Making the test with naive rats

I had dinner with my parents last night. We discussed.......AllDeaf! A few weeks ago I asked my dad about something in a thread here. It is a problem I never read about before . My dad is a orthopedic surgeon and some with the problem talk to surgeons, so I thought he knows about it. BIG mistake. He went nutty. I know this problem in the thread is unusal and first I thought "so odd!:" also. For a long time my dad did not understand that it is ONE thread on AD, from a hearing person I think also. So Mistake #1.

Mistake #2: I helped my parents access all of AD. They read about sex, about CI rants etc. Nutty again.

So last night we discuss AD. My parents are paranoid about the internet and my safety. I explain that I am safe (and not a moron) - I don't post pictures, give address, name, identity etc. or discuss sex or dating online. I like meeting people online, but I enough real life friends and dating and don't trust the internet. We discuss forever. Then my dad says "Just don't be naive".

From Mirriam-Webster: Naive

1: marked by unaffected simplicity : artless, ingenuous
2 a: deficient in worldly wisdom or informed judgment; especially : credulous
b: not previously subjected to experimentation or a particular experimental situation <made the test with naive rats>; also : not having previously used a particular drug (as marijuana)
c: not having been exposed previously to an antigen <naive T cells>
3 a: self-taught, primitive b: produced by or as if by a self-taught artist <naive murals>
synonyms see natural

Last week I broke up with my BF. No drama, no problem. I am happy with my decision. He is not. He wanted marriage and kids. When I said I am not in hurry to marry (I am 21!) he wrote "You are naive". (At least he helped me remember the spelling of "naive")

Related: I have a friend who whines and moans always. She is very funny and smart, but sees the worst with "half empty" glass. We talked and I was tired of the whine and said "A negative attitude makes everything look negative. If you think more about positive, life is easier". She said I am "unrealistic".

I know I am not "worldly". And also "not previously subjected to experimentation" or "not having been exposed previously to an antigen" . But thinking positive and having the open mind about other people's struggle is NOT naive I think.

I try think about other people's struggles and not judge without sympathy. I don't understand always some unusual problems, but who understands all? Is judging without sympathy more "worldly wisdom" or just not helpful? I am very close to my parents, but I don't tell them everything - I am a adult and need privacy. Also I am not perfect and don't need to show them.

Not wanting marriage is right for me. Marriage would not be "informed judgement" for me. And negative is easy - seeing positive in people who are unkind or in difficult situation is hard.

So "naive" seems a word to use with the person who disagrees with a negative thought. Saying "naive" seem like insult or control of the person who disagrees.

But I am naive maybe.