6 secret turn-ons for men

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Sure, some typical moves — a hair flip here, an eye batted there — will attract a man... some of the time. But you may be surprised at the things guys really can’t resist about women, and some of them are the very qualities women fear will drive men away — from letting a curse word fly loose to leaving all kinds of makeup near his bathroom sink. Here’s why these habits (and others) can actually win a man over...

1. He loves that you indulge at dinnertime.
Guys love women who like to eat — not ladies who say they aren’t hungry and then pick at their date’s food all night. Paul, 30, who lives in Boston, thinks that food may be the reason he fell in love with his fiancée: “When we first started dating, I thought it might be awkward if I wanted greasy food like wings — I figured she’d think it was fattening or unhealthy. Women I’d dated in the past only wanted to go out for salad or sushi. But she was enthusiastic about eating all kinds of things with me. I loved that easygoing attitude of hers.” Aside from showing that you’re not high maintenance or neurotic about your weight, that kind of unabashed enthusiasm also tends to translate into other areas — including the bedroom. “A woman with a healthy appetite for food tends to have a healthy appetite on all levels, and being affectionate is absolutely a part of that,” explains Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., author of Emotional Fitness for Couples: 10 Minutes a Day to a Better Relationship.

2. He loves your occasional outbursts.
You may worry that it’s not ladylike, but occasionally letting a curse or rant escape your lips at an unexpected moment can be a major turn-on. “Hearing a woman use profanity out of context gives a guy a shock of adrenaline,” explains Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of Be Honest — You’re Not That Into Him Either and DSI: Date Scene Investigation. “Men like women who can be tough and assertive, and as long as she doesn’t take the talk too far, it’s a positive thing.”

3. He loves that you aren’t a neat freak.
Believe it or not, guys find the proliferation of hair products, accessories and unidentified stuff strewn about your apartment oddly endearing. “I love that my wife makes a bigger mess than I do,” says Ziad, 31, of Durham, NC. “When she cooks, food ends up all over the place. It shows that she’s carefree, and it reminds me to enjoy the moment rather than worrying about the consequences.” This laid-back mind-set also carries over into your weekend wardrobe. “Guys love a woman who’s not trying too hard,” explains Dr. Kerner. “Most men think a pair of boxer shorts and a ratty old T-shirt around the house is your most attractive look.” So don’t spend hours choosing the perfect date-night outfit or getting your place in House Beautiful-worthy shape, because men love you just as you are — in your comfortable, slightly sloppy glory.


4. He loves your extra padding.
Sure, you’ve heard that men love women with curves, but how about those extra pounds you’ve been trying to sweat off at the gym? There’s a good chance that your guy loves them, too. Just ask 26-year-old Nick: “My girlfriend exercises regularly, but I think the little pudginess in her thighs is sexy because it shows she’s not perfect.” Sure, your extra padding may make men feel a little better about their own couch potato bellies, but there’s also a biological reason why men like this. Psychologists at the University of Texas determined that men were most attracted to women with hourglass figures — regardless of their weight. They theorize that men unconsciously seek this body type because it signals that a woman is able to procreate.

5. He’s fascinated by your knowledge of the things you’re passionate about.
A man becomes fascinated by whatever it is that gets you all hot and bothered — regardless of whether or not he shares the same interests. “It’s not about knowing facts — it’s about being passionate about something,” says Mira Kirshenbaum, author of The Weekend Marriage. “These are things that are important to her, not just stuff meant to impress a guy.” This can be passion for a subject as seemingly obscure as agricultural practices of the Mayans or as popular as Spanish as a second language. He may not quite get it and he may not want to have all-night discussions about it, but he definitely appreciates the fact that you’re a smart, interesting woman who thinks for herself and doesn’t mold her interests to match those of her partner. Your interests also fuel what Dr. Kerner calls the process of self-expansion. “The more you expand as a person,” he explains, “the more the relationship expands.”

6. He loves a good head rub from you.
Don’t get me wrong — men love it when you grope their erogenous zones. But that’s not the only type of touch they crave. Adam, 28, of Roanoke, VA, confesses: “I love how my wife rubs my head at night.” Sweet, yes, but it also feels oh-so-good: home to hundreds of nerve endings, the scalp is an often-neglected zone. And light touches anywhere can achieve a similar effect, since they cause his body to produce vasopressin, a feel-good relaxation hormone that also promotes bonding. Another positive side effect? Initiating any kind of physical contact sends your man the message that you want him just as much as he wants you — and that you truly care about him.

6 secret turn-ons for men
 
oooooo thanks! I love these things lol, now we'll have to sit and wait for the guys to chime in on how onpoint they are :D

1. check, I'm not a snacker, but when I sit down to eat...I EAT
2. check, I don't get ticked too often but when I do it's fast and furious, but over in an heartbeat, I find impossible to stay mad or to hold a grudge
3. check, I'm a slob, do all my cleaning except for the kitchen on my days off. I'm strictly a jeans/shorts tanktop/tshirt flip flops kinda girl. I own 2 skirts lol
4. okay houston we have a problem, I'm way lean
5. meh, I'm a bit of a devil advocate, but hopefully he won't get put off if I go off on a tangent about stuff I'm actually not supposed to talk about here lol
6. check, wait first which head are we talking about :naughty: I kid I kid....I'm a massage therapist I excel at rubbing, and love to rub...obviously

okay why don't have a man. Wait, I'm not divorced yet....I'll give myself a minute
 
Hmm... Ambrosia made some good points, Let me take a crack at this...

1) Sure, I will eat and imbibe in a few cocktails,
but I'm NOT going to pig out - period!
2) Let me put it to you this way- I'm pretty friendly for my own good sometimes, try something stupid, your night out becomes your nightmare! :D
3) Things can slip by on occasion, no big deal. If I notice a mountain of unaccounted used underwear, see tip #2! :thumbd:
4) I'm a health nut, not into that kind of thing, but I can still shake it baby! :naughty:
5) Oh geez, umm what can I say? If you want more swearing action, Just Add Alcohol. (Warning: Not so fast boys, this can backfire on you! ;) )
6) What woman doesn't? *psst* ~my car's dirty~ ;) ;) ;)

I think I let on too much! :laugh2:
 
2. He loves your occasional outbursts.
You may worry that it’s not ladylike, but occasionally letting a curse or rant escape your lips at an unexpected moment can be a major turn-on. “Hearing a woman use profanity out of context gives a guy a shock of adrenaline,” explains Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of Be Honest — You’re Not That Into Him Either and DSI: Date Scene Investigation. “Men like women who can be tough and assertive, and as long as she doesn’t take the talk too far, it’s a positive thing.”


I love that the best!! For example, I may be trying to sell a bike. Someone will ask me how much? I would say $100. Person ask for $75. I say no, I got an offer of $75, that I turned down. Yet person begs to buy the bike for $75 even though I said I turned it down.

I want woman to be mad at customer. Yes, I do!!!
 
#3...doesnt have to be a neat freak but if you leave your dirty clothes on the floor then there will be a big fuckin problem,absolutely.I just dont want to step on dirty clothes and live like a pig.
 
I definitely agree with those things on the list.

I've dated people in the past and most of them have "broken" some of those rules.

I've also seen women complain about their own "problems" thinking that men have different expectations. But when I try to tell them what men really want, they just say that I'm trying to be nice and then they leave me behind in the friend zone.

Well, I found my woman... and am happily married!
 
Who the furk comes up with these stupid lists... how can you catagorize what is a sexual turn on for half the world's population...
 
Who the furk comes up with these stupid lists...

I agree... there was an article on some site or other last night (possibly Cosmopolitan linked to from a news site) that said "if your man is all giddy like it's his first day at school, it might mean he's about to propose!"

So ladies will be sure he's about to pop the question, and not realize he's excited that Borderlands 2 comes out in just over two weeks.
 
I love being a girl, watching after my health is very important to me. I do splurge ONCE in awhile, like eating pizza! My guy loves my nails and toenails polished :) I love to smell nice, perfuming myself with light scents and enough to last me through the day. I love to wear make up and fix my hair, keeping myself groomed is important, there are days, I go with a ponytail and no make-up:shock: Hahaha

I LOVE Zumba! I am an instructor as well, I do care about health and educating others to maintain a good healthy well being lifestyle. My students are "golden" it's a bit of a challenge for me and learning from them. I like them to feel inspired and they inspire me. Being 60 and over and still feel sexy is my goal for them :)
 
Who the furk comes up with these stupid lists... how can you catagorize what is a sexual turn on for half the world's population...
It doesn't say that it's a list of sexual turn-ons for men. It just says "turn ons" for men... meaning it's things that makes a man more interested in a woman (not sexually). The only thing with "sex" in the list is when someone is being quoted... referring to his girlfriend having sexy thighs.
 
1. He loves that you indulge at dinnertime.

I like women who are willing to eat anything, but not stuff their faces.

2. He loves your occasional outbursts.

Depends on what she is bitchin' about. If it is a legitimate complaint, and she curses, that can be a turn on, however, if she is all bent out of shape because some other woman has a better pair of shoes, that is a turn-off.

3. He loves that you aren’t a neat freak.
Believe it or not, guys find the proliferation of hair products, accessories and unidentified stuff strewn about your apartment oddly endearing.

Not me, I have 2 ladies in the house that are disgusting slobs, and while I am not exactly a neat freak, I cannot stand piles of makeup, bottles, clothes, and other crap laying around. One messy area does not bother me, but when every fecking room has piles of stupid shit all over, my blood pressure goes up.

4. He loves your extra padding.

I love women with curves. Perfect example: the Jerseylicious show...all the ladies on that show are very sexy, although they are not exactly intelligent species.

5. He’s fascinated by your knowledge of the things you’re passionate about.

A smart woman can be a sexy turn-on, but that ends when she is a know-it-all.

6. He loves a good head rub from you.

Any kind of rub in any area is good. :naughty:
 
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