"Turn your Hearing Aid up!"

Presbyter · 02-01-2009, 06:54 AM

Is it nice for a boss to tell you to turn your hearing aid up in front of workers. The workers laughed of course. That's embarrassing. Perhaps a hearing dog would help.

Hear Again · 02-01-2009, 07:47 AM

no, i'ts not nice. infact, it's rude and uncalle d for. why the need fora hearng dog?

<cts boerhering me sorry for typos>?

**Pepsi** · 02-01-2009, 08:13 AM

No it is not nice, its very rude.

**shel90** · 02-01-2009, 08:14 AM

It is very degrading of your boss to do that and u can file a discrimination complaint against him.

Presbyter · 02-01-2009, 08:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Hear Again

no, i'ts not nice. infact, it's rude and uncalled for. why the need fora hearing dog?

Actually, I told that person, the next time I come, I'll bring my hearing dog so the dog will nudge me when I'm being called from a distance. He never heard of a hearing dog and asked me if I really had one or if there's such thing. No, I don't have one but I could get one if it's that important to respond to a call from a short distance. My directional hearing really works, eliminating sounds from behind and I like that setting. I was wondering if I could find a dog that will recognize, "Turn your hearing aid up" and have the dog to run to his office and rub his butt on his carpet.

Byrdie714 · 02-01-2009, 08:18 AM

Document what happend and file a complaint against your boss to his/her boss.

Presbyter · 02-01-2009, 08:19 AM

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Originally Posted by shel90

It is very degrading of your boss to do that and u can file a discrimination complaint against him.

Where in the ADA documents that states such rudeness might not be nice

**shel90** · 02-01-2009, 08:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Presbyter

Where in the ADA documents that states such rudeness might not be nice

Would have to look it up but I have heard of people filing complaints against employers or coworkers for discrimination remarks. U cant file a lawsuit but u can file a complaint. Your call.

Hear Again · 02-01-2009, 08:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Presbyter

Actually, I told that person, the next time I come, I'll bring my hearing dog so the dog will nudge me when I'm being called from a distance. He never heard of a hearing dog and asked me if I really had one or if there's such thing. No, I don't have one but I could get one if it's that important to respond to a call from a short distance. My directional hearing really works, eliminating sounds from behind and I like that setting. I was wondering if I could find a dog that will recognize, "Turn your hearing aid up" and have the dog to run to his office and rub his butt on his carpet.

idon't underatand what you maen by the bolded text/ could youe exsplain? thanks.

Hear Again · 02-01-2009, 08:30 AM

qurstions and answ ers about ada:

Americans with Disabilities Act Questions and Answers

Presbyter · 02-01-2009, 08:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Presbyter

... My directional hearing really works, eliminating sounds from behind and I like that setting....

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Originally Posted by Hear Again

don't understand what you mean by the bolded text/ could you explain? thanks.

It's a hearing aid with two microphones. The main one in the front and another one in the back. The one in the back are faced behind. If the microphone in the back picks up sound BEFORE it hits the front microphone, then the hearing aid will know that the sound is coming front behind. The hearing aid will try to reduce background sounds like noise. If the sound reaches the front before it reaches the back, then the aid will know it's coming from the front and will not filter it.

Hear Again · 02-01-2009, 08:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Presbyter

It's a hearing aid with two microphones. The main one in the front and another one in the back. The one in the back are faced behind. If the microphone in the back picks up sound BEFORE it hits the front microphone, then the hearing aid will know that the sound is coming front behind. The hearing aid will try to reduce background sounds like noise. If the sound reaches the front before it reaches the back, then the aid will know it's coming from the front and will not filter it.

oic.

for the epxlaination. smile.

pek1 · 02-01-2009, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Byrdie714

Document what happend and file a complaint against your boss to his/her boss.

By all means document, document, document! Day, date, time of day, other employees hearing it and then report it to the EEOE officer at the company. This person may also be the HR director.

Byrdie714 · 02-02-2009, 08:49 AM

Try to get it resolved with the company first before running to nearest lawyer's office.....

jillio · 02-02-2009, 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Byrdie714

Try to get it resolved with the company first before running to nearest lawyer's office.....

Yes, because this isn't really so much an ADA issue, as simply an issue of a rude and insensitive boss.

Hear Again · 02-02-2009, 10:01 AM

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Originally Posted by jillio

Yes, because this isn't really so much an ADA issue, as simply an issue of a rude and insensitive boss.

...not to mentn the fact that you cld end up losing you r job if you file an ada complant and sue. i'd try to reosolvethis issue by talking to the responsible parties first bfore doing anything els e.

Doug5 · 02-02-2009, 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Presbyter

Is it nice for a boss to tell you to turn your hearing aid up in front of workers. The workers laughed of course. That's embarrassing. Perhaps a hearing dog would help.

he sounds like a jerk. Make sure you save up an insult for him. Find out what he is self concios about and tease him.

OpheliaSpeaks · 02-03-2009, 08:50 AM

You could also let him know directly that it bothered you. How about playing it up as "if the wrong person overhears, your tone could be misconstrued as discriminatory and a complaint filed" That way you're not accusing him of anything, but stressing the inappropriateness of the comment. Most people don't realize how stupid they're being. I had a professor last semester who was incredibly inappropriate with my use of a FM system. She was constantly saying "Can you hear me?" (like a Verizon commercial!) and announced to the class on the first day that she needed to wear a "special microphone" for me! She announced my name to the class! I repeatedly told her to please stop and that I'd let her know if I needed help, but it got to be too much hassle. I reported her to the office of disabilities on campus and the director wasn't thrilled. I dropped the class and I'm using interpreters this semester - MUCH easier!

Doug5 · 02-03-2009, 10:56 AM

yeah, its a tough balance. You dont want to come off as thin skinned but at the same time you dont want the boss to undermine your position within the company. Like giving other employees the idea that its pointless to talk to you cuz youll never hear them anyway.

Then other employees might start to ignore you and work around you. Giving you a bad reputation and affecting your usefullness to the company. Ruling out any chance of moving up in the company. I bet it happens pretty often

At my last job, a couple of co-workers made fun of my deaf accent. I did not like it at all. To me its the equivalent of calling a black person the n-word.

purplecatty · 02-08-2009, 03:50 PM

Back then in 1980's, I used to work for Bonanza BBQ pit as a busboy. What pissed me off that manager tell me to turn up my hearing aid so I can hear him call me. I told him it doesn't work that way cuz turning up the volume would absorbs lot of background noise and drowns out his voice when I hear it. I refused to turn it up. He left me alone. Gladly the restaurant went out of biz in next couple months.

No family member, friends, or bosses should ever tell you to turn up your hearing aid! They got to understand that the consequence of turning up volume making it worst. Not everyone can pick up person calling their name in midist of background noise.

With my CI, I can now tell the difference between background noise and person calling my name while I had my CI switch to Auto-Sensitivity. I had co worker calling my name by surprise and I turned around and he was just testing me if I can hear him. I told him I hear you!

BUT not to my co worker who had exact same CI like I have and I called him loud and clear "Paaat Paaat Paat!!" when he walked by my machine just few feet away, he kept walking like it never happen. I asked him if he heard me calling out his name when he walked by my machine. He said can't tell difference between background noise and his name called.

In fact it depends on individual with hearing loss. Some are lucky that they can turn up HA or CI to hear better while others don't.

Don't let anyone tell you to turn up volume on your HA or CI. Just decline!!

Catty

Presbyter · 02-08-2009, 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by purplecatty

. . . They got to understand that the consequence of turning up volume making it worst. . . .

I saved myself time and trouble by telling him, "I can't turn it up. It's turned up all the way". They walk away with embarrassment like they wished they never said it. Just look at them in the eyes and say, " It's turned all the way up, whats next?

purplecatty · 02-08-2009, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Presbyter

I saved myself time and trouble by telling him, "I can't turn it up. It's turned up all the way". They walk away with embarrassment like they wished they never said it. Just look at them in the eyes and say, " It's turned all the way up, whats next?

Presbyter · 02-08-2009, 04:31 PM

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Originally Posted by purplecatty

I don't get upset over things I can control, because if I can control them there's no sense in getting upset. And I don't get upset over things I can't control, because if I can't control them there's no sense in getting upset.

Byrdie714 · 02-08-2009, 04:38 PM

When a person says this to me--I will fly off the handle and tell them what I think of them. And if no apology is forthcoming--I wouldn't hesistate to smack them beside the head.

I don't care if it's a boss or not.

It's just like going to the doctor's office and he is telling you to lose weight when he himself is 100 pounds over weight!

***VamPyroX*** · 02-08-2009, 04:43 PM

Why use a hearing dog?

Nothing wrong with tapping your shoulders.

What about interpreters? Don't you have an interpreter for your meetings?

purplecatty · 02-08-2009, 04:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Presbyter

I don't get upset over things I can control, because if I can control them there's no sense in getting upset. And I don't get upset over things I can't control, because if I can't control them there's no sense in getting upset.

I'm not saying 'blah blah' on u, I was talking abt ur boss 'blah blah' on u to turn up ur volume. . Sorry if I put emoticon looking like it. Peace
Catty

NEWIDME · 02-09-2009, 02:03 PM

I think I might have said this in some other thread but I will say it here. What helps me when someone says that - - if they will shut up and listen to me, I ask them if they remember the adults talking in the charlie brown show's and they say, oh, yeh, I remember that. And then I say, do you think if you turned up the tv that you would suddenly understand what they were saying? Usually I dont' get any more trouble after that.

Presbyter · 02-14-2009, 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted by purplecatty

I'm not saying 'blah blah' on u, I was talking abt ur boss 'blah blah' on u to turn up ur volume. . Sorry if I put emoticon looking like it. Peace
Catty

Good idea!!! Next Time I'll go Blah blahblah.. I might get asked to stay overtime. Thats the problem. The bosses have so much ego power over you in small ways that can't be seen.

purplecatty · 02-18-2009, 04:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Presbyter

Good idea!!! Next Time I'll go Blah blahblah.. I might get asked to stay overtime. Thats the problem. The bosses have so much ego power over you in small ways that can't be seen.

:rofl2:

It is very true that Bosses have so much ego power over employees (As proud as Peacock fluttering on his chest!!!). Bet he'll pay you OT for

I managed to smash my supervisor's ego by telly to my boss what he did to me and what he won't let me. After I spoke with my Boss, I went happily gaily

walking out of his Boss's office while my Boss radioed his "Underlings" to shut up and let him have it!! Supervisor frowned at me and was

It was kinda mean tho but this'll teach supervisor don't mess with me!! (Cuz I was a former assistant supervisor and my boss know me well enuf tho)

Catty

pek1 · 04-14-2009, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Byrdie714

When a person says this to me--I will fly off the handle and tell them what I think of them. And if no apology is forthcoming--I wouldn't hesistate to smack them beside the head.

I don't care if it's a boss or not.

It's just like going to the doctor's office and he is telling you to lose weight when he himself is 100 pounds over weight!

No wonder people think all deaf people are angry and mad all the time! You will "fly off the handle and tell them what I think . . . " And you're how old???

I wear hearing aids and I don't do that. However, if you did that to me and then "smacked me beside the head," I'd have your job in minutes and you'd be joining the traffic heading to the unemployment office, possibly wearing handcuffs, too, with an assault charge to boot.

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02-01-2009, 07:47 AM	#2 (permalink)
Hear Again Registered User Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 20,122 Blog Entries: 6	no, i'ts not nice. infact, it's rude and uncalle d for. why the need fora hearng dog? <cts boerhering me sorry for typos>?

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Pepsi Premium Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,370	No it is not nice, its very rude.

02-01-2009, 08:18 AM	#6 (permalink)
Byrdie714 Banned Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 8,941	Document what happend and file a complaint against your boss to his/her boss.

02-01-2009, 08:30 AM	#10 (permalink)
Hear Again Registered User Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 20,122 Blog Entries: 6	qurstions and answ ers about ada: Americans with Disabilities Act Questions and Answers

02-02-2009, 08:49 AM	#14 (permalink)
Byrdie714 Banned Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 8,941	Try to get it resolved with the company first before running to nearest lawyer's office.....

02-03-2009, 08:50 AM	#18 (permalink)
OpheliaSpeaks Registered User Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Buffalo Posts: 254	You could also let him know directly that it bothered you. How about playing it up as "if the wrong person overhears, your tone could be misconstrued as discriminatory and a complaint filed" That way you're not accusing him of anything, but stressing the inappropriateness of the comment. Most people don't realize how stupid they're being. I had a professor last semester who was incredibly inappropriate with my use of a FM system. She was constantly saying "Can you hear me?" (like a Verizon commercial!) and announced to the class on the first day that she needed to wear a "special microphone" for me! She announced my name to the class! I repeatedly told her to please stop and that I'd let her know if I needed help, but it got to be too much hassle. I reported her to the office of disabilities on campus and the director wasn't thrilled. I dropped the class and I'm using interpreters this semester - MUCH easier!

02-03-2009, 10:56 AM	#19 (permalink)
Doug5 Registered User Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 865	yeah, its a tough balance. You dont want to come off as thin skinned but at the same time you dont want the boss to undermine your position within the company. Like giving other employees the idea that its pointless to talk to you cuz youll never hear them anyway. Then other employees might start to ignore you and work around you. Giving you a bad reputation and affecting your usefullness to the company. Ruling out any chance of moving up in the company. I bet it happens pretty often At my last job, a couple of co-workers made fun of my deaf accent. I did not like it at all. To me its the equivalent of calling a black person the n-word.

02-08-2009, 03:50 PM	#20 (permalink)
purplecatty Registered User Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Center of the USA Posts: 3,609	Back then in 1980's, I used to work for Bonanza BBQ pit as a busboy. What pissed me off that manager tell me to turn up my hearing aid so I can hear him call me. I told him it doesn't work that way cuz turning up the volume would absorbs lot of background noise and drowns out his voice when I hear it. I refused to turn it up. He left me alone. Gladly the restaurant went out of biz in next couple months. No family member, friends, or bosses should ever tell you to turn up your hearing aid! They got to understand that the consequence of turning up volume making it worst. Not everyone can pick up person calling their name in midist of background noise. With my CI, I can now tell the difference between background noise and person calling my name while I had my CI switch to Auto-Sensitivity. I had co worker calling my name by surprise and I turned around and he was just testing me if I can hear him. I told him I hear you! BUT not to my co worker who had exact same CI like I have and I called him loud and clear "Paaat Paaat Paat!!" when he walked by my machine just few feet away, he kept walking like it never happen. I asked him if he heard me calling out his name when he walked by my machine. He said can't tell difference between background noise and his name called. In fact it depends on individual with hearing loss. Some are lucky that they can turn up HA or CI to hear better while others don't. Don't let anyone tell you to turn up volume on your HA or CI. Just decline!! Catty

02-08-2009, 04:38 PM	#24 (permalink)
Byrdie714 Banned Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 8,941	When a person says this to me--I will fly off the handle and tell them what I think of them. And if no apology is forthcoming--I wouldn't hesistate to smack them beside the head. I don't care if it's a boss or not. It's just like going to the doctor's office and he is telling you to lose weight when he himself is 100 pounds over weight!

02-09-2009, 02:03 PM	#27 (permalink)
NEWIDME Registered User Join Date: May 2008 Location: Detroit Posts: 481	I think I might have said this in some other thread but I will say it here. What helps me when someone says that - - if they will shut up and listen to me, I ask them if they remember the adults talking in the charlie brown show's and they say, oh, yeh, I remember that. And then I say, do you think if you turned up the tv that you would suddenly understand what they were saying? Usually I dont' get any more trouble after that.