School for Deaf addressing suicide

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JS Online: School for Deaf addressing suicide

They live in a world of silence and sometimes isolation. It can be aggravating, maddening and even tormenting.

Courtney Gunville knows well the frustrations of being deaf.

The cheerful 19-year-old college freshman was born deaf. She has experienced the anxiety of feeling alone in a roomful of people.

In 2003, Gunville watched a deaf friend slip into such despair that the friend committed suicide.

Both were students at the Wisconsin School for the Deaf. So when Gunville learned that the school was launching a suicide prevention program, she was eager to help.

The Walworth County school is using a federal grant to help finance a groundbreaking program that will teach students, their parents and mental health professionals how to recognize and cope with deaf people who are suicidal.

"I know there are deaf people who feel that way," Gunville said through an interpreter. "You don't want to see anyone else go down that road."

Deborah Tillman saw early warning signs in her son, Joshua, who also attended the Wisconsin School for the Deaf.

As a young child, Joshua began acting paranoid because he saw people talking and laughing, and he worried that they were talking about him. Temper tantrums soon followed.

Tillman not only found a mental health professional who was able to help, she also learned sign language so she could stay connected with her son.

If families lack communication with their deaf children, she said, the problems can get much worse.

"Just imagine never being able to have a conversation with your family," she said. "That's why they need mental health services - their souls are broken."

Officials at the Wisconsin School for the Deaf are confronting the problem in many ways, using money from a federal grant that is targeting youth suicide throughout Wisconsin.

School officials have developed a six-hour course to teach mental health counselors and other professionals how to understand - and help - deaf people.

Next up is a video instructing deaf students to watch for signs of mental illness. And the school is considering another video to show parents how to be stronger advocates for deaf children who need mental health treatment.

Christina Dean, who is coordinating the school's efforts, said administrators have been shocked to see mental health counselors who never exchange a word with their deaf patients, either because the counselors do not know sign language or because they have no translator.

"It blows us away," Dean said.

Although there is little scientific research on whether deafness contributes to an increased risk of mental illness, advocates are certain that deaf people have a harder time than other people getting treatment because of the communication difficulties.

Mental health experts say they believe the Wisconsin School for the Deaf is engaged in groundbreaking work on educational tools that could be used nationally. Founded in the 1850s, the Delavan school serves about 140 preschool to high school students, most of whom live in dormitories on campus. The school has sports teams and other extracurricular activities, as well as many kinds of therapy and other programs.

Screening for Mental Health Inc., an East Coast-based nonprofit organization, plans to promote the school's curriculum and videos to other deaf schools throughout the country.

"I thought it was an important project. We're thrilled to be a part of it," said Sharon Pigeon, the organization's director of planning and development.
 
Wonderful news. And I couldn't agree more about the "broken souls" comment. Just another reason to encourage parents to learn sign for their deaf children.
 
That's great. As someone who's needed mental health services and had a hard time getting them, I can really sympathise.
 
That's great. As someone who's needed mental health services and had a hard time getting them, I can really sympathise.

It is truly difficult to find any form of mental health care that is focused on the unique needs of the deaf population. I know that Wright State has started trying to address that need by adding a counseling for the deaf track to their master's program.
 
I know suicide is a horrible thing, because I know I lost some friends to that and someone I love too. I am not a therapist or other mental health professional - only someone who knows what it is like to be in pain. A person feeling like suicide not means you are not a bad person, or crazy, or weak, or flawed, because you feel suicidal. It doesn’t even mean that you really want to die - it only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. If I start piling weights on your shoulders, you will eventually collapse if I add enough weights... no matter how much you want to remain standing. Willpower has nothing to do with it. Of course you would cheer yourself up, if you could.



So here some advice on this:

1. You need to hear that people do get through this -- even people who feel as badly as you are feeling now. Statistically, there is a very good chance that you are going to live. I hope that this information gives you some sense of hope.

2. Give yourself some distance. Say to yourself, “I will wait 24 hours before I do anything.” Or a week. Remember that feelings and actions are two different things - just because you feel like killing yourself, doesn’t mean that you have to actually do it right this minute. Put some distance between your suicidal feelings and suicidal action. Even if it’s just 24 hours. You have already done it for 5 minutes, just by reading this page. You can do it for another 5 minutes by continuing to read this page. Keep going, and realize that while you still feel suicidal, you are not, at this moment, acting on it. That is very encouraging to me, and I hope it is to you.

3. People often turn to suicide because they are seeking relief from pain. Remember that relief is a feeling. And you have to be alive to feel it. You will not feel the relief you so desperately seek, if you are dead.

4. Some people will react badly to your suicidal feelings, either because they are frightened, or angry; they may actually increase your pain instead of helping you, despite their intentions, by saying or doing thoughtless things. You have to understand that their bad reactions are about their fears, not about you.

5. But there are people out there who can be with you in this horrible time, and will not judge you, or argue with you, or send you to a hospital, or try to talk you out of how badly you feel. They will simply care for you. Find one of them. Now. Use your 24 hours, or your week, and tell someone what’s going on with you. It is okay to ask for help. Try:

Send an anonymous e-mail to The Samaritans
Call 1-800-SUICIDE in the U.S.
Teenagers, call Covenant House NineLine, 1-800-999-9999
Look in the front of your phone book for a crisis line
Call a psychotherapist
Carefully choose a friend or a minister or rabbi, someone who is likely to listen

6. But don’t give yourself the additional burden of trying to deal with this alone. Just talking about how you got to where you are, releases an awful lot of the pressure, and it might be just the additional coping resource you need to regain your balance.

7. Suicidal feelings are, in and of themselves, traumatic. After they subside, you need to continue caring for yourself. Therapy is a really good idea. So are the various self-help groups available both in your community and on the Internet.
 
I even see signs of this emotional problems with my young elementary-aged students (yes even ones with CIs!!!) simply cuz their parents havent learned sign language. To me, I think that is abuse..not learning the language that your child depends on for communication.

I cant reveal much but this is a common problem with many deaf children.

I was one of them but I never got close to committing suicide but I was extremely depressed due to not having full access to communication even though I have excellent oral skills.

I am glad that the school is taking action cuz it is very serious.
 
I even see signs of this emotional problems with my young elementary-aged students (yes even ones with CIs!!!) simply cuz their parents havent learned sign language. To me, I think that is abuse..not learning the language that your child depends on for communication.

I cant reveal much but this is a common problem with many deaf children.

I was one of them but I never got close to committing suicide but I was extremely depressed due to not having full access to communication even though I have excellent oral skills.

I am glad that the school is taking action cuz it is very serious.

That great, as long as the school is taking serious actions to help these kids is worth saving. :)
 
I even see signs of this emotional problems with my young elementary-aged students (yes even ones with CIs!!!) simply cuz their parents havent learned sign language. To me, I think that is abuse..not learning the language that your child depends on for communication.

I cant reveal much but this is a common problem with many deaf children.

I was one of them but I never got close to committing suicide but I was extremely depressed due to not having full access to communication even though I have excellent oral skills.

I am glad that the school is taking action cuz it is very serious.

The isolation just takes its toll. When kids are givien the message that they are the ones that must change to meet the parent's needs, rather than the parents changing to meet the child's needs, the message the kid gets gives them an extremely negative self image. They see themselves as a burden, and as a failure, and for causing their parents pain and hardship. It really is a shame that people continue to view deaf kids as just a mouth and a couple of ears. They are whole beings, and that deafness impacts every bit of their young lives.
 
The isolation just takes its toll. When kids are givien the message that they are the ones that must change to meet the parent's needs, rather than the parents changing to meet the child's needs, the message the kid gets gives them an extremely negative self image. They see themselves as a burden, and as a failure, and for causing their parents pain and hardship. It really is a shame that people continue to view deaf kids as just a mouth and a couple of ears. They are whole beings, and that deafness impacts every bit of their young lives.


Why are people willing to make accodommations for blind people or people who depend on wheelchairs?

Who has ever heard of placing a completely blind person in an educational or home environment where no canes, braille, nor speaking computers are provided? They are so readily available but yet for deaf children, those accodomations are withheld right away until those children suffer language delays, academic failures, and self esteem issues before these resources/accodomations are provided.
 
Why are people willing to make accodommations for blind people or people who depend on wheelchairs?

Who has ever heard of placing a completely blind person in an educational or home environment where no canes, braille, nor speaking computers are provided? They are so readily available but yet for deaf children, those accodomations are withheld right away until those children suffer language delays, academic failures, and self esteem issues before these resources/accodomations are provided.

I agree. It just doesn't make sense.
 
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