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Originally Posted by Grummer
(yes I tend to agree than MOST people are audists, especially you can't make your freindship with them on the basis of who you are, rather than on the basis of them 'giving you a 'chance' ....... but also I believe that the problems of bullism is not immune from even in deaf schools, its more on just how crappy society is.
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I couldn't agree more. Hmm does anyone ever realize that, within this sort of social hierarchy that exists in public schools, the people willing to "give you a chance" are the "desperate" ones, i.e. (at the risk of insulting some people maybe), the loners. But I don't mean to suggest that these people aren't worthy of being your friends; it's just that, because of this whole social complication, befriending people at the bottom of the proverbial social latter even further distances you from making more friends. When people start to notice that you're friends with such and such, it subconsciously confirms to them that you weren't worth befriending in the first place - uncool by association. Fortunately, the friends you do make (if any, that is!) are the ones that last, and I made a small but tight circle of friends in high school, even if we were the losers.
in elementary school, I was literally friendless for about 3 years and I realize now how seriously depressed I was around those times. It took me until the past year or two to get over what I experienced way back when I was a kid. I even felt shameful of my hearing loss until about midway through high school, and I'm still not very good when it comes to self advocacy.