what really happened.

Two were present when this was done - and both have said that the other did it, and still have not come up with the real story or facts to support their stories.

To this present day, it still bothers me that these four AllDeaf members knows who has done this to me, and yet, not one of them have told me the REAL story or even apologized to me for pulling this cruel prank on me.

Yes, I still continue to talk to three of these people - and one of them have started getting to know me better and emails me more often with what is going on.

One has kind of tapered off in emailing me - we still continue to talk.

One is still emailing me as if nothing is wrong, and often we talk about what is going on at that moment.

However, to tell you the truth...

THIS IS REALLY BOTHERING ME. I have not been able to go past the plateau - and I had been doing really good in my weight loss before this happened. I know it's been six (6) months since that happened, but I would like to know who really did this and why that person did that to me... if it was a prank, then it was a very cruel, thoughtless and heartless prank. If that person has a grievance against me, why not confront me directly and ask me for the truth? I am always willing to tell the truth - even when it may hurt our friendships.

I have been stuck on the same 10 pounds since October - and I would like to be able to put this behind me, so I can continue on the weight loss plan - the doctor has ordered me to lose weight and I do have to follow my doctor's orders...he has told me that I could require knee replacement surgery before I'm 50 years old, and recently he told me that this will take a toll on my life expectancy and that I must lose weight NOW.

Please, please, I beg you, all four of you, to come up to me with the truth - who, why and what reason. I am not going to desert you - yes, I will be hurt, but at least I will be able to put it behind me and move on. Our friendship may be strained for a while, but I am always able to put problems behind me and continue on with friendships.

However, the longer this silence and lying continues, I cannot guarantee that my friendship will continue - it is really hard on me and taking a toll on my health.

Thank you for listening.

DreamDeaf

P.S. Please no drama, negative comments, flaming or statments that says I am looking for drama in my life, which I am not. I am looking for a resolution to this situation that will enable me to put my soul at rest and finally move on.

Bowak · 04-26-2006, 11:02 AM

I hope all of this can be resolved asap and u can move on along with ur life.

GalaxyAngel · 04-26-2006, 11:07 AM

I can image that how much r u felt that way

Hopefully it will come resolve if not work then move on new forward..

Cheri · 04-26-2006, 11:08 AM

I agree with Bowak. I know how you must be feeling DreamDeaf, that's the lowest thing that anyone could do to one another. I hope you get what you've been searching for which are answers, the truth and why?.

DreamDeaf · 04-26-2006, 11:09 AM

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Originally Posted by GalaxyAngel

Hopefully it will come resolve if not work then move on new forward..

I hope so too... because moving on forward without resolution would mean dropping those four AllDeaf members and not being friends with them anymore, and I don't want that to have to happen.

DreamDeaf · 04-26-2006, 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Bowak

I hope all of this can be resolved asap and u can move on along with ur life.

Thanks, Bowak. I hope so, too.

DreamDeaf · 04-26-2006, 11:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Cheri

I agree with Bowak. I know how you must be feeling DreamDeaf, that's the lowest thing that anyone could do to one another. I hope you get what you've been searching for which are answers, the truth and why?.

thanks, Cheri. You already know what happened, and you know how much this still bothers me...*sigh* It's so hard not knowing who, why and what reason even after six months.

TweetyBird · 04-26-2006, 11:11 AM

i remmy abt this.. this time i was very depression.. so i hope that person will tell u truth abt this... also i dont blame u for this and still wanna know the truth... *sigh* and i know who did it

Cheri · 04-26-2006, 11:11 AM

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Originally Posted by DreamDeaf

I hope so too... because moving on forward without resolution would mean dropping those four AllDeaf members and not being friends with them anymore, and I don't want that to have to happen.

Understood! I'll feel the same if I were in your shoes. I'm tired of people lying, it's time to tell the truth, because "truth sets you free".

Angel · 04-26-2006, 11:15 AM

Aww DreamDeaf, I'm with you ALL the way, and I don't blame you for wanted the truth, hopefully they will come forward and admit it even if one is feeling guility....

Whether it was just a prank or not, still it was soo cruel enough to do this to a friend...I could never done that

DreamDeaf · 04-26-2006, 11:17 AM

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Originally Posted by TweetyBird

i remmy abt this.. this time i was very depression.. so i hope that person will tell u truth abt this... also i dont blame u for this and still wanna know the truth... *sigh* and i know who did it

Then you NEED to tell this person to come forward NOW. Just because you know who did this, is not much of an excuse when you could have told this person to come forward, admit what has been done and apologize to me.

DreamDeaf · 04-26-2006, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by ^Angel^

Aww DreamDeaf, I'm with you ALL the way, and I don't blame you for wanted the truth, hopefully they will come forward and admit it even if one is feeling guility....

Whether it was just a prank or not, still it was soo cruel enough to do this to a friend...I could never done that

thanks, Angel, you are also one of my close friends, and it has been a relief to be able to lean on you and Cheri during that time...and cry my soul out - it did really hurt me as I never had hurt that person before and I still don't know why it was done to me.

TweetyBird · 04-26-2006, 11:19 AM

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Originally Posted by DreamDeaf

Then you NEED to tell this person to come forward NOW. Just because you know who did this, is not much of an excuse when you could have told this person to come forward, admit what has been done and apologize to me.

okay let me TELL this person

TweetyBird · 04-26-2006, 11:30 AM

hey DD let u know that i already PMED this person.. and i FWD TO U..

DreamDeaf · 04-26-2006, 11:33 AM

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Originally Posted by TweetyBird

hey DD let u know that i already PMED this person.. and i FWD TO U..

Thank you, Tweety.

TweetyBird · 04-26-2006, 11:34 AM

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Originally Posted by DreamDeaf

Thank you, Tweety.

YW anytime..

Kalista · 04-26-2006, 11:39 AM

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Originally Posted by DreamDeaf

thanks, Angel, you are also one of my close friends, and it has been a relief to be able to lean on you and Cheri during that time...and cry my soul out - it did really hurt me as I never had hurt that person before and I still don't know why it was done to me.

Do not forgot the cats !!!! They are very IMPORTANT in your life !! Cats are the BEST medical to help people who are depressed and high blood pressure. Cats always cheer me up, they know how much I was unhappy or depressed. They always came to my lap and rub around my neck puurrrr to cheer me up.

JeepGirl · 04-26-2006, 11:41 AM

Been there and done that and it sucks!! I've held a grudge for over a hear to find the real answer. It drove me crazy not knowing the whole truth. So, I know that makes you feel wanting the truth to come out so you can get past that and be relieved and move on. I hope that things do solve really soon!!!

DreamDeaf · 04-26-2006, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Kalista

Do not forgot the cats !!!! They are very IMPORTANT in your life !! Cats are the BEST medical to help people who are depressed and high blood pressure. Cats always cheer me up, they know how much I was unhappy or depressed. They always came to my lap and rub around my neck puurrrr to cheer me up.

Oh, Kalista, I know...smiles. Our cats (MizzDeaf's and mine) have been a constant source of joy, solace and amusement to me all this time, however, I just want the truth and an end to this all. That's all I want.

DreamDeaf · 04-26-2006, 11:43 AM

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Originally Posted by RebelGirl

Been there and done that and it sucks!! I've held a grudge for over a hear to find the real answer. It drove me crazy not knowing the whole truth. So, I know that makes you feel wanting the truth to come out so you can get past that and be relieved and move on. I hope that things do solve really soon!!!

Rebbie, me too. Thanks. It's been hard on me and my health, and I do admit that I've taken it out on MizzDeaf a few times, which I have been ashamed of and apologized many times over and over. *sigh* Those emails were such a cruel prank, and if you saw the picture that accompanied them, you'd understand why.

JeepGirl · 04-26-2006, 11:54 AM

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Originally Posted by DreamDeaf

Rebbie, me too. Thanks. It's been hard on me and my health, and I do admit that I've taken it out on MizzDeaf a few times, which I have been ashamed of and apologized many times over and over. *sigh* Those emails were such a cruel prank, and if you saw the picture that accompanied them, you'd understand why.

I tried to open it but I couldn't. I did that with Chris when I was so upset with the other person and I would take it out on chris. It was like he is peaceful and has nothing to do with it.. It kinda pissed me off but that was a long time ago. I do hope that the 4 can respond and apologize and get that over with.

Roadrunner · 04-26-2006, 11:58 AM

I do hope this will be smoothed out and for those that it involves will come forward and since you've explained that you won't sever the ties of friendship providing what can be done be done so....

Isn't time that most of 'us' realize the preciousness of having friends, trying to get along, more so when this kind of community isn't very large--it would be grateful if it more people would realize the impact of a community coming together, armed with peace and harmony, then the value of friendships will go far--.

Do take care, however it goes...hang in there.

DreamDeaf · 04-26-2006, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by RebelGirl

I tried to open it but I couldn't. I did that with Chris when I was so upset with the other person and I would take it out on chris. It was like he is peaceful and has nothing to do with it.. It kinda pissed me off but that was a long time ago. I do hope that the 4 can respond and apologize and get that over with.

Trying again here...

http://www.alldeaf.com/general-chat/20657-down-dumps.html

DreamDeaf · 04-26-2006, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Roadrunner

I do hope this will be smoothed out and for those that it involves will come forward and since you've explained that you won't sever the ties of friendship providing what can be done be done so....

Isn't time that most of 'us' realize the preciousness of having friends, trying to get along, more so when this kind of community isn't very large--it would be grateful if it more people would realize the impact of a community coming together, armed with peace and harmony, then the value of friendships will go far--.

Do take care, however it goes...hang in there.

Thank you very much for your kind prose, RoadRunner...it means a lot to me.

Liebling:-))) · 04-26-2006, 12:46 PM

Oh yes I remember I was there to support you in your other thread...

I can understand how you feel. Yes you deserve the truth then over and move on..... If a person feel guilty then he or she would of contact you to free of his/her guilt and solve with you. I hope he/she know what he/she did to hurt you terrible...

I will think of you and hope everything solve then you will move on ...

DreamDeaf · 04-26-2006, 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Liebling:-)))

Oh yes I remember I was there to support you in your other thread...

I can understand how you feel. Yes you deserve the truth then over and move on..... If a person feel guilty then he or she would of contact you to free of his/her guilt and solve with you. I hope he/she know what he/she did to hurt you terrible... I will think of you and hope everything solve then you will move on ...

Thank you, Darling honey, and I do appreciate you being there for me when it happened. I do hope that this person will step forward and admit guilt and apologize for this, also.

JeepGirl · 04-26-2006, 12:51 PM

How could I be so blind about not seeing your old thread??? I read it and I couldn't believe that someone would actually do that to you and mizzdeaf.

I certainly hope that they will come forward and get it over with.

Freaky Cat · 04-26-2006, 01:03 PM

Aww DD..

this sucks when someone is jealous of you. They need to grow up and move on and worry about their business. Just ignore them and move on with your life. Be happy that u have Mizzy in ur life and ya will do fine!

04-26-2006, 10:59 AM	#1 (permalink)
DreamDeaf Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: In a messy studio Posts: 4,562	Still Disturbed... If you remember a few months ago, I created a thread... http://www.alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=20657 Well...now I gotta admit that this has been bothering me longer than I care to admit. Its the knowledge that there were four (yes, 4) AllDeaf members that have intimate knowledge about this. One has completely disappeared from sight from both here and from my life - I talked to a friend of mine (no connection to AllDeaf) that lives in that state - and was told that the person feels so quilty about it, that the person will not talk to me anymore, even on AIMs or email. That person has not even apologized to another friend of mine - my friend's name was used in sending the emails to me, suggested by the disappearing AD member. One was not present when this happened - but I do know that the person does know what really happened. Two were present when this was done - and both have said that the other did it, and still have not come up with the real story or facts to support their stories. To this present day, it still bothers me that these four AllDeaf members knows who has done this to me, and yet, not one of them have told me the REAL story or even apologized to me for pulling this cruel prank on me. Yes, I still continue to talk to three of these people - and one of them have started getting to know me better and emails me more often with what is going on. One has kind of tapered off in emailing me - we still continue to talk. One is still emailing me as if nothing is wrong, and often we talk about what is going on at that moment. However, to tell you the truth... THIS IS REALLY BOTHERING ME. I have not been able to go past the plateau - and I had been doing really good in my weight loss before this happened. I know it's been six (6) months since that happened, but I would like to know who really did this and why that person did that to me... if it was a prank, then it was a very cruel, thoughtless and heartless prank. If that person has a grievance against me, why not confront me directly and ask me for the truth? I am always willing to tell the truth - even when it may hurt our friendships. I have been stuck on the same 10 pounds since October - and I would like to be able to put this behind me, so I can continue on the weight loss plan - the doctor has ordered me to lose weight and I do have to follow my doctor's orders...he has told me that I could require knee replacement surgery before I'm 50 years old, and recently he told me that this will take a toll on my life expectancy and that I must lose weight NOW. Please, please, I beg you, all four of you, to come up to me with the truth - who, why and what reason. I am not going to desert you - yes, I will be hurt, but at least I will be able to put it behind me and move on. Our friendship may be strained for a while, but I am always able to put problems behind me and continue on with friendships. However, the longer this silence and lying continues, I cannot guarantee that my friendship will continue - it is really hard on me and taking a toll on my health. Thank you for listening. DreamDeaf P.S. Please no drama, negative comments, flaming or statments that says I am looking for drama in my life, which I am not. I am looking for a resolution to this situation that will enable me to put my soul at rest and finally move on. Last edited by DreamDeaf; 04-26-2006 at 11:16 AM.

04-26-2006, 11:07 AM	#3 (permalink)
GalaxyAngel That's me! Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Ontario,Canada Posts: 13,455	I can image that how much r u felt that way Hopefully it will come resolve if not work then move on new forward.. __________________ Parents' proud of Logan.

04-26-2006, 11:08 AM	#4 (permalink)
Cheri Premium Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: All I wanted was a white knight with a good heart, soft touch, fast horse, ride me off into the sunset Posts: 20,231	I agree with Bowak. I know how you must be feeling DreamDeaf, that's the lowest thing that anyone could do to one another. I hope you get what you've been searching for which are answers, the truth and why?. __________________

04-26-2006, 12:46 PM	#25 (permalink)
Liebling:-))) Hiiiiiii it's meeeeee Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Germany Posts: 24,839	Oh yes I remember I was there to support you in your other thread... I can understand how you feel. Yes you deserve the truth then over and move on..... If a person feel guilty then he or she would of contact you to free of his/her guilt and solve with you. I hope he/she know what he/she did to hurt you terrible... I will think of you and hope everything solve then you will move on ... __________________ sniffing you

04-26-2006, 01:03 PM	#28 (permalink)
Freaky Cat Lost in Space Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: ArKaNsAs Posts: 10,147	Aww DD.. this sucks when someone is jealous of you. They need to grow up and move on and worry about their business. Just ignore them and move on with your life. Be happy that u have Mizzy in ur life and ya will do fine! __________________ When you miss me just look up to the night sky and remember, I'm like a star; sometimes you can't see me, but I'm always there! Freaky Cat's Blog

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04-26-2006, 11:02 AM	#2 (permalink)
Bowak Registered User Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 1,039	I hope all of this can be resolved asap and u can move on along with ur life.

04-26-2006, 11:11 AM	#8 (permalink)
TweetyBird LOOK AT ILY MAGNETS! Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 21,207	i remmy abt this.. this time i was very depression.. so i hope that person will tell u truth abt this... also i dont blame u for this and still wanna know the truth... sigh and i know who did it

04-26-2006, 11:15 AM	#10 (permalink)
Angel Premium Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 18,695	Aww DreamDeaf, I'm with you ALL the way, and I don't blame you for wanted the truth, hopefully they will come forward and admit it even if one is feeling guility.... Whether it was just a prank or not, still it was soo cruel enough to do this to a friend...I could never done that

04-26-2006, 11:30 AM	#14 (permalink)
TweetyBird LOOK AT ILY MAGNETS! Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 21,207	hey DD let u know that i already PMED this person.. and i FWD TO U..

04-26-2006, 11:41 AM	#18 (permalink)
JeepGirl Registered User Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: In the South Posts: 6,176	Been there and done that and it sucks!! I've held a grudge for over a hear to find the real answer. It drove me crazy not knowing the whole truth. So, I know that makes you feel wanting the truth to come out so you can get past that and be relieved and move on. I hope that things do solve really soon!!!

04-26-2006, 11:58 AM	#22 (permalink)
Roadrunner Registered User Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Ohio Posts: 7,090	I do hope this will be smoothed out and for those that it involves will come forward and since you've explained that you won't sever the ties of friendship providing what can be done be done so.... Isn't time that most of 'us' realize the preciousness of having friends, trying to get along, more so when this kind of community isn't very large--it would be grateful if it more people would realize the impact of a community coming together, armed with peace and harmony, then the value of friendships will go far--. Do take care, however it goes...hang in there.

04-26-2006, 12:51 PM	#27 (permalink)
JeepGirl Registered User Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: In the South Posts: 6,176	How could I be so blind about not seeing your old thread??? I read it and I couldn't believe that someone would actually do that to you and mizzdeaf. I certainly hope that they will come forward and get it over with.