Originally Posted by Gemma
I think the hardest part was educating about, dealing with and accepting the norms/values while dating a hearing man. It seemed like every one of the hearing man I was involved with seriously had qualms about the norms/values. For some reason, some of the norms turned him off and would judge other Deaf community members harshly.
I am not dating anyone seriously but there is a hearing man who has a huge crush on me told me the other day that he would take ASL class so that it could help us. While I was flattered by that, I dont know if he would really understand Deaf Culture. Sometimes I feel like slamming my door on all potential hearing mates as I dont want to go down the road again but then again there arent many single deaf men my age in where I live. Another long distance love? No way! But I dont want to end up like an old lady with 10 cats!
Kudos to these hearing men who really do have patience and empathy to make it work out with these ladies like Shel90 just mentioned...a rarity!
After my ex hubby and I split, I vowed never again to date another hearing guy so I dated many deaf guys during the 4 years I was single. I fell for some but they didnt feel the same way as I did and some fell for me but I didnt feel the same way as they did. Others were just more of casual and for fun. If those 3 deaf guys whom I fell hard for had felt the same way as I did, maybe I would be married to a deaf guy instead of my hearing husband but it wasnt meant to be. So, I ended with another hearing to my surprise! Life is full of surprises and we all never know what the future holds for us.