"Well to top it off my mother came home and was even commenting on my parenting. Finally, I just looked at her and said - "You know what, since I'm such a crappy mother, I'm done!" Then she turned around and said "You checked out as a mother a long time ago!"
If my mother had said this to me I would said " I am a product of your upbringing and if you think I failed as mother then that mean you did too!"
It really is hard having parents that aren't there for you and do not understand what it like being HOH. I know it had to really hurt having your mother say something so cruel, but do not let it become between and your kids. I hope you'll be able to find a nice apartment and get a break from your family.
I moved 3,000 miles to get some space from my family! Do do have a very big family right here on AllDeaf.