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*nods* And it sucks that it's that way. I think about all the smart deaf people I know who can do so much, but are limited by the perceptions of other people about their English.
The marketer in me is wondering how that could be tackled! Quote:
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Your and Jillo's writing style is the kind I would love to achieve someday. I can understand the message you both are conveying but I cant express my thoughts to that level of writing. Know what I mean? I try to write using a lot of terminology but it just never comes out right. Oh well...
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This problem is not exclusive to deaf people. Anybody with poor English skills are subject to that kind of perception by others. I guess first impressions will always be important regardless whether deserved or not.
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That's not always the case Shel. I am a volunteer at my daughters school and that was not the case at all. When the kids started blending words together and reading and writing sentences, i thought Kayla would have a harder time then some of the other kids. She is one of the top readers in her class. Her teacher and i are so proud of her. She is very determined and always has been. |
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You are so right! When they talk about 24/7 it should not be taken literally but meant to incorporate what is being currently stressed in actual therapy into the normal routine of your child's life. My daughter loved playing barbies and so my wife and her would sit and play for hours-all the while she was getting a speech and language lesson and had no idea but she had a great time! Same thing when they would go to the beach in the summer and talked about the sand, the water, the seagulls etc. There is nothing wrong with spending time talking to your children! Rick |
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U decide whatever approach u feel best for your daughter..all I am asking u to keep the other issues in mind especially when she gets older.
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![]() Before going to grad school at Gallaudet, I used to think opposite or think "one size fits all" but I had great professors and great classes that really opened my eyes to a lot of issues. It was like a "wake-up" call for me.
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thanks Boult
thanks Boult for the av comments my son attends university of Akron and I know Carol Fletcher personally my son also has Dr.Denise Wray.THey are amazing professors and DRs.He has thrived so much through av theropy he only attends once a week.for one hour a week the rest is up to us as parentsa to implament it in teh house.I do not over theropy my child but he does need theropy . he is now only 3 months behind in speech. I can only praise the University of Akron!!!!
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![]() To emphasize..I said many so I am not talking about ALL parents here..ok?
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I dont think that sentence looks right...it didnt come out the way I intented it to be...let me see if I can put it a better way... I meant to say that yes, there are deaf people who do fine with reading using the auditory-therapy approach but many deaf children dont and by the time the specialists or parents realize that, a lot of years of language development is lost and the children themselves are the one who will have to end up even working MUCH harder to develop reading and writing skills. Your daughter does have to work harder to acquire reading skills cuz she doenst have the hearing to catch everything being said in her environment. Maybe it is NOT much harder but harder, regardless. That's why deaf children go to speech therapy so from my own personal experience, speech therapy is a LOT of work as opposed to hearing kids being able to hear the language around without naturally. Deaf children have to work harder..if not, then there would be no need for speech therapy, hmm? Everything else I said in my quoted post was said correctly so it still stands.
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That was the message I grew up with which is why I had all these emotional issues even though I did well academically. Socially and emotionally, I was a mess..big time mess cuz I was so jealous of my hearing peers of being able to hear and becoming very depressed about not being able to keep up in conversations, understand what was being said in class, participating in class discussion, giving out speeches on reports only to have my class laugh at me cuz my speech wasnt so perfect, not being able to talk on the phone like my friends could, getting reprimanded by teachers for not being able to follow what they are saying hence getting marks on my report cards as having problems with daydreaming, bieng the last one to know what is going on, having people getting impatient with me for not understanding them the first time...the list goes on and on. Too much stress dealing with all those issues only because the specialist told my mom that I didnt need ASL. I have spent so many nights crying because it seemed that everyone around me was happier than me all because they can hear and I cant. I asked my deaf brother, who went to a deaf school since he was 5, if he had to deal with any of those issues I listed above and he looked at me like "I have no idea what u are talking about." He had no concept of what it was like cuz he grew up with people like him and grew up with ASL and having full access to language and discussions in his classes. The only issue he struggled with was learning how to read and write appropriately and I dont hold his school at fault for it. I hold the fact that he lost out on a full language development during his first 5 years trying to learn how to communicate using spoken English at fault. Why do I blame it? He couldnt pick up on oral language. Because he was doing so badly in his kindergarten class at the school I went to with, his IEP team had to refer him to the deaf school. That was the BEST thing any specialist did for him. He told me that he loved going to school because he was bored at home due to nobody knowing sign language. On the other hand, I hated going to school so I would play sick so many times. Go figure. No wonder I want little to do with the non-signing world. I was going to ask u "Have these professionals ever lived with what it is like to be deaf or have deaf relatives, especially children?" Then I was gonna ask...why do many parents listen to them more than to the people who actually experienced it personally? U already answered it.
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Like, how the heck can kids develop good self esteem when they are CONSTANTLY being corrected on their speech? How can they develop good self esteem when people think we're MR b/c of the quality of their voice? I STILL get that, and I got 660 on the Verbal SATs. How can we develop good self esteem when we're being yelled at b/c we can't hear to modulate our voice? I STILL get that.......how the heck can we develop good self esteem when we're being teased about our voices? Oral only DOES NOT and CAN NOT totally equalize dhh kids. Sure, there are some standouts.....but overall, hoh kids' acheievement levels are STILL relatively low! We have very high rates of drug and alchohl abuse. (people who abuse to "deaden the pain of not fitting in 100%) Samantha Kennel, please do listen to us. Many of us were "sucessful" oralists just like your son. Nobody here's bashing oral skills........we're just asking why the development of oral skills, comes at such a high cost. Even many if not most of the "superstars" have HUGE HUGE interpersonal relationship issues. I remember going to a Hoh kids conference. Two of the kids (actually oral deaf) were stereotypical academic superstars. One of them wanted to go to an Ivy League College, and the other wanted to be a lawyer. Both of them had HUGE interpersonal issues. That's usually the #1 issue facing oral dhh kids....socialization and emotional issues. Please.......many of our parents say they wish they'd learned Sign earlier as well. You don't want to look back and think "I should have listened to those adults. I should have learned Sign along with speech." You can add Sign on an enrichment basis....who knows? Maybe he could perform at supergenius levels with Sign. |
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