I think it is possible to meet halfway, though.
Hearing people can not help they hear, and deaf people can not help they don't.
Since I happen to have migraine and noise is very strong trigger for me,
I can understand hearing people very well on their POV.
I can also understand deaf people for I make a lot of noise myself w/o realizing that.
I also know why being deaf is not necessarily an excuse not to learn how to be soft and quiet.
My hubby who is hearing is such an elephant in the china shop!
There is no teaching this man how to tiptoe or whisper or open the closet door gently
After over a quarter century together and of constant scolding and begging and reminding, this man is incorrigible!
He still tromps throughout a house like a buffalo while everyone else is sleeping, or bangs the pan on the stove while making his hash browns :/
So, the skill of being quiet is in the mind not in the ears.
I don't hear myself whisper, for example. I FEEL myself to whisper.
I simply learned how to do that by observing how does it feel to whisper
as opposed to talk normal.
I know in order to walk quietly I need to tiptoe.
I know in order to avoid making loud clatter,
I need to set down the articles slowly and softly.
It is simply the law of physic applied here- it's the air that escapes between the two surfaces that makes the sound. The greater the force, the faster the air escapes- the louder the sound.
Let the air move away slowly and it won't make a sound.
Then there are things that I can not overcome.
For example some floorboards creak in my home. Some I can feel, some I can not.
Can't hear when the microwave buzzer goes off. Also the stove's one.
Oh well. That's the half- way meet I am talking about
Fuzzy