Originally Posted by shel90
Yep, I get those comments although recently it hasn't been as annoying as before. Only thing I hate about it is that it gives hearing people the false impression that I can hear better than I really do so they would start speaking while turned away or speak too fast. I just hate it when they continue to do it after reminding them a few times. That's when my frustration level goes up a few notches.
Growing up, I had so many teachers and aduts tell me that because I speak so well, I must be smart as if there was a correlation between my intelligence and speaking skills. That lead me to believe for an extremely long time that if I didn't have perfect speech, I am not as smart as they claimed. That caused my paranoia about having perfect speech. It took therapy to get over it and realize that one had nothing to do with the other. That I REALLLY DID NOT appreciate!!
It was probably intended as a compliment, but is was a callous one, because it was given without much thought to its implications. As a hearing person, that's something for me to learn from all these things... keep the value judgements to myself, unless there's no way to misunderstand it.