Hard of hearing folk

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So when I tell people I'm hard of hearing their response is usually along the lines of saying that I don't seem like I'm hard of hearing. Does this happen to anyone else? I just want to facepalm everytime. Like I'm hoh, not deaf. I can hear. Just not as well as you. Why is that so difficult to understand? Lol
 
Because it's not apparent. When people talk directly to us, we usually do ok, even with relying on lip reading. As soon as people talk to each other and there is background noise, I cannot follow the conversation. However, since the person then is busy with the conversation they don't notice that we are quiet or not hearing. And if someone does notice we are not following, they might assume we are not paying attention.
 
mild hoh here with auditory processing issues - a common and often-discussed issue....also, in my experience, people assume that you "got" everything because what I do sometimes is "fill in" what I think was said, or process/comprehend it after the speaker has already finished their sentence or topic, so if I respond, it appears as though I heard it the same way or at the same time, as the other party. Or that I heard -all- of it. None of which may be true.
 
dogmom said:
mild hoh here with auditory processing issues - a common and often-discussed issue....also, in my experience, people assume that you "got" everything because what I do sometimes is "fill in" what I think was said, or process/comprehend it after the speaker has already finished their sentence or topic, so if I respond, it appears as though I heard it the same way or at the same time, as the other party. Or that I heard -all- of it. None of which may be true.
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I can mostly hear a person but not be able to understand some words and misunderstand what been said . This happen with a DR. Jackass I went to . He asked me a question and I misunderstood him and gave him the wrong answer. The jackass said "If you don't answer my question I am walking out of the room! I never saw that __ again! What an idiot
that DR. was he knew I was HOH but with his over size ego he couldn't
use his brain !
 
:mad: that sucks, WDYS! I've had a few experiences like that with male doctors.
 
I sometimes have to have people repeat at work (I work at Chuck E Cheese. It's hella loud) and some people get unnecessarily annoyed.

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I had a doctor tell me I was lying about my hearing, or lack that of. The sad part was she had known me for 3 years and knew I signed at home...

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:lol: I had a doctor tell me I didn't know what an asthma attack was even though I've carried a rescue inhaler for 30 years and have been hospitalized several times for bad attacks and have even needed steroids.

Seems some doctors aren't as smart as they think they are.
 
fishycracker said:
So when I tell people I'm hard of hearing their response is usually along the lines of saying that I don't seem like I'm hard of hearing. Does this happen to anyone else? I just want to facepalm everytime. Like I'm hoh, not deaf. I can hear. Just not as well as you. Why is that so difficult to understand? Lol
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It's not meant as an insult but rather as a compliment. I get this a lot myself and I just take it as a positive.

Laura
 
I don't see it as a compliment, since that would be encouraging us to hide the fact that we don't hear well. Someone who doesn't manage to hide their hearing problems is NOT a worse person than someone who can. The person who tries to be open about not hearing is likely much more interested in getting the communication to work. If we cannot follow a conversation and people don't notice, it creates isolation and misunderstandings.
 
jonnyghost said:
:lol: I had a doctor tell me I didn't know what an asthma attack was even though I've carried a rescue inhaler for 30 years and have been hospitalized several times for bad attacks and have even needed steroids.

Seems some doctors aren't as smart as they think they are.
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I was at doctor office and I told him I didn't have a mammogram in a few years and was dues for one. The DR. looked that my medical record and said I had one 6 months ago! I told him I didn't and the Dr. said yes you did it right here and I told the DR. that I would remember if had my breasts flatten like pancakes ! The jackass looked at medical record again and said " This is NOT your test and it doesn't belong in here !"
The Dr. told someone that I was 'stupid ' and someone in his office can't even read ! If I did have a mammogram 6 months ago and that other woman had cancer and her test ended up in my medical record the jackass Dr. would thought I had cancer. I don't go to that jerk anymore!
 
I think the "oh you don't seem like you're hard of hearing" implies things about speech, and what a hard of hearing or deaf or whatever-term-person, "Seems like"......seems to be a reflection of audism....
 
fishycracker said:
So when I tell people I'm hard of hearing their response is usually along the lines of saying that I don't seem like I'm hard of hearing. Does this happen to anyone else? I just want to facepalm everytime. Like I'm hoh, not deaf. I can hear. Just not as well as you. Why is that so difficult to understand? Lol
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Lau2046 said:
It's not meant as an insult but rather as a compliment. I get this a lot myself and I just take it as a positive.

Laura
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Swedeafa said:
I don't see it as a compliment, since that would be encouraging us to hide the fact that we don't hear well. Someone who doesn't manage to hide their hearing problems is NOT a worse person than someone who can. The person who tries to be open about not hearing is likely much more interested in getting the communication to work. If we cannot follow a conversation and people don't notice, it creates isolation and misunderstandings.
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I don't take it as involving hiding the fact that we don't hear well but as a compliment that we are communicating well by whatever means we use.
 
If someone is trying to be kind I always take it at that. I may explain how that point of view makes if difficult for me but I don't see any need to get offended.
 
I don't see it as a compliment, mostly because I have never looked at it that way. But why not just point out the speech instead. Like oh well you speak every well, and I would have not noticed. I feel like saying I don't seem or 'look' hoh is kind of rude. Some time when people tell me I don't look hoh I reply with 'well you didn't look like a jackass, looks are deceiving.'

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jonnyghost said:
If someone is trying to be kind I always take it at that. I may explain how that point of view makes if difficult for me but I don't see any need to get offended.
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Oh, I would not get offended. I do realize they mean well, but it still does not count as a compliment.
 
Jane B. said:
I don't take it as involving hiding the fact that we don't hear well but as a compliment that we are communicating well by whatever means we use.
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I can understand why you say that, but there are two issues. Firstly, that someone does not notice any problems does not mean that the communication actually is working well. If a colleague sais that to me, they simply haven't noticed how much I am missing in group conversations and how hard I work to compensate. It would be much nicer to hear "I notice your hearing is not good at all, but the communication is working excellently anyway."

Secondly, if someone is using an interpreter or assistive devices, and this makes the communication work great. Are these people less good at communication just because it is obvious they don't have normal hearing?

I simply don't like getting a compliment for looking "normal".
 
fishycracker said:
So when I tell people I'm hard of hearing their response is usually along the lines of saying that I don't seem like I'm hard of hearing. Does this happen to anyone else? I just want to facepalm everytime. Like I'm hoh, not deaf. I can hear. Just not as well as you. Why is that so difficult to understand? Lol
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Yeah to me. Maybe They(hearing) might don't know the difference (HOH) but deafies know. They might think hoh still not deaf. Maybe U might don't wanna tell them that you r deaf or maybe u not make it easy for them understand the difference. They might see you can hear them and they might hear you talk normal without signing. You made them think you are not deaf. They might don't see u wearing hearing aids. they might think u just acting crazy that u can hear but u don't wanna to hear them. If U keep telling them u can hear, then they will generally think you're saying you can hear them. nothing wrong with ur ears. You said you are hoh. You're not deaf. <<<< that What make them (hearing) difficult understand what u mean.
 
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