Should Your Child Be Spanked at School?

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It is one of the most controversial methods of child discipline, but spanking in school -- usually with a wooden or fiberglass paddle -- is still allowed by law in 19 states. The practice is most prevalent in the Midwest and South. According to a report from the Juvenile Information Exchange, more than 28,500 students in Georgia were spanked in 2008, mostly in rural counties. The number is much smaller in Florida -- around 3,600 last year -- but that's where the issue is getting new attention.

For the second year in a row, a Florida lawmaker is trying to ban corporal punishment in schools there; last year the measure never made it to the floor for a full vote.

Opponents of the ban say spanking is matter of tradition and good old-fashioned discipline. But at least one Florida mom is suing to stop the practice. Tenika Jones says the principal at the Joyce Bullock Elementary School in Levy County paddled her 5-year-old so severely last April that he cried for hours, triggering an asthma attack, which in turn required a trip to the emergency room.

The boy was spanked for roughhousing with another student on a school bus. Jones said her son had welts on his buttocks, missed a week of school and still has nightmares about the incident.

"That's child abuse to me," the 32-year old told reporters, "If they don't want us to hit our kids, they shouldn't either." Principal Jaime Handlin declined to comment, citing the on-going legislation, but she did tell the Willston Pioneer newspaper that "nothing was violated."

She added, "I disciplined out of love, not anger."

Researchers have found that spanking can increase aggressiveness in children and can even hurt the mental development of young children.

"Corporal punishment doesn't get us the results we want," said Deborah Sendek, program director of the Center for Effective Discipline, a group that advocates against corporal punishment. "You can get the same result from an intervention – simply telling and teaching children to stop the behavior."

Sendek says the practice is not only ineffective, it can also teach children that hitting is acceptable. Sendek, who has worked in with abused and neglected children for three decades, says children who are hit ultimately learn to avoid the punisher, not the behavior.

She cited a number of instances in which children were seriously injured and asked why so many American children are subject to this type of punishment.

"We're not allowed to hit a prisoner. We do not hit in the military," Sendek said, "Why do we give prisoners more protection than we give our schoolchildren?

Even if parents do not agree with corporal punishment, there is little they can do, if a school district permits it, to guarantee that their child will not be hit by an administrator if she or he misbehaves. Sendek says her group suggests that parents who want to opt out of that type of discipline should send a letter to the principal and school administrators at the beginning of each school year, and make sure that their concerns are put in the child's permanent record. She also recommends reviewing the school district's disciplinary policies and voicing any concerns at parent/teacher conferences or school board meetings before a child is ever hit.

States That Allow Spanking (Source: Center for Effective Discipline) Alabama Arizona Arkansas Colorado Florida Georgia Idaho Indiana Kansas Kentucky Louisiana Mississippi Missouri North Carolina Oklahoma South Carolina Tennessee Texas Wyoming

Should Your Child Be Spanked at School? - Yahoo!
 
No way.

I'm shocked that it's still legal in some states. If I were that parent I would sue the teacher and the school.

That's abuse. There are no two ways around it.
 
I grew up in a spanking era and still agree that it was very helpful.
But today's world is so pc and legal, that I no longer support spanking in school.
Best to kick the kid out of school and tell the parents to home school the kid until there is 1000% proof that the kid can behave him/herself.
 
No way.

I'm shocked that it's still legal in some states. If I were that parent I would sue the teacher and the school.

That's abuse. There are no two ways around it.

um.... good luck suing them if it's legal in that state.
 
um.... good luck suing them if it's legal in that state.

It appears that one mother is suing in one of the states where it's legal. Either way, things don't change until people step up and demand a change. Parents could go to jail for leaving welts on their child, but a teacher won't? Ridiculous.

There have been many disturbing things that have gone down in the past. Things are outlawed for a reason. Now that this is getting some press, maybe some of these states with backwards laws will turn around.
 
It appears that one mother is suing in one of the states where it's legal. Either way, things don't change until people step up and demand a change. Parents could go to jail for leaving welts on their child, but a teacher won't? Ridiculous.

There have been many disturbing things that have gone down in the past. Things are outlawed for a reason. Now that this is getting some press, maybe some of these states with backwards laws will turn around.

again... good luck.

I doubt you would have money and time to go thru it. or maybe you do. Maybe I'm just plain dang tired of hearing people making an empty "I'LL SUE YOU" threat and not really mean it. perhaps it's best if all states have spanking laws to stop kids from being coddled with false illusion because it seems that people are getting spoiled with "I have a rights!" self-entitlement.
 
:hmm: well... I don't need luck, as my child hasn't been spanked at school. I'm just saying that if he were, I wouldn't tolerate it. I would follow through to protect my child, because that's my responsibility. I'm not into suing people. With that said, if I were in that parent's position I would do the same thing. If you keep quiet about things, nothing will change.

Kids need consequences and repercussions- not welts and distrust of those who are there to educate them. School should be a safe place. Not being okay with children being abused is not the same thing as wanting them to be coddled.
 
No spanking for my boys. Parents can write a letter to the school if they do not desire for their child to be spanked. The Parent will be called in for a conference regarding the child's behavior. If there is no improvement, then of course the child will be suspended.

The only way I would allow my child to be spanked by the Principal was to observe it myself. And only if I could not control my child due to his bad behavior. And it all depends upon what the child has done. It only takes one disruptive child to disrupt the whole classroom.
 
:hmm: well... I don't need luck, as my child hasn't been spanked at school.
then you just proved my previous post about empty "I'LL-SUE-YOU" threat.

I'm just saying that if he were, I wouldn't tolerate it. I would follow through to protect my child, because that's my responsibility. I'm not into suing people. With that said, if I were in that parent's position I would do the same thing. If you keep quiet about things, nothing will change.
I agree. I would raise hell about it in a state where spanking is legal but suing is not exactly the most conducive way to do it unless my child was injured. You cannot win against state on most cases where things are legal because you have no funds and support to follow thru it.

Kids need consequences and repercussions- not welts and distrust of those who are there to educate them. School should be a safe place. Not being okay with children being abused is not the same thing as wanting them to be coddled.
I agree.

but about coddling part - I was referring to where child should be taught to follow thru what they say and mean it. Saying "I'LL SUE YOU" and not really it and screaming "I HAVE RIGHTS!" with self-entitlement attitude to any problem is just dang sad. It's a sign that we have coddled our children to the point where they don't know how to handle reality themselves. world's not fair. life's not fair. but I will certainly make sure my child will know how to handle it like a real man.
 
I never been spanked at school during 80's, 90's and early-mid 2000's.

Speaking about Alabama, spanking is very rare today and I do know about deaf school banned on spanking since mid 80's.
 
After what happened to my father as a child, I have never been for corporal punishment in the schools. He was paddled with a wooden paddle that had rough cut holes in it. He had to have a total of 57 stitches in his behind and missed 6 weeks of school.
 
Yea if anyone spank my kid in school and if was suddenly having an asthma attack even when the person wont stop the spanking, I will fuck them up so fast they won't even remember how that just happened. It is the parents' job to spank the kids. Not the school.
 
um.... good luck suing them if it's legal in that state.

They have to the right to sue them if it comes to an health risk such as a child suffering from asthma being moved to the emergency room after so much spanking can possibly kill the child.
 
There is a reason why southerners are more polite and easy to get along with. :wave:

Especially in the more rural areas. :lol:

In fact, the feeling of entitlement is scarce and self reliance is not. :cool2:

Of course there is a difference between spanking and abuse. They are not the same thing.
 
There is a reason why southerners are more polite and easy to get along with. :wave:

Especially in the more rural areas. :lol:

In fact, the feeling of entitlement is scarce and self reliance is not. :cool2:

Of course there is a difference between spanking and abuse. They are not the same thing.

Not always, there are northerners and midwesterners are polite.

The driving in Alabama sucks due to many rude drivers and some people gave me a shitty attitude for no reason.
 
Not always, there are northerners and midwesterners are polite.

The driving in Alabama sucks due to many rude drivers and some people gave me a shitty attitude for no reason.

They were Yankee transplants that didn't get spanked growing up :giggle:
 
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