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Originally Posted by Kaitin
Honest, I don't understand. Can someone please explain more why you want to be disabled? Or need - as the first page said? I don't mean to be arguing, offensive, or negative, but I am confused. What is the need? Attention? Low expectation? Help? Pity? Being different than others? Something about wheelchairs? Again - sincere questions and without meaning to be unfriendly.
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I think most of us welcome sincere questions from people who want to understand.
It is very difficult to understand. The only thing I can say is that, for me, it is a question of being myself. Like I was born in the wrong body.
It is not about attention. For a while, I thought it was about that, but realised that I would prefer to be paralysed and alone than to receive the positive attention of thousands of people. Besides, the attention you get as a person with a disability in our society tends to be negative attention, not something we want.
It is not about low expectations. If anything, someone with a disability has to be an over-achiever in this society of ours.
It is not about needing or wanting help. I just want to go about my business, without anymore (or any less) help from people than anyone else. I just want to be paralysed.
It is not about pity. Piss on pity.
It is not about being different than others. It is about being myself. Others do not come into play in this equation.
It is not about wheelchairs. Many people with BIID are not "into" wheelchairs. Many people with BIID need to be a leg amputee, and never even think about using a wheelchairs. Others need to be blind, or deaf (and I ain't saying Deaf either, because it's not about being part of a "culture").
The fact is, we can't really tell you why, or where it comes from, or what the reason for it is. There probably isn't one single reason for it, but a mix of many. There haven't been a lot of studies about the origins of BIID. It just is.
I hope this answers your questions, if not, please don't hesitate to ask more.