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Originally Posted by JennyB
My dad called me that night and told me he wanted me to see a surgeon and look into surgical options. At first I thought he meant investigating the possibility of a BAHA or CI and humored him and listened...but no he wants me to look into a surgical option that will physically fix my hearing so I no longer require assitive hearing devices at all [...] and even if there are I don't think I want to do it. My parents don't get that. They want me to "fix" myself, but I don't feel as though I am broken. To me...I am me. Being deaf is part of that. I don't think I want to be a hearing individual. Is that wrong of me? My parents feel as though I am being selfish for that choice. Ultamitly the decision is up to me...but do my parents have any argument here? Is this them in denile? Is this them being ashamed of me?
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I was in a similar boat not too long ago. Just stand your ground and refuse the surgery. I fought with my mom for months over that, and it was all worth it. My mom litterally told the ENT she wanted him to "fix" me. My loss isn't as severe as yours, but I still don't feel like I really belong in the hearing world. You're not being selfish, you're being true to yourself. It's taken my parents years to finally start accepting my hearing loss, and I hope that you resolve the conflict with your parents much sooner. Have you considered family therapy?
If you ever want to talk, feel free to contact me.
