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14 Ways to Show Love for Your Child This Valentine's Day

The following are Valentine's Day tips from the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP). Please feel free to excerpt these tips or use them in their entirety for any print or broadcast story with appropriate attribution of source.

  • Use plenty of positive words with your child.
  • Respond promptly and lovingly to your child's physical and emotional needs and banish put-downs from your parenting vocabulary.
  • Make an extra effort to set a good example at home and in public. Use words like "I'm sorry," "please," and "thank you."
  • When your child is angry, argumentative or in a bad mood, give him a hug, cuddle, pat, secret sign or other gesture of affection he favors and talk with him about his feelings
  • Use non-violent forms of discipline. Parents should institute both rewards and restrictions many years before adolescence to help prevent trouble during the teenage years. Allowing children of any age to constantly break important rules without being disciplined only encourages more rule violations.
  • Make plans to spend time alone with your young child or teen doing something she enjoys.
  • Mark family game nights on your calendar so the entire family can be together. Put a different family member's name under each date, and have that person choose which game will be played that evening.
  • Owning a pet can make children, especially those with chronic illnesses and disabilities, feel better by stimulating physical activity, enhancing their overall attitude, and offering constant companionship.
  • One of the best ways to familiarize your child with good food choices is to encourage him to cook with you. Let him get involved in the entire process, from planning the menus to shopping for ingredients to the actual food preparation and its serving.
  • As your child grows up, she'll spend most of her time developing and refining a variety of skills and abilities in all areas of her life. You should help her as much as possible by encouraging her and providing the equipment and instruction she needs.
  • Your child's health depends significantly on the care and guidance you offer during his early years. By taking your child to the doctor regularly for consultations, keeping him safe from accidents, providing a nutritious diet, and encouraging exercise throughout childhood, you help protect and strengthen his body.
  • Help your child foster positive relationships with friends, siblings and members of the community.
  • One of your most important gifts as a parent is to help your child develop self-esteem. Your child needs your steady support and encouragement to discover his strengths. He needs you to believe in him as he learns to believe in himself. Loving him, spending time with him, listening to him and praising his accomplishments are all part of this process.
  • Don't forget to say, "I love you" to children of all ages!


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I agree with that 100 percent! :thumb: Thanks so much for posting this, More family would need that information on how to raise their children the right way, hopefully that's a lesson for them to learn if haven't yet learned. I always tell my boys I love them each day, in the mornings, when dropping them off at schools, when they arrive home after school, before they go to bed at nights. I don't want to regret anything that I might not have said those three words because never know when we all die, we cannot take back what we forgot to say, It's very important to be part of your child's life and make sure they lead their life in the right direction, if teaching early the more likely they're grow up and remember what you have taught them 'the important steps.' ;)
 
Aww you girls are very welcome :grouphug:


I like the idea of family game by marking your child's name on the calendar and if you have more children, put on a different day, and they get to choose what kind of game to play during the evenings, I think it's a great idea.....I know my children would love that very much since they do like playing family games once in a while....so I'm thinking of doing that by putting each of my child's name on a different and keep doing that every month.... :applause:
 
^Angel^ said:
I like the idea of family game by marking your child's name on the calendar and if you have more children, put on a different day, and they get to choose what kind of game to play during the evenings, I think it's a great idea.....I know my children would love that very much since they do like playing family games once in a while....so I'm thinking of doing that by putting each of my child's name on a different and keep doing that every month.... :applause:

Wow ! I'm so impressed with you Angel...
You seem like a very Good mother with a Good heart !
:applause:
 
Thanks for posting that Angel, especially the part about not hitting your kids. I remember my mom hitting us, slapping us, and pulling our hair, and all I focused on was fear of her, not the lesson she was supposedly trying to teach us. Because of that, I will not hit my daughter but talk to her instead, and I think she is such a sensitive person to other people's feelings because of it.

Something we have just started to do is make a star chart, where we list some things she can get stars for, like cleaning out the rats' cage every Saturday, or getting herself ready in the morning without being reminded a thousand times (she has ADHD), or having a good attitude about doing chores. Each star equals 25 cents, and she can use her stars to buy something she chooses. Well, 10% does go to her savings account, but the rest she can use as she wants. It has been very motivating.

If she misbehaves, we tell her she is in danger of losing a star, and boy does she straighten up!
 
Aww Thanks Y and Boom Boom....:grouphug:


Yeah RR had told me about doing the star chart for chores around the house such as cleaning their bedrooms, making their beds, picking things after themselves etc ....I haven't been able to do that lately, I should get myself started on buying a chart and star stickers to add on the days they did their chores around the house, also I would like to inculding on behaviors as well if they misbehave then they would not get a star, the more stars they gets each day the more money they will get on their allowance each month and whoever gets the less stars will get only less money so far we have been using a regular calendar for that but sometimes we do forget to mark their names on each days, so I like the idea that you and RR said about the star chart....I think it will help them improve by doing their chores that they're suppose to be doing, and earn as much money as they can when they get their allowance each month so they can be able to buy things that they wanted.....


Thanks for adding that Boom Boom :thumb:


And I'm really sorry about what your mom did to you :( ....
 
Thanks Angel, my mom and I made our peace a long time ago. I guess no one ever told her about star charts.
 
I'm very happy to hear that your mom and you made peace....and yeah I know what you mean, we didn't have that either a long time ago....


Once again, You're very much welcome ;)
 
Good thread, ^Angel^ :hug:... Every word is true... :ily:


BoomBoom said:
Thanks for posting that Angel, especially the part about not hitting your kids. I remember my mom hitting us, slapping us, and pulling our hair, and all I focused on was fear of her, not the lesson she was supposedly trying to teach us. Because of that, I will not hit my daughter but talk to her instead, and I think she is such a sensitive person to other people's feelings because of it.

Very true, it's same with my parents and step-dad, too... I'm sorry how you had through but it's great to know that you and your mother make up peace at long time ago. I forgive my parents, too.

Something we have just started to do is make a star chart, where we list some things she can get stars for, like cleaning out the rats' cage every Saturday, or getting herself ready in the morning without being reminded a thousand times (she has ADHD), or having a good attitude about doing chores. Each star equals 25 cents, and she can use her stars to buy something she chooses. Well, 10% does go to her savings account, but the rest she can use as she wants. It has been very motivating.

If she misbehaves, we tell her she is in danger of losing a star, and boy does she straighten up!

Here is link about pocket money. I thought those link would be interesting for you since I notice that you are newbie... :ily:
http://www.alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=8481&highlight=pocket+money


You have a good point about star chart... I will try it with my children because they have problem to tidy things up in their bedrooms especially my eldest son. *sigh*

They have month allowance (pocket money) from us but if they want more than normal pocket money then do help us with housework... Example, my sons helped us to carry woods from my yard back to build woods in garage (woods use for fireplaces)... I added more money to their pocket money for their help us with carry woods.
 
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