FadedRose
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I figured the older I get the better I'd be able to...
be a social butterfly? I've found however that this isn't the case. I went through literal hell growing up Deaf. Being mocked, bullied for my speech issues. So much to the point that now as a 29 year old woman I do not have a single friend by choice. I do not think true friends exist. Sad I know but I'm getting tired of subjecting myself to this kind of lifestyle but everytime I become jubilant, social with those I've just met or even with those at work I will get shut down like I have in the past and as a result this brings back all the trauma I've experienced and I revert back to being a teenager and cry in the bathroom. It's silly for me as old as I am to be doing this. It's not my fault I am Deaf, it is not my fault that my speech is not understood sometimes by others and that I'm shunned because I'm Deaf by the hearing that are around me. I feel totally misunderstood. I may speak slow but my mind is sharp... argh!
I so want to communicate with those around me but everytime I decide to say hello to someone I just end up looking like a total goof ball, weirdo because I'm so shy as a result of how I was treated. I'm quite submissive and hate being this way but with family I'm the complete opposite. Typically, I have to work up the nerve to engage someone in a conversation and before I do so I will reherse what I'm going to say to the person before I say it. It's like a mini movie playing in my head and typically I'll see them laughing back at me although they are not. I try so hard to make myself clear, understood that I actually end up sounding the complete opposite because I try too hard and then they really think I'm stupid after total embarrassment I just saunter away and keep to myself the rest of the day or just chose not to speak at all to anyone.
It's very fusterating...and this happens more than I'd like. I'm not ashamed to be Deaf but the stigma attached to it-it's what hurts the most. Not having a voice, not being heard.
How to overcome the shyness and brush off the hearies that put me there to begin with? How do you deal?
the song "time" from inception...
that's what it feels like if that makes sense. The best way I can explain how it feels is through that song.:roll: ( I'm an artist-write music, poems..so art I identify with alot) If you haven't heard the song look it up on youtube.com.
anyone else with this problem too?
S.
be a social butterfly? I've found however that this isn't the case. I went through literal hell growing up Deaf. Being mocked, bullied for my speech issues. So much to the point that now as a 29 year old woman I do not have a single friend by choice. I do not think true friends exist. Sad I know but I'm getting tired of subjecting myself to this kind of lifestyle but everytime I become jubilant, social with those I've just met or even with those at work I will get shut down like I have in the past and as a result this brings back all the trauma I've experienced and I revert back to being a teenager and cry in the bathroom. It's silly for me as old as I am to be doing this. It's not my fault I am Deaf, it is not my fault that my speech is not understood sometimes by others and that I'm shunned because I'm Deaf by the hearing that are around me. I feel totally misunderstood. I may speak slow but my mind is sharp... argh!
I so want to communicate with those around me but everytime I decide to say hello to someone I just end up looking like a total goof ball, weirdo because I'm so shy as a result of how I was treated. I'm quite submissive and hate being this way but with family I'm the complete opposite. Typically, I have to work up the nerve to engage someone in a conversation and before I do so I will reherse what I'm going to say to the person before I say it. It's like a mini movie playing in my head and typically I'll see them laughing back at me although they are not. I try so hard to make myself clear, understood that I actually end up sounding the complete opposite because I try too hard and then they really think I'm stupid after total embarrassment I just saunter away and keep to myself the rest of the day or just chose not to speak at all to anyone.
It's very fusterating...and this happens more than I'd like. I'm not ashamed to be Deaf but the stigma attached to it-it's what hurts the most. Not having a voice, not being heard.
How to overcome the shyness and brush off the hearies that put me there to begin with? How do you deal?
the song "time" from inception...
that's what it feels like if that makes sense. The best way I can explain how it feels is through that song.:roll: ( I'm an artist-write music, poems..so art I identify with alot) If you haven't heard the song look it up on youtube.com.
anyone else with this problem too?
S.