How to protect my banking privacy from parents? - Page 2

jillio · 10-03-2007, 11:11 AM

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Originally Posted by deafskeptic

Indeed. I would have been happy to tell them. Now I'm not so sure I'd want them to know after what happened.

I'm a she btw.

Ooops, my bad!

Liebling:-))) · 10-03-2007, 11:13 AM

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Originally Posted by LuciaDisturbed

Remove your parents' names from your account so that they no longer have access to your banking information, or better yet, get a brand new banking account and transfer all your money to the new bank account.

That´s an exactly what I questioned her in my first post about parental/guardian in Bank.

It look like that her parents are still her guardian in Bank? Their guardian need to be removed... Apply Bank.

jillio · 10-03-2007, 11:14 AM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Oh whew! I always thought u were a she all this time until I saw this post and I thought, "Damn, I assumed the wrong gender of an AD member again!!!"

Hope u get everything resolved with your parents soon!

Nope, you were right and I was wrong!

So much for those that accuse me of not admitting my mistakes!

Liebling:-))) · 10-03-2007, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by deafskeptic

I'm told it was a fluke and I'm told they gave one of my parents my balance by mistake when one of them asked for the balance of their account; my parent wanted to make a deposit into my account - that part is fine however they should not know how much I have in it..

However, when I get my check I am opening a new account.

It sound skeptical to me. It look like that they are allow to check your account ?

They should talk to you about deposit, etc.

Apply Bank to remove your parent as your guardian at Bank and let them know that you are responsible with your money alone, not your parents.

Liebling:-))) · 10-03-2007, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by sara1981

Same my mom did that!

And my mom called bank! and im really pissed off for sakes and i told my mom please leave my money alone! and dont touch my own money but im really need my private money but im sure banks have policy for sakes but i dont know!

I told my mom i dont wanted together banks! but i would like separation banks from my mom's banks because my mom will looks my mails,and lots of mores that so NOSYS! but i wanted my privates personal mails they i wont wanted my mom touch my mail that it!

Apply your Bank to remove your parents as your guardian.

I am sorry that way how you are being treat like that by your parents. Have you thought about move out from your parent´s house to have your own privacy?

deafskeptic · 10-03-2007, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Liebling:-)))

It sound skeptical to me. It look like that they are allow to check your account ?

They should talk to you about deposit, etc.

Apply Bank to remove your parent as your guardian at Bank and let them know that you are responsible with your money alone, not your parents.

They should not be allowed to check my account and the bank is not supposed to tell them or any one else but me anything about how much I have in my account. The bank betrayed my trust.

They are not my guardians and no one but me should have information regarding my account. They were never guardians of my account. The last thing I'd want is for anyone else to be guardian of my account. If I ever should marry, I'd not want a joint account for this reason. I do not want anyone else controlling my account. period.

jag · 10-03-2007, 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by deafskeptic

They should not be allowed to check my account and the bank is not supposed to tell them or any one else but me anything about how much I have in my account. The bank betrayed my trust.

They are not my guardians and no one but me should have information regarding my account. They were never guardians of my account. The last thing I'd want is for anyone else to be guardian of my account. If I ever should marry, I'd not want a joint account for this reason. I do not want anyone else controlling my account. period.

Do you and your parent share the same name? My SIL has the same name as his dad, except for the middle initial so has gotten his fathers bills etc. If your names are similar it really could have been an error on the part of the teller who was helping your parents. Just a thought.

Pacman · 10-03-2007, 08:31 PM

I have same feeling about it.

I had done to changed my account and password, removed parent's support since last year, now, nothing to snoop in my account.

Just better to use in https instead of http, https is based on security.

jillio · 10-03-2007, 09:56 PM

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Originally Posted by jag

Do you and your parent share the same name? My SIL has the same name as his dad, except for the middle initial so has gotten his fathers bills etc. If your names are similar it really could have been an error on the part of the teller who was helping your parents. Just a thought.

No error. They specifically requested her bank balance.

jillio · 10-03-2007, 09:59 PM

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Originally Posted by deafskeptic

They should not be allowed to check my account and the bank is not supposed to tell them or any one else but me anything about how much I have in my account. The bank betrayed my trust.

They are not my guardians and no one but me should have information regarding my account. They were never guardians of my account. The last thing I'd want is for anyone else to be guardian of my account. If I ever should marry, I'd not want a joint account for this reason. I do not want anyone else controlling my account. period.

I agree. The bank has a legal obligation to protect your privacy, and failure to do so is a breach of trust. However, your parents have a moral obligation to respect your privacy, and failure to do so results in ill will and bad feelings on the part of the betrayed. And in my book, a moral obligation broken does the most harm to the individual.

pek1 · 10-04-2007, 11:55 PM

Okay, everyone weighed in except me. I used to work as a collections agent, as well as for a collection agency, outsourced to the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota. First of all, deafskeptic, suppose you called me regarding your account (I'll get to the bank part in a moment). I will need your account number or other number associated with your account. Then verify your address, phone number, DOB, SSN. Then I can talk to you. If either of your parents called me or I called to speak with you and they ask questions, I CANNOT tell them what the call is in reference to. I can get personally sued for that. When I was at Mayo, I can only speak to the Guarantor (the person paying the bill) or the patient. One time, a man called, gave me the account number, didn't verify anything (he wouldn't) and asked if Medicare paid. I told him nothing. I told him I have no idea whom I am speaking with and will not give that information out. He hung up.

Same with a bank. My bank will not, cannot, under any circumstances, tell anyone about my account. If I had trouble getting access to my account online and the sign in doesn't work, I get an email telling me an attempt was made at whatever the possible infraction was.

Last week, I had trouble that I went straight to the police with, as it was a bogus cashier's check to me to buy my trumpet (haven't played it in years, forgot how) and was selling it. I still have it, but the check is with the bank and all email and correspondences with the perp are with the police. My bank closed my account and I had almost hell to get it reopened, but under a different number, the whole nine yards.

Long story short: If anyone tries to get into your account, your bank has to notify you. They are not to release information about your account for any reason to anyone. I'd close my bank account (s) and go to another bank or credit union . . . pronto! Good luck, dear.

Oh, by the way, since jillio and shel were so bad to assume deafskeptic was a male,

may you both be forced to bake a hundred chocolate chip cookies by scratch this weekend!

Liebling:-))) · 10-05-2007, 06:55 AM

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Originally Posted by deafskeptic

They should not be allowed to check my account and the bank is not supposed to tell them or any one else but me anything about how much I have in my account. The bank betrayed my trust.

They are not my guardians and no one but me should have information regarding my account. They were never guardians of my account. The last thing I'd want is for anyone else to be guardian of my account. If I ever should marry, I'd not want a joint account for this reason. I do not want anyone else controlling my account. period.

As what you said that your parents are not your guardians then your bank violated your privacy and trust.

jillio · 10-05-2007, 05:10 PM

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Originally Posted by pek1

Okay, everyone weighed in except me. I used to work as a collections agent, as well as for a collection agency, outsourced to the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota. First of all, deafskeptic, suppose you called me regarding your account (I'll get to the bank part in a moment). I will need your account number or other number associated with your account. Then verify your address, phone number, DOB, SSN. Then I can talk to you. If either of your parents called me or I called to speak with you and they ask questions, I CANNOT tell them what the call is in reference to. I can get personally sued for that. When I was at Mayo, I can only speak to the Guarantor (the person paying the bill) or the patient. One time, a man called, gave me the account number, didn't verify anything (he wouldn't) and asked if Medicare paid. I told him nothing. I told him I have no idea whom I am speaking with and will not give that information out. He hung up.

Same with a bank. My bank will not, cannot, under any circumstances, tell anyone about my account. If I had trouble getting access to my account online and the sign in doesn't work, I get an email telling me an attempt was made at whatever the possible infraction was.

Last week, I had trouble that I went straight to the police with, as it was a bogus cashier's check to me to buy my trumpet (haven't played it in years, forgot how) and was selling it. I still have it, but the check is with the bank and all email and correspondences with the perp are with the police. My bank closed my account and I had almost hell to get it reopened, but under a different number, the whole nine yards.

Long story short: If anyone tries to get into your account, your bank has to notify you. They are not to release information about your account for any reason to anyone. I'd close my bank account (s) and go to another bank or credit union . . . pronto! Good luck, dear.

Oh, by the way, since jillio and shel were so bad to assume deafskeptic was a male,

may you both be forced to bake a hundred chocolate chip cookies by scratch this weekend!

That ain't gonna happen. I'll have to complete my punishment another way!

deafskeptic · 10-05-2007, 06:20 PM

Aw... I just love tollhouse chocolate chip cookies.

mmm. I don't suppose you'd get me ben and jerry raw chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream?

jillio · 10-06-2007, 11:21 AM

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Originally Posted by deafskeptic

Aw... I just love tollhouse chocolate chip cookies.

mmm. I don't suppose you'd get me ben and jerry raw chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream?

Oh, wow...that stuff is awesome! Here....wanna bite?

fredfam1 · 10-07-2007, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by shel90

Oh whew! I always thought u were a she all this time until I saw this post and I thought, "Damn, I assumed the wrong gender of an AD member again!!!"

Hope u get everything resolved with your parents soon!

I assumed I was the only one doing that. I thought jillio was a male
at first until something I read in one post

deafskeptic · 10-07-2007, 03:29 PM

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Originally Posted by jillio

Oh, wow...that stuff is awesome! Here....wanna bite?

Ha, ha. My doctor is gonna hate that but hey... I'll bite.

jillio · 10-07-2007, 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by deafskeptic

Ha, ha. My doctor is gonna hate that but hey... I'll bite.

Too late....I ate it all!

jillio · 10-07-2007, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by fredfam1

I assumed I was the only one doing that. I thought jillio was a male
at first until something I read in one post

Does that mean I get chocolate chip cookies, too?

fredfam1 · 10-07-2007, 05:00 PM

Only if you like gluten free ones. Our whole family is alergic to gluten

deafskeptic · 10-07-2007, 06:18 PM

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Originally Posted by jillio

Too late....I ate it all!

DIE!

jillio · 10-08-2007, 11:15 PM

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Originally Posted by deafskeptic

DIE!

fredfam1 · 10-09-2007, 02:03 AM

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Originally Posted by jillio

Agreement. People who would eat ALL the cookies
and the brag! Well they should be hung upside
down with wet nooldes and the pummeled into
unconsciousness with an organic carrot. A
bodacious punishment for a most heinous crime!

jillio · 10-10-2007, 12:07 AM

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Originally Posted by fredfam1

Agreement. People who would eat ALL the cookies
and the brag! Well they should be hung upside
down with wet nooldes and the pummeled into
unconsciousness with an organic carrot. A
bodacious punishment for a most heinous crime!

I didn't eat all the cookies.......I ate all the cookie dough ice cream. I tried to wait on deafsceptic, but it was starting to melt!

vwbug19 · 05-10-2008, 12:38 AM

ok if you just close account or change accout but that will not work , just simply threaten the bank with whole account withrawl and moving it to another bank and tell them "t

10-03-2007, 08:31 PM	#38 (permalink)
Pacman dunno dunno Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 12,176	I have same feeling about it. I had done to changed my account and password, removed parent's support since last year, now, nothing to snoop in my account. Just better to use in https instead of http, https is based on security. __________________ Oh damn, don't mess with me

10-04-2007, 11:55 PM	#41 (permalink)
pek1 Professional Writer. Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Minnesota. Posts: 3,245	Okay, everyone weighed in except me. I used to work as a collections agent, as well as for a collection agency, outsourced to the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota. First of all, deafskeptic, suppose you called me regarding your account (I'll get to the bank part in a moment). I will need your account number or other number associated with your account. Then verify your address, phone number, DOB, SSN. Then I can talk to you. If either of your parents called me or I called to speak with you and they ask questions, I CANNOT tell them what the call is in reference to. I can get personally sued for that. When I was at Mayo, I can only speak to the Guarantor (the person paying the bill) or the patient. One time, a man called, gave me the account number, didn't verify anything (he wouldn't) and asked if Medicare paid. I told him nothing. I told him I have no idea whom I am speaking with and will not give that information out. He hung up. Same with a bank. My bank will not, cannot, under any circumstances, tell anyone about my account. If I had trouble getting access to my account online and the sign in doesn't work, I get an email telling me an attempt was made at whatever the possible infraction was. Last week, I had trouble that I went straight to the police with, as it was a bogus cashier's check to me to buy my trumpet (haven't played it in years, forgot how) and was selling it. I still have it, but the check is with the bank and all email and correspondences with the perp are with the police. My bank closed my account and I had almost hell to get it reopened, but under a different number, the whole nine yards. Long story short: If anyone tries to get into your account, your bank has to notify you. They are not to release information about your account for any reason to anyone. I'd close my bank account (s) and go to another bank or credit union . . . pronto! Good luck, dear. Oh, by the way, since jillio and shel were so bad to assume deafskeptic was a male, may you both be forced to bake a hundred chocolate chip cookies by scratch this weekend! __________________ Pete

10-05-2007, 06:20 PM	#44 (permalink)
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10-07-2007, 05:00 PM	#50 (permalink)
fredfam1 Cathe Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Oregon Posts: 765	Only if you like gluten free ones. Our whole family is alergic to gluten

05-10-2008, 12:38 AM	#55 (permalink)
vwbug19 Registered User Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 5	ok if you just close account or change accout but that will not work , just simply threaten the bank with whole account withrawl and moving it to another bank and tell them "t