Do you think family members should learn ASL if you're deaf?

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I just went to Nebraska over the weekend to see some family. The last time I saw the before last weekend, they promised they would learn some ASL. Well when I got there I found that only one of them did. I was so P/O. Any thoughts?:deaf:
 
faithy295 said:
I just went to Nebraska over the weekend to see some family. The last time I saw the before last weekend, they promised they would learn some ASL. Well when I got there I found that only one of them did. I was so P/O. Any thoughts?:deaf:
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Try and try again. Let them know that you need help with this and it is essential that they learn as well.
 
faithy295 said:
I just went to Nebraska over the weekend to see some family. The last time I saw the before last weekend, they promised they would learn some ASL. Well when I got there I found that only one of them did. I was so P/O. Any thoughts?:deaf:
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Interesting reaction.

As your brain matures, you will realize that people who aren't involved in your life on a daily basis aren't likely to learn ASL just for the few times they may interact with you.

But also, if you don't enjoy interacting with them and find them inconsiderate, don't go back.
 
Bottesini said:
Interesting reaction.

As your brain matures, you will realize that people who aren't involved in your life on a daily basis aren't likely to learn ASL just for the few times they may interact with you.

But also, if you don't enjoy interacting with them and find them inconsiderate, don't go back.
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people will made promises but that does not mean they'll keep them. They may have good intentions at the time but they'll get so busy with their own life and who know they could of had a family crises the OP does not know about.
 
so you are Sooooo P/O that someone didn't bend to your likings?
So if someone said next time they come to see you that you needed to have an IQ of 160 or better and you don't accomplish that, you are ok with it?
Well, ASL isn't an overnight learning experience and some people just cant comprehend some things very well, if at all. I think you have too high of expectations of others sadly.
 
Bottesini said:
Interesting reaction.

As your brain matures, you will realize that people who aren't involved in your life on a daily basis aren't likely to learn ASL just for the few times they may interact with you.

But also, if you don't enjoy interacting with them and find them inconsiderate, don't go back.
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I think faithy is more bothered by the fact that she was promised something and didn't get it.

But I do agree, extended family members that doesn't interact with their deaf relatives much tend not to learn ASL.
 
I don't drink, but my family drink like fish out of water... do I get mad at them for offering me a beer every 5 minutes? No, but they sure think Im odd that I don't like to drink, never been drunk...ect... Never been a partier.
Pepsi Please.
 
sonocativo said:
so you are Sooooo P/O that someone didn't bend to your likings?
So if someone said next time they come to see you that you needed to have an IQ of 160 or better and you don't accomplish that, you are ok with it?
Well, ASL isn't an overnight learning experience and some people just cant comprehend some things very well, if at all. I think you have too high of expectations of others sadly.
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I posted about my ASL loss previously, but from 1985-1990 I learned ASL, but after being mainstreamed, I basically lost it for ten years due to the fact that I was the only deafie there, and the district refused to hire an interpreter. Once I moved to Cook County in 2000, I regained it back, but doing so at the age of 16 was a lot harder than doing it a lot younger, I can tell you that, but I am now fluent in ASL, and have been for quite some time now.
 
a l i v e said:
I think faithy is more bothered by the fact that she was promised something and didn't get it.

But I do agree, extended family members that doesn't interact with their deaf relatives much tend not to learn ASL.
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Then faithy needs to grow up and realize that people do not always keep promises they made , I bet she broke some herself , everyone does it and it not to be mean . People have their own life. I asked my daughter and granddaughter if they wanted to learn ASL with me and did not and I see all them time. I did not made them feel guilty about it even through I felt bad they did not want to learn ASL . That is their rights to NOT learn ASL and I have to respect it.
 
ChicagoBlue2 said:
I posted about my ASL loss previously, but from 1985-1990 I learned ASL, but after being mainstreamed, I basically lost it for ten years due to the fact that I was the only deafie there, and the district refused to hire an interpreter. Once I moved to Cook County in 2000, I regained it back, but doing so at the age of 16 was a lot harder than doing it a lot younger, I can tell you that, but I am now fluent in ASL, and have been for quite some time now.
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Yep, as I am learning and Im in my 40s... not the learning machine I was at one point in time...
 
sonocativo said:
Yep, as I am learning and Im in my 40s... not the learning machine I was at one point in time...
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I know how you feel. Took me nearly five years to get the hang of it, but I am glad I got the hang of it when I did, otherwise I probably wouldn't be here today.

I may be fluent in ASL, but my spoken English is quite good, which allows me to adjust accordingly. The only problem I have is my lack of lip reading skills, which used to be pretty good, and needs more work. I'll get there eventually, and won't give up.
 
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Well, they did not know you were expected to come to Nebraska for family gathering. Beside most family members are pretty much rather not do ASL as they don't want to use ASL to communicate with someone in the family who are d/Deaf. They would rather have you use oral instead of ASL. I understand your frustration on this. You can not make them promise to learn ASL and use it to communicate with you. You might as well learn to live with this hearing family situation.

My hearing family members refused to sign ASL, only my sister learned how to fingerspell. That was it. I was kind of upset over it, too. But that is the way they are. :(
 
Of course! Family is supposed to be there for other family members.
 
Immediate family members? The ones under your roof? Of course! How else are ya gonna bond?
 
Yes and no, because nobody should be forced to do things against their will.

but because it shows that communication with you - a Deafie, is important to hearies and they'd do anything to try and make it as easy as possible for both of you, also shows that hearies find Deaf ways interesting -
it is deeply appreciated if a hearing family member go out if his/her way to learn ASL.
but you can't force it. not IMHO.


Last but not least, certainly for the Deaf people, if a hearing family member learns to sign this can be a huge way of showing his or her acceptance for the deafness and Deaf Culture.
perhaps this is even as important if not more?? the factor of wanting the family go ASL as an ease of communication...?

that's why this is such a hot topic...

Fuzzy
 
Tousi said:
Immediate family members? The ones under your roof? Of course! How else are ya gonna bond?
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The way two people of different languages bond. imagine you are English
and you just met gorgeous Estonian girl, or boy, whatever -
not sure of your gender, do forgive me :)
You fall in love, and yet neither of you speak the same language.

nevertheless, you communicate perfectly, and there you are, 9 months later - !pop! in to this world comes the fruit of your love ;)

Fuzzy
 
ps - that not to suggest immediate family are suppose to make babies with each other, gosh, no! and gosh, yeeech!

only that, for great communication no definite ways are necessary but heart, sweetie.

HEART.

find it, and the right words will flow with ease :)

Fuzzy
 
Audio, there's something fuzzy to me about what you are saying so let's try again: The mother and father of a deaf baby should do what???

P.S. Not that I think it has anything to do with this discourse but I am a guy.....
 
Tousi said:
Audio, there's something fuzzy to me about what you are saying so let's try again: The mother and father of a deaf baby should do what???

P.S. Not that I think it has anything to do with this discourse but I am a guy.....
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This kid is talking about distant relatives in another state...
 
Bottesini said:
This kid is talking about distant relatives in another state...
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Yes, I know and I almost have to concede there; then I brought up family members under the same roof cuz there's just no excuse, to me, for the heartbreak there......
 
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