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Oddball · 06-06-2008, 11:34 AM

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Whoa wait a minute. I dislike the way you vent off to a victim of Domestic Violence. It is not her fault because she is unaware of her bf's violent tendencies. How dare you tell her that it is her own fault? She is so confused about her bf and other guy, for god's sakes. Once she is healed and will learn her lesson by not repeating history herself. She will need to be more careful for her own safety sake.

What do you mean she is unaware of her bf's violent tendency's? She had her ribs broken/fractured back in February. It's nobody's fault but their own when they CONTINUE to subject themselves to the presence of their abuser. I kinda understand staying for the sake of marriage or the sake of the kids, but a boyfriend? And she has repeated HISTORY. The lesson she needs to learn is no body deserves to have themselves shoved no matter what.
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It does not matter. Anyone beats up anyone else at anywhere. It could be a cousin, teacher, boyfriend, pastor, stranger, homeless person, married man, lesbian, or gay. It could be ANYONE.

Do you still think it is victim's fault to let it happen? I am sorry that I totally disgaree with your statement.

Some of victims have no places to go, remain to be stuck with abusers. I emphasis on the word of SOME. Some other victims of DV are brave enough to leave their abusers, but it is not easy for them. They work hard to make their efforts of leaving their abusers. Some are successful. Unfortunately, some are not that successful (ex. dead, end up in hospital, etc). Look at Chris Lambert and Tallie situation, for example. Was Tallie's fault to cover up for Chris's violent tendencies? No because she was not aware of being a victim of DV until too late. If Freckles is smart enough to repeat history after she went to hospital, then she is going to leave her abusive bf.

Please do not preach Freckles about God. All she needs from us is provide her positive support and guide. She may be new to DV experience. It gives her time to think about it.

FYI, I am a victim of DV as well.

06-06-2008, 11:34 AM	#38 (permalink)
Oddball Wacky Oddball Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Cleveland native now lives in New Jersey. Posts: 3,186	[quote=NEWIDME;998766] Whoa wait a minute. I dislike the way you vent off to a victim of Domestic Violence. It is not her fault because she is unaware of her bf's violent tendencies. How dare you tell her that it is her own fault? She is so confused about her bf and other guy, for god's sakes. Once she is healed and will learn her lesson by not repeating history herself. She will need to be more careful for her own safety sake. What do you mean she is unaware of her bf's violent tendency's? She had her ribs broken/fractured back in February. It's nobody's fault but their own when they CONTINUE to subject themselves to the presence of their abuser. I kinda understand staying for the sake of marriage or the sake of the kids, but a boyfriend? And she has repeated HISTORY. The lesson she needs to learn is no body deserves to have themselves shoved no matter what. [quote] It does not matter. Anyone beats up anyone else at anywhere. It could be a cousin, teacher, boyfriend, pastor, stranger, homeless person, married man, lesbian, or gay. It could be ANYONE. Do you still think it is victim's fault to let it happen? I am sorry that I totally disgaree with your statement. Some of victims have no places to go, remain to be stuck with abusers. I emphasis on the word of SOME. Some other victims of DV are brave enough to leave their abusers, but it is not easy for them. They work hard to make their efforts of leaving their abusers. Some are successful. Unfortunately, some are not that successful (ex. dead, end up in hospital, etc). Look at Chris Lambert and Tallie situation, for example. Was Tallie's fault to cover up for Chris's violent tendencies? No because she was not aware of being a victim of DV until too late. If Freckles is smart enough to repeat history after she went to hospital, then she is going to leave her abusive bf. Please do not preach Freckles about God. All she needs from us is provide her positive support and guide. She may be new to DV experience. It gives her time to think about it. FYI, I am a victim of DV as well.