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NEWIDME · 06-05-2008, 12:24 PM

If you went to the ER, what did you say to the dr when he asked you how you hurt your rib? By law, DR needs to ask that.

As far as abuse. I was there and I got out so I have a hard time understanding what keeps you with your bf. My abuse came from my husband. It was every 6 months and it got worse each time. The final time, I thought he was going to kill me. The police got involved because I had my neighbor call 911. For the first time I feared for my life. This was the 3rd time police involved so I had records and got my divorce in 6 mths which is very rare here in michigan where there are kids involved.

Anyway, when that fighting happened in front of my son, that's when I knew in my heart of hearts that this needs to stop.

Now, you may not like what I have to say but I am going to say it and it might take you a couple of visits to this post to fully understand.

You being abused, that IS your fault in that you allow yourself to be in the presence of an asshole who DOES NOT have your best interests in mind. The asshole will NEVER have your best interests in mind. The guy helping you? Well in your previous post you said you had to say no to him. No to what?

You can shut me out but I will say one more thing. I am so not a 'holy roller' or 'bible thumper' nor am I without my own problems/challenges. BUT I found God after the divorce, house fire, and bankruptcy. I am not sure what is going to happen in my future. But if I honor God and do the best I can, I know that he will take care of the rest. I ask myself anytime I am unsure of what to do what God would want for me. God loves me. He will never stop. He will never abuse me. He will not WANT me to be abused. He is my father and he will let me be abused if that is what I want. But that is never what God wants. God will help you if you let him. In this case, I wouldn't even think about the future and what will happen. I would simply leave - - you'd be surprised like I was - - God will handle the rest even if you don't believe in him. Higher power is another way to look at it - - your higher power will take care of the rest, just leave. You are so lucky that you can just leave - - no kids, no marriage. It's so simple. You are setting yourself up for a real hard life if you stay. Seriously, when you are old and you look back on your life - - what are you gonna see? You please an Asshole over YOU???? You only live once and you can not go back and do a replay of your life. You need to leave and you need to let your friend that is helping you know that God comes first. God needs to help you, not that guy.

Ok, I am done venting. Please don't hate me.

06-05-2008, 12:24 PM	#34 (permalink)
NEWIDME Registered User Join Date: May 2008 Location: Detroit Posts: 447	If you went to the ER, what did you say to the dr when he asked you how you hurt your rib? By law, DR needs to ask that. As far as abuse. I was there and I got out so I have a hard time understanding what keeps you with your bf. My abuse came from my husband. It was every 6 months and it got worse each time. The final time, I thought he was going to kill me. The police got involved because I had my neighbor call 911. For the first time I feared for my life. This was the 3rd time police involved so I had records and got my divorce in 6 mths which is very rare here in michigan where there are kids involved. Anyway, when that fighting happened in front of my son, that's when I knew in my heart of hearts that this needs to stop. Now, you may not like what I have to say but I am going to say it and it might take you a couple of visits to this post to fully understand. You being abused, that IS your fault in that you allow yourself to be in the presence of an asshole who DOES NOT have your best interests in mind. The asshole will NEVER have your best interests in mind. The guy helping you? Well in your previous post you said you had to say no to him. No to what? You can shut me out but I will say one more thing. I am so not a 'holy roller' or 'bible thumper' nor am I without my own problems/challenges. BUT I found God after the divorce, house fire, and bankruptcy. I am not sure what is going to happen in my future. But if I honor God and do the best I can, I know that he will take care of the rest. I ask myself anytime I am unsure of what to do what God would want for me. God loves me. He will never stop. He will never abuse me. He will not WANT me to be abused. He is my father and he will let me be abused if that is what I want. But that is never what God wants. God will help you if you let him. In this case, I wouldn't even think about the future and what will happen. I would simply leave - - you'd be surprised like I was - - God will handle the rest even if you don't believe in him. Higher power is another way to look at it - - your higher power will take care of the rest, just leave. You are so lucky that you can just leave - - no kids, no marriage. It's so simple. You are setting yourself up for a real hard life if you stay. Seriously, when you are old and you look back on your life - - what are you gonna see? You please an Asshole over YOU???? You only live once and you can not go back and do a replay of your life. You need to leave and you need to let your friend that is helping you know that God comes first. God needs to help you, not that guy. Ok, I am done venting. Please don't hate me.