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Liebling:-))) · 05-05-2008, 02:28 AM

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Originally Posted by deafdyke

I'm sorry, but that would like be forgiving Hitler or Stalin or Pol Pot.

Take an example of many Jews who live here in Germany. They forgave Hilter and move on when they can't forget what and how they had been through during Nazi time.

I am not saying that they should forgive that monster or force them to forgive that monster but I know they would free from their bitter feeling when they accept the forgive and move on. Without forgive, they can't move on to start a new life. I heard that it work on some people to free from bitter feeling when they faced monster and then accept their forgiveness.

I personally can image it's very, very, very hard for them to forgive that monster but it would take them long time to accept the forgive and move on.

I personally had been through with that monster (step-dad) in the past. The therapies/counsellor taught me positive way... I accept and move on... I said to myself in positive way that I would forgive him and move on... I did it with no bitter/hate feeling for him.... but my memory of childhood scar with me sometimes.. until I saw him for a first time after years no see... My bitter feeling for him is gone - no hate feeling toward him anymore...but feel sorry for him... No bitter feeling anymore when I bringing his name up to this post here. He was uninvited to attend my sister's funeral at 2 years ago which he knew he was unwelcome but I guess the reason why he determined to attend her funeral becaus he want to tell her how much sorry he was how and what he did to us). I have no feeling for him when I saw him at my sister's funeral... Like what I say before that it works when you faced that monster and then get over...