Originally Posted by InTheGenes

Your post spoke in volumes about three things: fear, shame, and repressed sexuality.

Straight men feel threatened because every bathroom they go in, gay men are going to look at them lustfully? Are you kidding me? When I go to the restroom, I am there to take a crap, take a piss, or wash my hands. End of story. Why is it that gay people can't do ANYTHING without someone thinking that we're on the prowl? That is your neurosis at work, not our problem.

Are you suggesting there be different bathrooms for gay and straight people? Or perhaps gay people don't deserve to use public restroom facilities at all. Better we use our own toilets at home, and leave the public facilities to you poor defenseless straight people, huh? Gimme a break, that's just silly.

Yes, it's true, gay people admire members of their own sex, just as straight people admire members of the opposite sex. There's such a thing as propriety, however. Just because I might find someone attractive, doesn't mean that I'm going to jump his bones the moment he stands next to me at a public urinal. You must watch too much Queer As Folk.

(And for the record, my experience has been that some guys - regardless of their sexuality - check one another out from time to time. This mostly happened a lot during junior high and high school, when everyone was trying to see how they "measured up". This doesn't seem much different to me than women comparing their chests to one another.)

I'm sorry that watching straight people kissing distresses you so much. Again, that's your problem. The only problem I have with it is that I wish gay people had the freedom to do it, too. Other than that, I see nothing wrong with two people in love expressing their feelings for one another by kissing one another in public. Sure, there's such a thing as public lewdness, and it can certainly go too far... but just kissng? What is it about it that bothers you?

You were embarassed to be seen in public when pregnant because people then knew that you'd had sex? Good grief! Again, that's your personal shame at work. Sex is natural, and is nothing to be ashamed of. My guess is you were brought up to think that sex was bad? Be thankful that you're able to have children!