Originally Posted by AmandaBarr
Hello, I am new to the forum and need some advice. I am the first time parent of a 3 year old who has bilateral cochlear implants. She is horriblely delayed in her speech and language, she is at about a 13 months old level. I know that this will develop in time, but its seems like most days we are going to war with each other. I know she gets frustrated that we "don't understand" each other and chooses to have complete meltdowns. I am looking for advice or tips that have helped parents in this situation.
It sound like you are forcing your 3 year old daughter to talk with speech therapy and making the child understand language. It is not normal for you and your child to be at war with each other because the parent usually are not listening to your child's need
and finding out why she is rebelling against you. You have to remember that CIs (Cochlear Implants) are just tools for her to hear sound but not be able to understand speech like listening like a normal hearing child. That is why we have been telling hearing parents that we don't hear like you hear as we hear differently instead of having a normal hearing. You must accept her hearing loss no matter what and I demand that you learn to sign ASL as it will help your child visually understand sign language better than orally. I do hope you understand what I am trying to say here. Just please stay with us and learn about deafness and our deaf and hard of hearing experiences of growing up. You will learn a lot about in many other topics in our forum. So don't go away. Welcome. See you around.