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Old 01-22-2007, 07:36 PM   #71 (permalink)
shel90
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Originally Posted by Cheri View Post
How can some of you sit here and tell us who we shouldn't be married to? If you don't want to marry a hearing person, then don't. I don't even care about the cultures, My world doesn't involved in only the deaf world to begin with, just because I'm deaf does that mean I have to be very involvement with it's culture. You see, what ticks me off the most about some deaf people, Their behaviors and attitudes towards hearing people just rubs me the wrong way. Communication along with hearing and deaf is not the issue here, there's many many hearing people out there that knows sign language, some do have most fluent signing skills.

Higher percent of divorce along in hearing and deaf marriage is full of crap. I don't buy it or believe it. It's all in your heads. It only falls in categories with deaf/hearing marriage is when a deaf person signs ONLY!, and expects their hearing partner to sign only to them. It doesn't work that way, You have to go half way, the other spouse goes half way. It isn't all about "you, me" that's kind of attitudes I see along in some deaf people. It's very disappointing too.

I socialize with both worlds while some of you deaf attitudes socialize with only the deaf world. It's not my problem, it's yours alone. Just because you're deaf, you think that's the only world you should socialize with is Deaf world? You're deaf for a reason, just like who people were born with disabled for a reason, that doesn't mean they have to stick in their little world and have it's own culture. It's pathetic, sorry to say it.

I don't need to marry someone out of similarity of backgrounds as mine, I marry someone out of love, if someone is who I've been searching for all my life, weather he's hearing, deaf, hard of hearing, that person is my destiny for life, that who I shall marry.

Enough said by me.
Right I agree with u.

The two friends of mine whose hearing husband who arent willing to learn to sign can read lips and speak. They have told me that if their husbands would be willing to learn some sign language and meet them half way, there will be a lot less miscommunication and less stress since their husbands get mad at them often for not being able to understand them fully.

My hearing husband is not fully fluent in ASL so I have to use my voice with him when talking to him cuz he can not understand me if I do not voice with him. The same goes for me if he doesnt sign and use his voice only. I cant read his lips at all! So I think we are a pretty good example of meeting each other half-way and it works for us.
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