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Originally Posted by Taylor
Liebling,
You bring up some excellent points but if I could disagree with one thing. One problem with teens today (as you and others have pointed out) is being naive. A young girl *thinks* she is in love and feels that she is in love. If a boy says 'I love you' to her, she takes it with all sincerity and will have sex with him. Unfortunately, to counter this is learned through life experience and isn't necessarily something that parents (or teachers) can. If a girl is 14 and a boy says "I Love You" it means the world to her. Take that same girl but she is 30, "I Love You" takes on a totally different meaning.
And unfortunately, the adults that go after young girls prey upon this. The whole "I will take care of you", "I have strong feelings for you", "I would never hurt you", "You mean the world to me". This is powerful stuff when an adult says it to a young girl, and adults use that as an advantage.
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I must say this is absolutely true.
When I was sixteen, I had a mad-crush on a guy. Ironically, it was a cop.
*ahem*
Anyway, as someone who had prior abuse in her life, it meant the *world* to me that this guy paid any attention to me at all. He was nice. He was curteous. He DIDN'T pressure me for anything I didn't want to do, but from an emotional standpoint, it was exactly like that. This guy made me feel special. He made me feel wanted. He made me feel loved, if you can call it that. I was sixteen, and I fell for it hook, line, and sinker.
Looking back, I am quite lucky this guy was honorable. Otherwise, I could have been an victim again so easily. Just because I was SO very naive. I also had alot of emotional issues stemming from my abuse that would have made me easy prey.
Many times, kids aren't so lucky, and the "mad crush", or whomever, isn't honorable. That's how kids get hurt.