Again, I am very sorry that you feel this an 'argument.' I simply cannot fathom why the statement "I disagree" is so very provocative. And yet, I am going to say it again. <preparing for the fire> It is not at all helpful to say to someone who is ASKING for clarification and WANTS to understand: 'I am unwilling to help you understand because you aren't exactly like me. You CANNOT understand until you are.' That is, essentially saying that no-one can ever understand anyone who is different in any way. (And, I would argue, leads to a further conclusion that the Deaf can never understand the Hearing and make statements about WHY they are rude/inconsiderate. Which I find nonsensical. But, this line of thinking seems to support it.) How very painful and sad. That is akin to saying that I should not read about diabetes or histoplasmosis or the Israel / Palestine conflict or the various theories on homelessness. I should not be curious about these things, or meet people affected by them, or ask said people about these things. I should not ask WHY? Because I will never have any understanding until I am a diabetic, homeless, arab-israeli.
And here I am talking again. Darn. <backing out slowly, hands in the air, complete disappointment on face> Enjoy your venting.