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I think that your perception of "mental illness" very much follows the medical model. In that model, such an illness is indeed something to be cured. In the medical model of disabilities, deafness is also something wrong, something broken, to be cured. I know many Deafies who disagree with the idea that their deafness is something broken or to be cured. It really is all a question of perception.
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Hadn't thought about your point before. Now I need to think more about it.
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Some people have told their family and friends, others haven't. Many people with BIID have strong feeling of shame and guilt associated to it, and it is hard to tell. Also, for some people, they kept this hidden from their family for so long that telling them now would show a breach of trust, so it is not really possible.
I myself have told my parents, who don't understand it, nor do they accept it. They are dealing not only with the fact I have BIID, but with the fact of their own negative prejudice against disabilities in general. I suppose it is not easy on any parents to learn their kids has something like this and would be easy for them to feel guilty, to think they've done something wrong. My parents have indeed done many wrong things, but I don't believe they are the cause of my BIID. I have told many of my friends also, with more or less success. I have promised myself to tell the truth with anyone I become significantly involved with romantically. I have currently been together with the same woman for several years and it was one of the first things I told her about me when I saw it was turning out to be serious. There are many ups and downs with it.
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Seems hard. If I had a kid who wanted to remove a leg, I would struggle about this and try therapy to change him. But now with your comparison with deaf I don't know. I always think a kid should decide on CIs, not parents because CI destroys hearing. Should a kid decide on BIID? I don't know.
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My earliest memory goes back to age 3 or 4. That is, my earliest memory about anything, and it also happens to be my earliest memory related to BIID.
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Wow. Thank you for sharing.
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It's hard to say, really. Ten years ago, there weren't many people who knew about it, and there weren't many people in the "wannabe" circles.
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Are "wannabes" different than people with BIID or same?
[QUOTE=wylz;857732]It should in fact have been written transvestic fetishism. It is somewhat adult related, but I don't believe the explanation is x-rated or innapropriate for youths.
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Transvestic is related to transvestism, which is generally understood as someone wearing clothes of the opposite gender. Generally guys dressing up as women, because for some strange reasons it's ok for women to wear men's clothes in our society, but not the other way around! Fetishism is having a fetish for, or being inordinately sexually attracted by something. So transvestic fetishism would be to be turned on by guys who wear women's clothing (that is a very broad definition, of course).
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It is: A man "Joe" wears womans clothing and he finds wearing it sexy? Or a man "Bob" finds Joe wearing womans clothing sexy?
Thank you for replies. I know I am asking too many questions!
